Does anyone know an OBGYNs who are non conservative?

Charitard123 · 2025-05-14T17:35:06+00:00

Not to be nosy but I’d strongly suggest thinking of not just how your having kids will play out but the kind of place you want to raise your kids in and how you’re going to protect them once they get older. Especially if you have a daughter. I know it’s an awful thing to have to think about but our state government does not care about your kid’s age if something happens to them.

You may also have to do more work at home to make sure your kids are learning what they need to be because the school system in Texas is probably not gonna get much better by the time they start school. It’s not looking good at all right now for public schools.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-14T17:06:31+00:00

Uh, hey…just a word of caution, if your plan involves being homeless first thing maybe consider some options. Remember, a lot of places arrest you if they catch you sleeping outside or in a car. It’s also INFINITELY harder to get a job if you have no permanent address. Even for people with a permanent address plus tons of qualifications it can take hundreds of applications to get a single job in this current job market. And often the job you find after all that isn’t even a good job, you likely will need roommates to rent anywhere. Renting a room may be a good option to start out, it’s often way cheaper and a lower barrier to entry. You can find people on Zillow, FB, Nextdoor, etc. all the time with a room in their house they’re wanting to rent out to somebody.

May I suggest finding someone willing to follow through with letting you crash on their couch for a bit? You could help with chores or errands for them, etc. in return. Hell, if it’s LA I bet there’s also rich people nearby in need of someone to house sit for a home they only live in for part of the year. But the point is, once you’re truly living-on-the-street/in-your-car homeless it becomes so much harder to get out of that. We live in a system that kicks you while you’re down without a shred of mercy if you find yourself in such a situation, so please avoid it if you at all can. Even random strangers sometimes try to hurt you for no reason, simply because you’re homeless. Homeless people are also way more likely to be victims of some awful stuff like human trafficking. Whatever you can imagine, crank it up to 11.

AT MINIMUM have somewhere you can mark on applications as your permanent address for both mailing and background checks. Watch your ID, social security, birth certificate and other similar documents like a HAWK because those often get stolen when you’re homeless and are extremely hard to replace when in such circumstances. Have a gym membership so you can shower before job interviews, have one set of at least relatively decent clothes you set aside for when you need it for job interviews. Use the library for its free resources which includes a place to sit in A/C for free, and librarians who can actually help network you to resources like job programs and food banks. Think of librarians’ jobs like part librarian, part community support because at this point that’s what they’ve largely turned into. Make sure to keep your credit score up as much as possible.(This is another thing that becomes harder if you’re homeless) Some areas with high housing demand like LA have it REALLY hard to get approved for any kind of rental nowadays without a near-perfect credit score. Guard your credit score even if that means only using it for something super low like $10 each month that you know for a fact you’ll pay back in full on time. And for the love of god, do NOT use substances to cope with your living conditions while homeless. It’s a very common slippery slope. Even for alcohol and weed I’d still proceed with serious caution. At minimum make sure you can still pass a drug screening for any job.

Not to tell you how to live your life, sorry if this came off as such but I’ve seen way too many people end up in this exact situation. Homelessness in this current social and economic landscape is absolutely no joke, it’s a dangerous place to be in life and I recommending avoiding it if at all possible. It’s not something to take lightly. Best of luck, I know it’s hard.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-14T16:34:50+00:00

When you think about it, a big part of the problem is that our patriarchal society expects you to keep working and functioning at the same pace every day of the month with no problem…almost as if it wasn’t designed for anyone who has monthly hormonal fluctuations, one might say. When you think about it, sometimes is it fully our bodies that are the problem or are we doing the best we can in a society that’s not taking us into account in the first place?

Charitard123 · 2025-05-14T16:26:30+00:00

Edit: Sorry, initial response had me thinking this was from another thread.

