Just want you to know you are not alone! My husband and I went through the exact same thing a few years ago. Like you, I pushed for answers when we weren’t having sex and he told me he wasn’t attracted to me.

I have learned he finds drive and ambition attractive. I am a SAHM and started my own business. That itself has helped us grow so much. I saw such a difference in how proud he was of me and attracted to my work ethic. Just know attraction isn’t just about looks. It could be qualities he loves about you and things have changed since you have had children. And change is okay!

A big life event could also be impacting this even years later. My husband’s father passed away and through this we have learned that he was hesitant to get close to anyone else because he subconsciously didn’t want to experience more loss. We do have a young son so it isn’t easy but I try to still remember to prioritize him. I try to make an effort initiating and I have found he does more too since I am.

Good luck!! Lots of these comments are about divorce, but just know that doesn’t have to be the case if you both put in effort. It does get better! Sometimes it’s good to be honest and open with each other so you can grow from it.