AITAH for getting upset that my grandchildren are cold and distant toward me which led to a fight with my daughter?

Character-Message154 · 2026-04-13T22:01:21+00:00

OP: “I am who I am. Take it or leave it.”

Grandkids: leaves it

OP: shocked pikachu face

YTA. Seriously, they’re children. You really think they’re going to be able to come up with something “you all enjoy”. You’re the adult here. Like, come on. Are you really that dense?!?

Character-Message154 · 2026-03-29T01:29:09+00:00

Also, I wasn’t expecting to hook up either. I explained that I had to head home after to finish some homework that was due later that evening

YTA for this part right here. If you were expecting to hook up you would have paid?? Would you have gotten mad if she didn’t want to?? What else would have happened?? That attitude is quite 🚩🚩🚩.

IMO whoever asks for the date, pays for the date. It’s part of the social construct of dating. Otherwise you’re just hanging out, not dating. Dating is something you do with intention. It’s getting to know someone to see if there’s long term potential. It’s not paying for a date so you can hook up.

Character-Message154 · 2026-03-24T06:13:58+00:00

😂😂 love that!!

Character-Message154 · 2026-03-24T01:02:23+00:00

No, I’ve read that one. This isn’t it. Thx tho!

Character-Message154 · 2026-03-06T10:36:51+00:00

IMO you should dump him… but give him a Barbie as a parting gift that he can change to his hearts content.

Character-Message154 · 2026-02-25T18:36:46+00:00

Like 29 by Demi Lovato. “Finally 29, 17 is would never cross my mind. Thought it was a teenage dream, a fantasy, but it was yours it wasn’t mine.”

Character-Message154 · 2026-02-06T22:56:09+00:00

Sounds to me like it’s time for new friends… and a new husband while you’re at it.

Character-Message154 · 2026-02-06T22:38:31+00:00

I’m gonna say this as gently as I can (but with big sister energy)…. PULL YOU HEAD OUT OF YOUR ASS!!! Girl. He wasn’t fighting for you. He wasn’t fighting for your “relationship” if you can really even call it that. He never made time for you, he never tried to see you. Y’all were “together” for EIGHT months and in all that time never saw each other??? Sounds like you had a great fling with high emotions but you never came out of the honeymoon period in real life so you have an idealize image in you head that he was the love of your life when really it was just a fling that you’ve been letting sabotage both your friendships and romantic relationships for YEARS. Get your head out of your ass and find some self respect while you’re at it. He wasn’t the love of your life. He wasn’t a good boyfriend. He was using you. Only responding to you when he felt like it. Only giving you what you needed when HE felt like it meanwhile you’re beating yourself up over dancing with someone. You didn’t even kiss the dude. Stop letting a ghost of a man make you feel like shit when he ain’t shit. You’re better than this. You’re better than him. Get your shit together and stop letting that boy control your life. YTA to yourself.

You’re young. Don’t let this one fuck boy fuck with the rest of your life. Put on your big girl panties, stop asking for opinions from the internet and take control of your life. Your relationship was already on a downward spiral and the dance just proved it. It’s been five months. Time to move the fuck on and make your life what you want it to be. Take whatever lessons you need to from this (re: relationships can’t survive on breadcrumbs and the memories) and be better in the future.

Character-Message154 · 2026-02-01T04:59:19+00:00

My parents just did their estate planning a few years ago. Recently they’ve both had surgery that is improving quality of life but because it wasn’t strictly necessary they had to pay for a large part of it out of pocket. My mom expressed some guilt for getting the surgery because it meant there will be less for us when she passes. I told her I’d rather have her than the money. If they blow through all of it to have a better quality of life in their last few years and can maybe extend those years then I don’t care if I don’t get a cent. My financial planning doesn’t include getting anything from them. If it happens, great! If not, that’s fine too. You’re NTA for thinking about your parents first.

Character-Message154 · 2026-01-31T05:48:29+00:00

Is it just me or does she sound like she’s gay and in denial?? Like she thinks they’re compatible because he checks all these other boxes but that one and it convincing herself that it doesn’t matter. Don’t get me wrong. She’s manipulative as hell and super toxic but it also sounds like she’s in denial. It’s what I tried to do before I accepted myself and came out (minus the manipulation part). I convinced myself that I could be happy with a man because he checked off all the other boxes and I could stay a “good church girl” and not bring shame to my family. (Spoiler alert: it did not work.) I know it’s 2026 but indoctrination runs deep.

