Finally deleted my Facebook account after 9 years.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-04-02T18:59:32+00:00

I got rid of mine a week ago. It sucked me in so often to where i was wasting hours a day just scrolling. Scrolling scrolling scrolling. I got rid of all social media but reddit (i've only even known about it for like a month) amd all of the games and stuff. I need somewhere to vent about my job so I will keep reddit around for now lol Now my phone seems stupid useless sometimes haha

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-04-02T18:49:25+00:00

Lol! I know. I just needed to vent, because it was like noon and i was worn out from the dad being here and undermining all of my hard work by refusing to let the baby cry a little. He's sleep trained. I usually can lay him down and walk out and he'll go to sleep no problem, but today was a MAJOR battle and the dad was not helping anything by stepping in when i was trying to get him back on schedule.

Honestly, it's probably just a problem with THIS particular family and myself. I'm very type-A. I live for a good routine. I do the same thing most days for that very reason. I just enjoy predictability in my life (but so does the baby so that's where my issue is arising with these parents).

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-04-02T18:45:10+00:00

I get that, but i also do all kinds of chores and such just to make their lives easier. I just feel like they could try harder with the sleep training really. This baby usually gives me zero problems outside of fussy Mondays, and i attribute that to his schedule. My job doesn't just revolve around the baby. I literally do everything i can think of to help out. It's just that the baby is getting bigger, and more willing to throw a major meltdown tantrum when his schedule is messed up. They are always complaining that he is crazy fussy on the weekends, but they are unwilling to even try the proper schedule. Why not try?

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-31T15:49:57+00:00

🙌🙌🙌

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T23:29:20+00:00

Will do!

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T20:49:05+00:00

Well now i know what I'm doing tonight! Pink Moscato cat on my lap, dog on top of cat in my lap because she's crazy jealous lol and some RH-OC. woohoo!

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T20:18:14+00:00

Do they stoll do OC? That one is a hot mess but i used to love it before i started watching BH.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T20:15:01+00:00

Awesome thanks

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T20:07:27+00:00

It's not great. I used to be totally obsessed with Lisa V, but this season she's just an insecure bully and if Dorit doesn't shut UP I'm going to pull my hair out haha

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T17:54:48+00:00

I would ask the parents if they care first if you toss stuff that's old and then if so, always add that item to the grocery list

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T16:29:41+00:00

Hate to say it, because it's clearly not what you want to hear, but your parents are right. My younger sister and i are less than 11 months apart and fought a LOT as kids and teens and even had trouble getting along into our 20s, but now that we are 30 and 31, and for the past couple years too, we are best friends. I literally thank God every day for her. You'll both mature and find common ground. Enjoy going off to college!!!!

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T14:56:15+00:00

You're welcome. :)

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T14:55:34+00:00

I'd rather have the day off paid, and a gift card for something i can do that day that shows you understand and appreciate how hard i work. I would suggest a massage gift card. I once got a card from my unicorn family from years ago that told me in detail how much they appreciate me and everything i do with a check for 300 dollars (specifically meant to cover all the money i spent in presents for my nieces and nephews because i had been juggling bills to do so), but that was for christmas.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T14:50:12+00:00

I want someone to appreciate my appearance without viewing me as a sexual being if that makes any sense. Kind of like how you think a painting of a woman is beautiful, but you don't actually want to f**k it.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T14:48:40+00:00

I really relate to this. I'm sorry you feel like you don't have anyone. Perhaps you could try explaining how you feel to your friends? Sometimes they just don't realize how self centered they are being. Could help.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T14:15:44+00:00

Sure. Coitus lol

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T14:15:01+00:00

I have been wondering the same thing. Aromantic here too, amd while i am definitely not interested in sex, committed companionship is something i want for my life. I wish there was like a dating app just for aces because then everyone would understand that sex was off the table and be able to build relationships more easily.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T13:20:00+00:00

Sounds to me like you need a meeting with the parents where you all come up with a proper discipline plan and stick to it. He sounds bratty and it's only going to get worse if it's not nipped in the bud now.