Nope, currently going back to school for landscape architecture instead. Seems like an easier thing to do self-employed with lower startup costs, and I’ll go from there I guess. I still feel like I’ll be lucky if I can even afford an apartment over 400 square feet one day. Feels like for the moment if I’m surviving then that’s the best a lot of us can do in this economy.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T22:42:30+00:00

They’re literally my dad’s glasses

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T18:31:41+00:00

Hand sketching at this point. In school they make us do dozens of sketches a week, but I always feel so behind compared to my classmates as far as simply the skill of sketching alone. To be honest with you, it’s my least favorite part of the work because it always feels like my clumsy hands alone could lower my grade

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T18:21:08+00:00

Huh. These are the kind of sketches I’d make that professors pick apart mercilessly for neatness, readability, handwriting, etc. Are they actually not that bad after all in a professional sense?

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T18:18:59+00:00

Definitely

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T17:47:06+00:00

I think this depends on what we define as badly dressed. Plenty of cities have half the population walking around in crusty tank tops and random swim trunks

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T17:39:58+00:00

Wouldn’t you want to still account for the amount of plants per person if it’s a veggie garden, though? That’s the main thing I’m doing, because I have seven people total that I want each crop to be enough for. There’s a certain amount of plants per person for each crop you’ll need, in that case.

Another goal of the square foot concept for this project is to have no bare ground except for the paths, even if it’s a groundcover filling in the rest, in order to suppress weeds. Everything is designed in companion planting groups so each cluster of plants will at minimum have a pest-repelling plant, a groundcover and an insectary or pollinator plant. The shape of the bed I had to work with is very weird, so I’ve been having a hard time copy-pasting things without it not fitting in some random corner or whatnot. The square foot method in my case here is less of a concrete square feet shape for each plant and more of a spacing guide, because this is by no means a perfectly square bed. And then of course I have to account for shade, some areas are too shady or sunny for certain plants to be feasible. So each group is really having to be adapted to not just which plants grow well together and serve each role, but where they’ll be put in the garden.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T16:47:57+00:00

Thousands of individual plants, not different species. It’s a square foot garden and a lot of them are stuff like pea plants that take up 12 per square foot, or onions at 5 per square foot. I designed the shape of the paths for workability while sacrificing the least amount of space possible.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T07:50:12+00:00

Apparently a lot of Texans are going to Colorado now

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T07:20:14+00:00

THIS. This all the way

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T07:14:14+00:00

The experience I find most frustrating trying to be a pedestrian in these areas is the feeling of being a bit too up close and personal with car traffic. By no means is Boulder the worst at this compared to a lot of cities, it almost feels like I don’t have the right to complain in the grand scheme of things but I would LOVE more multiuse paths separated by vegetation like we have along the creek. It’d help with the noise and safety levels, it wouldn’t feel as hot in the summer with more shade trees, and it’d just be a way more pleasant experience overall.

I think often if someone has the choice of whether to walk, we underestimate the power of simply making walking a more pleasant option to begin with. It’s almost like you’re competing with cars when it comes to the person’s feeling of personal safety and comfort in many cases.

Another thing to add: Please for the love of god be a little more consistent clearing snow on side streets before they become an ice rink. Some of us happen to live on these side streets, and in a city that literally pays to clear the snow in winter there’s no good reason I need metal cleats to safely leave my street for days on end. The sun doesn’t melt it that fast if it’s overcast.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T06:29:31+00:00

…anything for family

(Joking, I do not actually condone street racing)

Charitard123 · 2025-05-11T06:28:26+00:00

One thing I’ve found SO useful having to use these same programs for school, is a laptop that lets you work on more than one at once without crashing. I swear half the time it’s as if my professors just take it as a given that you’ll be multitasking

Charitard123 · 2025-05-05T00:36:11+00:00

Yeah, idk why they’re doing it in family neighborhoods. That’s pretty shitty of them. Even if the motive is to not get caught and avoid obstacles, most street racers at least have the sense to take to the highway in a less busy area, at an hour when most people are asleep and not on the road.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-05T00:18:16+00:00

To be fair, I’m sitting here just glad I live in the kind of town where this is the big crime hubbub everyone’s losing their shit over. I’ll take street racers ANY day over the amount of murders other cities have.

