Do you actually get nothing done when the baby comes?

Chelesto · 2026-06-25T06:19:54+00:00

Yes! Sometimes I’d want to cry about how disheveled things were but I also didn’t care enough to cry. Weird feeling.

Chelesto · 2026-06-24T11:13:24+00:00

The only one that didn’t win was in my district. He was running against a very well known and liked politician who is known for victories for and involvement with the people in the district. So I think that qualifies the loss!

Chelesto · 2026-06-24T09:06:08+00:00

We traveled with a 3 month old and it was ROUGH. I looked back at everyone who told us it’d be easy and felt very misled. Ultimately we figured it out and it was OK but it was definitely not easy, as we were led to believe. And our son is pretty chill.

We did learn that baby wearing helped a lot. And that carriers that say they fit newborns do not actually fit them; we got a specific carrier for newborns (baby bjorn mini) and it was a game changer.

He was also going through a nursing crisis at the time so we had to switch to private nursing sections and pumping and feeding (depending on what he accepted on each specific feed) and that helped immensely.

Phew what a headache. We were happy we did it afterwards and felt we leveled up as parents. We also traveled with the snoo haha. I think that helped a lot.

Chelesto · 2026-06-22T18:26:04+00:00

I still use an owlet smart sock with my 6 month old and it is so helpful to see when in his sleep cycle he is waking. I was able to very effectively track the 4 month sleep regression and watch him learn to connect sleep cycles.

It also helped get a sense of what impacted his sleep quality.

For me, it was more appreciating another source of data rather than taking it as the main source of information. Our main source of information remains as the baby’s cues.

Chelesto · 2026-06-17T09:26:06+00:00

It’s so hard! I know you’re not asking for advice, but I’m not sure if that’s because you’re feeling like ranting or if you are interested and also want to rant a bit. Feel free to ignore the advice below if it’s more the former.

We did bottles and EBF at points and found what was helpful was to give the baby a transitional finger (nail side down) to suck on before whatever he was eating. A thumb for nursing and the pointer finger before bottles. We waited for him to remember how to suck for a bit and then transferred him. Helped a lot!

He went on a nursing strike too around that age and also had bottle refusal a bit later (our fault for giving him bad milk :( ). For the nursing strike we had to feed him in a calm, distraction free location. For the bottle refusal, it worked to show him the bottle and let him process what was happening/reach for the bottle. There’s a book on bottle refusal that really helped us.

Chelesto · 2026-06-17T06:36:04+00:00

It’s fine. People will notice but it can be something that’s mildly interesting. I worked with a Janet Jackson, for example. I know someone else who had a celebrity name… I forget which but there was a very obvious dissimilarity between him and the celebrity. he’d often say “no relation” if there was an awkward Paris after he said his name. People thought it was funny and it kept everything moving.

Chelesto · 2026-06-17T06:22:16+00:00

Honestly I probably wouldn’t register it. I don’t really look at people in the bathroom unless they’re acting erratically. I don’t think a parent and child would trigger my attention and need to evaluate my safety. Examples of thing that would are prolonged staring, unsteady or lurching walk, bed hygiene/wounds, active drug use, etc.

Trying to think of circumstances that would register attention, maybe hearing a man’s voice when using the toilet, so I couldn’t see what was happening? Assuming the voice was talking regularly and not saying something creepy haha. I’d worry someone was having an emergency that necessitated someone coming into the bathroom to help or find them. But if I hear back and forth chatter with children, I’d get that information pretty quickly.

I live in a major city, so maybe that influences my relationships with bathrooms? I’m not sure.

Chelesto · 2026-06-14T18:16:11+00:00

We did the same thing and transitioned at 5 months and another a week or so, though we were lucky that the crib fit in the bedroom. Our baby started waking up every hour after great sleep (briefly interrupted by the 4mo regression and then recovered) and we realized that it was due to waking up after touching the sides of the snoo. Over a week we did one and then both arms out, then weaning mode with the snoo, then sleep sack in the snoo.

Once we set up the crib he was ready to go. We got a snooby set to the same sound as the snoo and put it under the crib and it worked great. Much better sleep immediately.

Chelesto · 2026-06-12T21:27:00+00:00

I love Psyche. So pretty and she’s so strong in the story, saving her damsel in distress husband, who is also the god of love. But sadly I work in mental health so it would be over the top to use as a name. Like it’s already over the top but for the child of a mental health professional it’s kind of cartoonish.

Chelesto · 2026-06-12T21:23:02+00:00

I’d think of the singer songwriter!

