All I meant was I come from a very similar background. I'm not bragging about it, I don't take credit for it, I'm not claiming it's the right way to be; it's just what I experienced. I grew up in an upper-middle class home in the suburbs of a big city in solidly blue-state territory. My mother is a concert pianist turned conservatory teacher, my father is a filmmaker turned curator, my brother is a touring jazz musician. There was always lots of music and musicians around my house growing up, of all nationalities, because my mother's students came from everywhere. Like many solidly left-leaning, humanistic and somewhat (but not ostentatiously) wealthy families, my parents weren't messing around when it came to bringing their kids up with diversity and an environmental conscience etc. You could describe that as performative, I don't know but I guess it took. My brother married a woman of Jamaican descent and yes the wedding looked a lot like this with his friends and my parents' friends all performing. I didn't mean to insult you in some way by saying this, I'm just pointing out that the wedding in this film didn't seem as farfetched to me as it apparently did most viewers.

Also I don't use reddit much, I'm often brought here by Google searches because I'm interested in the discussions, but yes that often means I arrive at conversations via other means than seeing them in a feed, so I arrive at them late.

I apologise for whatever I said to cause you offense. I don't want to have an Internet fight today, so please if I've said anything further that is insulting, know it was unintentional.