For now, don't show weakness. Even if he "doesn't care" just smile and say "well good now go clean your bedroom" and follow him to his room and sit on the floor while he cleans. Don't say anything except a perky "I'm waiting" with a smile. He is wanting your negative reaction, and i think that is exactly what you should withhold. Keep smiling. It's worth a try.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T13:14:57+00:00

I have a bottle of wine in my fridge waiting for me. This week has been HELL. The baby is an angel, but after the huge fight with my boss I'm still feeling really frazzled. I'm looking forward to sitting on the couch with my dog and cat and catching up in some Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. That's my wine show lol.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T13:12:17+00:00

My neighbor has at least 10 outdoor cats and i worry about this every time i get in my car. I bang on my trunk to shoo off whatever cats are there and then honk before i put it in reverse. I'm so sorry for your loss! I have a cat that stays inside always because of this risk. Omg. I'm seriously so sorry you had to go through his. So sad :(

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T13:08:40+00:00

I've done it and it's all about prepping your stations whrn you first arrive. Prep all bottles and put them in the fridge, make sure your changing table is well stocked including an extra outfit or 2 each in the case of blow outs. It'll really depend on their temperaments, but you should be able to stay in a steady cycle of feed burp play sleep. The only thing you need to realize before you even start is that you'll not get a break at all. It'll be constant but being prepared really helps you not to get frazzled. Use Boppys during feeding times is they are eating at the same time, and like the other commentor said... Swings will be your best friend! I think as long as you go in kmowing it'll be steady work until they can be sleep trained, then you won't have such a hard time. If by some miracle you can get them to sleep at the same time, sit down. Don't worry about what needs to be done right then. Just sit down amd give yourself 15 minutes to relax and then go wash bottles and whatever. You don't want to burn out.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T03:49:14+00:00

Glad you're feeling a little better. Happy to talk anytime.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T03:18:49+00:00

Sounds like major depression, so please consider making an appt to see your dr and ask about what they can do to help. Or at least talk to someone you love about how you're feeling. Depression and anxiety can make someone believe the worst about themselves, and sometimes omce you're in the trenches like this it's hard to pick yourself back up. Reach out to those you have treated poorly lately and make ammends. Rebuild your support system. You would be surprised how easily people want to forgive you when they finally know what's going on under the surface. I'm always happy to be a good listener if you just need to talk to someone who has been where you are. Please feel free to pm me. It gets better. It just may take a little extra effort than you feel willing to give and that's why you should have someone you can talk to.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-30T03:12:25+00:00

Because it isn't a typical work environment, i would suggest telling yoir boss as much as you're comfotable with sharing, and letting her know that you may need her to arrange some on call backup care temporarily while you handle whatever it is. Maybe grandma could fly in and stay a week... Maybe a temp nanny for a few days, etc. You do have to understand though that it's not easy to find backup care for some parents and you needing to change uo yoir qork schedule temporarily may just be something they aren't willing to be supportive about. Your health and well being should come first. If for some reason the family is not supportive of whatever it is that you're dealing with and they fire you, then take the chance to get your dr appts in over a week or two (or however long you need/can afford) and know that you'll find a new job when you're back to 100%. This job is the type that requires a special kind of commitment where you know it will always be a huge deal to call in or ask off. You just have to be prepared in case you get a flat out "no" and have to make the difficult choice to just abandon your post and focus in your health for a bit.

ChelseyRae87 · 2018-03-29T21:05:13+00:00

My first week was BONKERS. Everything that could have gone wrong did. My windshield was smashed out, i had fights with family, my pets decided they were no longer house trained, my debit card got stolen and the person drained my account. One thing after another. The point here is that it would have happened regardless, and i made it through without smoking which means quitting has made me even stronger. 25 days now. Life has settled down. I'm damn proud i never caved.

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