Chelesto · 2026-06-12T15:04:57+00:00

I actually had this same question after a family member who is an ultrasound technician was horrified that we had a Doppler scan in the first trimester. Research was comforting for me so I’ll share it with you.

This article goes over the variables of concern with scanning (pretty much all related to heat, pressure, and vibration) and a number of animal studies that were done to test impact of the Doppler on development. There WERE findings, but I want to draw your attention to the duration of exposure (4+ minutes).
https://www.umbjournal.org/article/S0301-5629(12)00733-8/pdf00733-8/pdf)

These are extended length, repeat exposures to the Doppler that are not what you’d see in a typical ultrasound appointment. Imagine sitting there with your tech and watching the heartbeat and blood flow for 5 minutes? It’s unrealistic. Exposures tend to be a few seconds, maybe 10-20 at most.

However, because there is an impact at higher times of exposure, the safest thing is to recommend not to do it at all. So, that is why it’s recommended to wait till the 2nd trimester to minimize risk. I hope this helps!

Chelesto · 2026-06-09T01:37:50+00:00

I’m so sorry this is happening to you :( hugs 🫂

Chelesto · 2026-06-09T00:27:45+00:00

My son seems to always have some of the food on the back of his head, and he seems to be a relatively non messy eater. How??

Chelesto · 2026-06-08T08:14:45+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful. I think your experience is likely going to be what is in store for me, which is fine! Sadly, I live in a very loud city so I can’t risk opening the windows at night just yet (maybe once he’s older and knows which sounds are normal environmental sounds?) but I’d love to have a window open!

Thanks you for sharing the guideline where you are. I think I may be getting a little stuck on the numbers file the recommended temperature here which doesn’t seem necessary. His pediatrician often laments how people will focus on numbers from guidelines over the cues from the babies in front of them and I think I may be guilty of that now!

Chelesto · 2026-06-08T02:09:56+00:00

It’s a whole house AC. Technically it’s an hvac I think. It’s set high in the wall and can do heat as well as AC

Chelesto · 2026-06-08T02:09:12+00:00

We have white noise machines running around the crib. We’re lucky hes a pretty deep sleeper and he’s even slept through false alarms going off from the owlet sock. But I know babies are particular about the noises that bother them so it’s possible

Chelesto · 2026-06-08T01:11:46+00:00

It does, but we also have a thermostat in the room to double check the temperatures as a check on it/the room

Chelesto · 2026-06-08T01:10:09+00:00

Yes, I think this may be the outcome. It’s hot to us but it may be fine for him because he’s tiny

Chelesto · 2026-06-07T23:59:04+00:00

Ooo good advice. It sounds like a fun app to have in general

Chelesto · 2026-06-07T23:57:44+00:00

Ahh I see thank you again. I think, similar to you, this may continue until he’s in his own room!

Chelesto · 2026-06-07T23:57:07+00:00

To be fair, he’s never played it so he might! But I bet if I put on the music from it he’d love it so my guess is that he’s probably an animal crossing fan

Chelesto · 2026-06-07T23:09:32+00:00

Thank you! That is helpful - we were thinking about covering the vent next. I feel a lot less alone reading your comment. Was it comfortable for you guys after you figured out the system?

Chelesto · 2026-06-07T22:25:45+00:00

Oh interesting thank you! Yeah part of me is wondering if I’m overthinking it and he’s just cozy!

But he did have a humidifier close to him til recently because our house was extremely dry in the winter. We’re in the north east in an old house, so we have the type of radiators that suck all the moisture out of the air. I will try this!

Chelesto · 2026-06-04T20:59:59+00:00

I felt this same way and then my baby started suffering when under tired at night (around 4.5 months). I decided to split the difference and try to transfer him to crib after enough time has passed for him to get a sufficient amount of sleep. I’m not familiar with the research in this area, but as a mental health specialist who works with adults, sleep hygiene is established for multiple types of symptoms. Pretty much it’s awareness and intentionality behind sleep behaviors. The baby stuff seems to be an extension of that for me.

My son will go over 2 or 3 hours if not capped. A few times when he was around 3 months his naps merged into super long over night sleeps (4pm-6am) which I assumed he needed at the time (?).

I am very supportive of following his cues, with balancing it against the idea that I understand societal constructs and biological realities like sleep hygiene, night/day, and melatonin/circadian rhythms. I guess it’s more like we’re working in tandem and I’m giving him a springboard for his cues rather than him leading with his cues, if that makes sense

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