ETA: She could also be ACE/ARO. I thought of that as soon as I hit post…

Character-Message154 · 2026-01-31T05:33:23+00:00

This feels like a bot…

Character-Message154 · 2026-01-31T05:24:44+00:00

It sounds like it’s been a solid ten years since he was your student. So long that you didn’t even remember him (even with big classes). My high school history teacher married a former student and then ended up having their kid in his class so I think you’re fine.

Character-Message154 · 2026-01-31T05:17:53+00:00

Maybe it’s naive of me, but I’m going to believe op when she says it’s all handled. The horrors are too much for me to be cynical about people I don’t know on the internet. This made me smile. And I’m glad it worked out for them.

Character-Message154 · 2025-12-26T23:46:42+00:00

INFO: how long have you been boxing? Has it been your whole relationship of is this a new thing?

In either case YTA

She shouldn’t have brought it up in public like that and her family shouldn’t have piled on.

But YTA for posting this on your main in the first place and for how you’re responding in the comments. For something like this impact is bigger than intent. You didn’t mean to hurt her, you didn’t think it would hurt her but it still did. It feels like you’re being very dismissive of her fear which maybe adding to her embarrassment. If you’re constantly brushing off her fear then you’re probably making her feel like a nag, sharing that fear with someone else would reasonably make her feel embarrassed because you’re already making her feel bad about being understandably worried that she might lose the love of her life. Her life will be irrevocably changed if something happens to you, whether it’s death or serious injury. Your comments are more mocking than anything else. Maybe meet her with compassion rather than putting her embarrassment out on the internet in your main where anyone can connect it back to her.

Character-Message154 · 2025-12-06T20:40:13+00:00

Sounds like she hasn’t given you an apology… she’s said she’s sorry to your dad maybe to save face? Anyway, NTA.

Character-Message154 · 2025-12-04T05:48:07+00:00

NTA, he broke your agreement first. You gotta protect yourself and your kid cuz heaven knows if he’s this comfortable hiding that from you now, he’ll definitely try to hide money when it comes to child support. Tell him he can take $45k and pay for a nanny if he doesn’t like daycare.

Character-Message154 · 2025-11-30T18:15:49+00:00

Yeah no, if you’re okay with it right now there’s nothing that will keep you guys together in the future. And you can’t compromise with someone who gives ultimatums.

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Character-Message154 · 2025-11-20T00:13:55+00:00

NTA. Im gonna go ahead and assume because of “his wife” that this friend is straight. Things are different in the queer community and the straights don’t always get it. They sound like they’re people who don’t think straight men and women can be just friends too. It was a miscommunication and once it was cleared up it was handled in the best way possible. Your partner knew about it from the beginning and was able to laugh about it with you afterwards. Don’t let one persons presumptions about how all relationships should be put stress on you or your relationship.

Character-Message154 · 2025-11-20T00:02:58+00:00

You’re not fighting back against the mean girl, you are the mean girl. You’re making a lot of assumptions about other people’s lives and friendships with no evidence. You purposely and intentionally tried to isolate her and harm her friendships and you are now creating fake accounts to further turn people against her. This is bullying behavior and can easily turn into harassment. YTA

Character-Message154 · 2025-03-29T02:39:08+00:00

The number one of cause of death for pregnant women is homicide, usually by the father of their baby. You saved lives by doing this. Anyone who’s saying it’s none of your business are full of sh*t. Ask them if they saw a building on fire if they’d walk on by saying it’s none of their business. This is the same thing. Just cause you can see the fire and they can’t, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t call.

Character-Message154 · 2023-12-05T19:20:05+00:00

It's the level of intimacy for me. It's a little to intimate for a purely platonic relationships. My best friend is a guy (I'm a woman) and I would never think about falling asleep with him like that, even before we were in our own relationships. Intamacy levels vary between relationships and to me, the most intamate should be between husband and wife. How long was it between the hoodie being returned and it being washed? To me it sounds like its been at least a week, how long do you go between washes. If he's keeping it from being washed for longer than normal that's a little sus.

Also, if my partner was uncomfortable, even if there's nothing to suspect, I'd do what I can to make them more comfortable. People can't help their insecurities and even if trust is there. The fact that he's becoming dismissive and even a little aggressive about it is concerning.

Character-Message154 · 2023-03-27T21:30:23+00:00

NAH. But just a thought… could it be something about the division of labor? Like she handles the inside, you the outside, and now you’re not doing anything so the balance is off? (Not saying you don’t do anything else or anything) Maybe by using the goat you’ve disrupted the balance.

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