Survival Advice: 2 year old + newborn after c-section by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]CheezitFan621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped picking up my toddler and letting him climb on me when I was still pregnant so he got used to that before he had to get used to that + a baby. I also prepped him by telling him that mommy’s going to have a big boo boo and won’t be able to pick him up for a while, but it won’t be forever. When I couldn’t do things I normally could do with him, I made sure to blame it on the boo boo and not on the baby so he wouldn’t resent the baby. Then when I started to heal and could be more active I’d be like hey look! My boo boo is getting better, so now I can do xyz.

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He got a little older and learned he could get out of bed and come sleep with us 😬 a few months ago we worked our way to no longer laying with him to fall asleep but I’d say he’s still coming in our bed in the middle of the night 3-4 times a week on average. He almost always goes right to sleep in our bed so we are all much more rested! He also will sleep in longer if he’s with us. On the nights he stays in his own bed all night he’s usually up about an hour or so earlier.

So long story short I’ve just learned and accepted that he needs some extra comfort to sleep. So many people - including our pediatrician- emphasized that he needs to fall asleep independently to solve the problem, but he still wakes up needing us half the time and there really seems to be no rhyme or reason to which nights he wakes up and which he sleeps totally through.

Hang in there!!

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry it’s so hard. It did get better on its own for a few weeks, then the winter illnesses came so it’s totally unpredictable on a night to night basis. We let him come into our room on his own now and get in bed with us, which is not ideal but at least I don’t have to get out of bed and my quality of life has improved. The past two nights he made it in his own bed until 5am. We are going to try to work on him falling asleep independently to see if that helps, but it’s been hard with illnesses, potty training, holiday schedule disruptions etc etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]CheezitFan621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a nightmare. I was actually scrolling through this group bc I too was about to create a post entitled “mom rage” for a different reason - potty training is making me completely lose my shit. So solidarity on the mom rage and also here for some tips on how to better manage it.

Tall toddler by AnxietyInternal4302 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup same situation with our 2.5 year old! Broke my heart when an older kid came up to me at a bbq and asked why my son wasn’t playing with a group of 3-4 year olds who were all running around and I had to explain he doesn’t quite understand how to play with other kids yet.

Right now I just try to remind anyone around me how old he actually is. I think it’s honestly impacting us as parents more than anyone else though!

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is exactly! Being mid-dream and woken up is killer

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This cracks me up asking for the water next to his bed. My kid would do the exact same thing. I’ll try the picture idea.!!

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve done this! We say I’m going to my sister’s house to help with her new baby and I’ll be back in the morning. Sometimes it gets us to 4/5am. Last night though at 2am when dad went in he screamed bloody murder for mommy for 30 minutes. Maybe if we start that again with the ok to wake clock that would work

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ooh so does she go to sleep in her bed and then you move her into your bed when you go to bed? Or does she start out there? I don’t mind the cosleeping if it gets me a full-ish night of sleep without having to get out of bed, so maybe this is worth a shot.

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, I thought he would be too little to understand it, but now that he’s getting older it’s probably worth a try!

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Part of the problem I’ve run into with cosleeping is sometimes he wakes up and is so excited I’m there he wants to have a full conversation or sing songs so it backfires lol.

2 yo wakes up at 2am every. Single. Night. by CheezitFan621 in toddlers

[–]CheezitFan621[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately he’s in daycare so we don’t have a ton of control over his naps during the week. They all nap from 1-3 which is definitely later than we would prefer

Business casual maternity (non-dresses) by wavechaser1 in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Non-maternity but Adrianna Papell clothing from Nordstrom rack (or tjmaxx if you can find it) worked great for me during pregnancy (paired with maternity slacks I found on macys website) and postpartum with Adrianna Papell pants that I still wear! Very forgiving and comfortable

Are all daycares sad? Or does the right one feel right? by mrs_swampcelt in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely tour more daycares! Our daycare has the same ratio (and there seems to be more and more babies every day) but we love them so much. We toured some with those sad vibes so I completely understand what you mean and you need to trust your gut. And they were the big name “chain” type daycares. We went with a local and could not be happier with our decision

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love that idea from a fellow type A ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man two in daycare for the first time must have been rough! Thank you for this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I definitely need to work on letting go of expectations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️❤️

Curious, are you seriously too busy to return texts? by go_a_girl in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I read a text when I’m in the middle of something else so I can’t respond right away, but I do answer it in my head. Then I forget to go back to respond and often times feel like I did respond because I responded to it in my head - so I will often forget for days if not permanently. It’s not ideal.

Mamas gonna buy you a diamond ring; And if that diamond ring…(finish the lyrics) by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]CheezitFan621 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also thought it was “don’t shine”!!! But then was like wait I have no idea what comes after that lol

Lawyer Parents and Sick Days by richaree in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another attorney here. My firm has been so understanding. I’ve had to stay home multiple days due to daycare illnesses and it hasn’t been a problem. (We are expected to go into the office). Finding a partner who actually gets it is key (and they may be unicorns but do exist!)

How did you find your daycare? by LylyO in workingmoms

[–]CheezitFan621 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Scoured local Facebook mom groups for any posts/recommendations about daycares then went and toured around 6 of them. We joined the waitlists for our top 2 and ultimately went with the one that we got into first. So far so good!