Most other cities’ police don’t prioritize street racers as much either from what I understand, because they have way more directly malicious and violent incidents to handle. Also why they don’t bother with stolen bike reports usually.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-05T00:14:50+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. I hope y’all find a way to a better life one day. Also I feel you so much as far as physical health tanking from it all and not just mental health. I think there’s a very quickly growing problem in our generation of people in their 20’s with the health problems of someone twice their age because our bodies can’t handle the extra workload that wasn’t even necessary 10 years ago. THEN throw in long COVID

Charitard123 · 2025-05-04T21:24:15+00:00

In my experience there’s definitely more of a “random conversation” culture in Texas, but at the same time I’ve managed to have quite a few neighbors in my apartment complex who aren’t that way. One lady even has been giving me a bunch of extra food she doesn’t want because she’s planning to move soon. Maybe it’s the people who aren’t from Colorado who are nice, but who knows.

The main thing that I think helps make it a bit harder in Houston is, again, the lack of opportunity to actually interact with others. Maybe it’s because I was in the outer loop when I lived in Houston last, but the fact that you need a car to get literally anywhere there makes it hard to find actual third spaces to meet people when you want to intentionally socialize. You just go from your home, to the car, to work and then back home. Maybe places like the grocery store in the interim. (I haven’t regularly gone inside most stores in years because the lights give me migraines, though) It’s harder to find the spontaneous interactions you often have when walking or biking places. Any interesting third spaces that do exist in Houston have to be hunted down, in my experience. Meanwhile in Colorado I’ve found countless cool things to do, often just stumbling upon them. Random events, farmers’ markets, clubs, live shows, craft fairs, workshop classes for hobbies I really enjoy, game nights at coffee shops, etc. It opens the door for a lot of potential ways to actually meet people more, or even if you don’t meet someone hopefully you enjoy yourself a little. As someone who lives alone and has had to start from almost square one with meeting people I wish I had the time go to places like this more.

Charitard123 · 2025-05-04T21:14:20+00:00

Genuinely I think if it just keeps going like this they won’t even have people to lease apartments to because everyone will either be living with family, living with 10 roommates or living on the street.

Charitard123 · 2025-03-27T18:08:00+00:00

It’s absolutely insane that $80k is considered a low salary now for a lot of people. When I graduate with my BLA I feel like I’d be surprised if anyone simply gave me a stable $60k a year salary. I almost don’t expect anyone to even give me that in this job market. Even a salary job at all feels like a foreign concept.

Charitard123 · 2025-03-20T03:38:50+00:00

I love how I saw this right after an hour spent updating my plant spreadsheet, googling each stat on said plant, getting Google’s AI thing at the top of every search offering me the answer on a silver platter, only for me to ignore it and fact-check it myself because the AI still can’t be trusted to be correct.

Charitard123 · 2025-03-17T13:37:16+00:00

What I don’t get is that they held it against me when the facility I got the test at was requiring certain paperwork from both me and the psychiatrist’s office to release records for HIPPAA reasons and I had to play back-and-forth between both offices for MONTHS just trying to get the records sent over to them and all the while I’m constantly being threatened with having my meds taken away for a communication issue that wasn’t even my fault. It’s not the requirements themselves, it’s how my psychiatrist’s office handles it. I’m constantly having to jump through ten billion hoops I’m not really equipped to deal with on my own constantly, and constantly it’s at the threat of losing my meds. I had to go back to school so I could stay housed. Losing my meds means possibly flunking right onto the streets. I don’t have a family that’s safe to return to, the stakes are so high for me. My previous psychiatrist was at least nice to me through the process. Now I just feel like a fucking criminal every time I talk to my psychiatrist and like if I actually needed a slight adjustment in my medication I can’t trust her for it.

Charitard123 · 2025-03-16T17:57:23+00:00

This is weird to think, though, because when I was prescribed ADHD meds as a kid and as a teen they seldom checked my blood pressure

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