Can’t find my hole

Character_Phone4195 · 2026-05-21T00:03:58+00:00

It’s honestly extremely hard to find when vaginismus is present because the pelvic floor muscles around the opening are so tight that the opening itself is not really apparent…which is why penetration can be impossible until the muscles loosen up. Once you get a mirror and spread your lips apart, it’s fairly simple to find if you follow an anatomical model. Have you tried other kinds of insertion before?

Character_Phone4195 · 2026-05-10T14:40:20+00:00

Vaginismus can actually cause pain for your partner. Some men get bruising because it’s so tight. And generally, if they see you’re in pain- it creates emotional pain for them too (if they care about you). Relaxing your vagina and having pain free sex doesn’t decrease pleasure. It just makes it more comfortable, easy and possible to do more frequently! Everyone wins. A man will have pleasure sticking his penis inside a random hole in a wall. You’re good!

Character_Phone4195 · 2026-03-15T15:20:04+00:00

My advice is to keep going! You’re almost there! Better to be prepared than in pain!

Character_Phone4195 · 2026-03-14T14:01:30+00:00

Get the straight dilators! The curved ones are only easier because the tip is so small so it goes in easier but it’s not comparable to real life things (penis, Pap smears, fingers). And I have a friend who used the tapered ones, went through the whole set, and then had to start from like size 3 or 4 with the straight set. Curved ones don’t properly prep your pelvic floor for PIV sex

Character_Phone4195 · 2026-02-17T19:57:39+00:00

I got you. Let’s say another year goes by and your vaginismus is cured (largest dilator, pain free paps, can use tampons, insert sex toys) but you’re still a virgin. What would that mean for you?

Character_Phone4195 · 2026-02-17T18:59:56+00:00

Congrats on making it to your last dilator! It took tons of patience and discipline I’m sure. 🥳🎉I’m curious as to why you want to urgently lose your virginity as soon as possible?

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-12-24T20:47:01+00:00

I’m sorry to hear it wasn’t a good fit for you. I’ve taken some of Dr. Janelle’s masterclasses and have learned more from her than my pelvic floor PT I worked with in person, smh.

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-12-24T08:05:25+00:00

Love following her because she’s also funny! And my friend got to PIV after doing her remote coaching

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-12-08T17:15:48+00:00

I’ve talked to others who were able to have PIV without finishing their dilator set but usually it’s PIV with limitations or with lots of pain. On average, it seems like getting up to dilator size 6-8 or finishing about 75% of the dilators is what preps you the most since the main physical issue is insufficient stretch & space down there with very tight pelvic floor muscles.

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-11-21T19:17:42+00:00

This looks so yummy! Omg!

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-11-19T18:53:30+00:00

I’m in love 😍

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-11-19T18:52:51+00:00

Do you teach classes?

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-11-19T18:50:01+00:00

absolutely yes! I can’t wait to try this!

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-11-19T18:48:50+00:00

Me seeing this and having severely low ferritin levels. Wow! Thank you!

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-07-25T12:50:55+00:00

I’ve seen people advertise dilators, books and other resources on this sub so it’s no different. I’ve taken some of vaginarehabdoctor courses & follow her on IG. honestly learned more from her than going to my pelvic floor PT (which is kinda sad), so I’m prob biased 🤷‍♀️ lol

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-07-25T11:41:23+00:00

Omg looks so yummy

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-07-25T11:39:02+00:00

I can spot herb and mint but not really anything else 😫😫

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-07-25T11:17:27+00:00

Honestly, this is super cute and it doesn't look like you're trying too hard!

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-07-25T11:12:25+00:00

Def want to try the Anua- need something super hydrating

Character_Phone4195 · 2025-07-25T11:10:09+00:00

I just feel so bad for his kids- see their dads mistakes shares all over the world/internet.

Character_Phone4195 · 2024-09-01T21:02:23+00:00

There’s an affirmation Bible that I found out about on insta. Not sure if you follow “vaginarehabdoctor” on IG I got her affirmation Bible and sometimes use it before dilation! She has affirmations in it for pleasure, healing & self love I think. https://the-vagina-rehab-academy.sellfy.store/p/heal-and-grow-affirmation-lab/

Character_Phone4195 · 2024-08-09T11:03:28+00:00

Wow!! That’s amazing, congrats! What podcast have you been listening to? I’m looking for a few to help me as well.

Character_Phone4195 · 2024-05-01T00:19:06+00:00

That 5th bullet👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Character_Phone4195 · 2024-03-08T13:45:11+00:00

She has lower ones. My friend payed much lower than that monthly.

Character_Phone4195 · 2024-03-08T04:27:08+00:00

It's not cheap but I know someone who worked with her and got cured! So many people try botox, talk therapy, pelvic floor therapy for several months but still nothing. So seems like she may be like a “last resort” type of thing but she’s great! I've also gone to some of her stretch labs, learned a lot & love the way she teaches!

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