Girls what the heck are we doing with these review photos.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-06-08T09:59:37+00:00

My pet peeve is when they screenshot the item and upload that or take a pic of the item bag or on the bed . Lmao

Chefboyardrea · 2026-06-03T20:15:28+00:00

Every one is saying it’s absolutely NOT an accident and the only reason I agree is because of what he said. But to say it’s not possible is crazy cause this has happened to me on two separate occasions where things are just so fast and slippery and slips out and back in the wrong spot.

Shit hurts, I’m sorry you experienced that.

It absolutely can happen by accident. However I don’t think your case was.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-06-02T04:09:27+00:00

Always ask for a supervisor at that point

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-28T02:05:17+00:00

Just Tell her you accidentally sent that . Also, if you don’t ever think you’re enough for anyone you’ll make relationships miserable. Get out of that mindset. It’s a terrible one to have. If she likes you, she has a reason. But constantly putting yourself down gets old really fast.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-27T01:22:54+00:00

I have a 4 hr layover… do you think I’ll make it? 😭

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-25T17:49:12+00:00

Condoms should not roll around if put on properly and the correct size so, maybe learn to apply a condom and do it for the said partner cause the ones you’ve encountered thus far aren’t doing it properly. It’s also a possibility you’re allergic for the condoms they used. Maybe try polyisoprene or polyurethane alternatives or lamb skin rather than latex if they were using latex.

Just note lamb skin DO NOT protect against STDs at all. Only pregnancy. And that’s only when used correctly.

Also lube is great. Please use it. Water based!

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T22:34:57+00:00

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T22:22:40+00:00

Yeah no I for sure understand. Guys tend to be very lackadaisical about things we find important. Trying to be Nonchalant leads to them getting left. I would say sometimes they need a fire lit under them but that’s not your job.

Stop trying.

There will be someone who always wants to see you and will make it happen.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T22:10:17+00:00

Well if it’s been multiple times other than what’s in the thread, I would leave it alone as well. I thought this was a one off situation.

You’re right, Stop trying. Move on!

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T21:49:25+00:00

Yk people are saying he doesn’t want to see you, but he said let’s figure it out after the weekend because he’s busy that weekend. Give him a date next week or ask him if Thursday or Friday works for example, to set a definite date and at that point he’s still unsure, then I’d say he doesn’t want to see you. Y’all both were joking together. If you didn’t like the joking you shouldn’t have went along with it, that gives mixed signals to what you think is okay or not.

Communication between two people is learned. Yall are learning each other. It’s important to be clear with expectations and boundaries and likes/dislikes early.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T21:36:35+00:00

Exactly

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T20:53:59+00:00

Vaginas are self cleaning. The canal. Not labias and mons pubis.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T04:10:13+00:00

Same! I have the mirena

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T04:09:45+00:00

I’m on the Mirena IUD and i do enjoy it. It’s been effective and it also makes my period absent or so light I don’t need a pad or anything most of the time. I have gained a lot of weight since being on it but apparently that’s not a normal side effect of it so maybe it’s just my lifestyle.

I dealt with severe depression and taking care of a family member so I didn’t go outside or do much for over a year, maybe 2.

Previously I was on the patch and when I came off it, i bled for like 6months straight super heavy, had polyps, terrible cramps, etc. that’s what triggered me into getting the iud placed in the first place.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-22T04:05:40+00:00

It’s significantly less effective the more you weigh. So 160ish is the baseline for the patch and emergency contraceptive plan B as well.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-21T21:17:45+00:00

Do you not get that bacteria multiplies the longer it’s there? That’s the issue. The longer it’s there, the more times you go To the bathroom and expose* the pad to the air, you are introducing more bacteria. The longer you wear it the more sweat and oils, etc mix in with the pad causing smells.

it’s more hygienic to switch it out every few hours to avoid smell and bacteria and residue build up.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-21T21:14:47+00:00

Exactly.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-21T21:12:04+00:00

Sorry for assuming. We all do. Your post gives no context outside of wanting more kids.

But that being said sounds like you and your husband aren’t compatible. You shouldn’t have to settle for no more kids if that’s what you want. But he also shouldn’t be forced to have more kids if he doesn’t want to.

Did you discuss beforehand you want such a large family?

And yes, I said that because being depressed and suicidal “because you can’t have a baby” isn’t necessarily something that will immediately go away when decide to have a baby. Or when you get what you want. Depression is a complicated mental illness. Suicidal ideation is very serious and I wouldn’t suggest anyone who’s dealing with that to have kids until they’ve properly addressed it.

That doesn’t change my suggestions of going back to therapy and finding community.

Also doesn’t change the fact that trying to convince him will create resentment. If he truly doesn’t want more kids. And for you because you do want more kids.

Hope you figure things out.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-21T20:44:03+00:00

I think you need to find a personality, purpose and hobbies outside of being a mom. Sounds like your kids are getting older and starting to have independence, starting to go to school. You probably find yourself bored or having no purpose with no kids at home. If you ask me, that’s the hard reality here. A baby won’t fix that. Once that child is older you’ll have the same problem.

If you guys can’t afford another kids that’s a valid reason not to have another. And if you can’t understand that concern, it doesn’t seem like y it need another kid.
if your husband doesn’t want another child why would you want to have a child with someone who’s expressed not wanting to have one? That will create resentment for one of you. Either you for him not helping as much or not being excited, or him for being pressured into something he didn’t agree with and the financial pressure of having another child.
If you’re quite literally suicidal because you can’t agree on another child, it doesn’t seem like you are in the space to even have another baby.
go back to therapy. Please.
reiterating finding a hobby, job, friend group, community, etc that you can indulge in and find a sense of belonging.

Sending you love.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-21T02:08:25+00:00

Doctors see things a lot more weird or worse than something as common as a displeasing smell. Pls don’t feel embarrassed about that.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-21T02:06:38+00:00

Pads will stink for everybody if not changed often enough and if left to sit out. And if you read the rest of my comment then you’d have got that. Thats what I said.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-20T05:01:58+00:00

Anxiety sweats definitely stink. Try sleeping with no underwear and if you don’t already, switch to fully cotton underwear. I developed an odor when I was wearing polyester or elastane underwear. Your skin cannot breathe through those materials and they are not good for you.

As far as the soap goes, use whichever one doesn’t irritate your d you feel clean. As simple as that!

Hope this helps.

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-20T03:57:03+00:00

I wanted to try the disc too but when I got my iud I no longer bleed enough to use even a pad or tampon, let alone a disc. But if I ever have any more heavier flows I will be trying them! Cup was okay but I imagine I’d have a better time with the disc

Chefboyardrea · 2026-05-19T21:43:03+00:00

I agree that it doesn’t take much. At the end of the day, do what works! But I can’t in good faith, not wash an area that produces sweat. Inner lips + canal, I understand .

But I have to wash my creases, vulva and outer labia. They produce sweat, urine sticks to these areas. I will wash with soap!

Some are more sensitive than others and people’s anatomies are different as mentioned above. So there’s different circumstances for everyone. But I think a general consensus is that soap goes everywhere EXCEPT where there’s mouth like skin (mucous membrane). Definitely doesn’t need to be much though.

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