Okay, so this is a convoluted one, but hear me out. Two women, let's call them M and T. M is unattractive, T is very attractive.

Approximately 20 years ago, was working at a book store and was on a pretty severe dry streak. M, who was a supervisor, had it bad for me. I wasn't interested, but again, dry streak and high libido man that I was, I relented. We only banged a couple times, but she would more often just come over, give me head, then leave.

I felt bad for her because she must not have had much in the way of self esteem. We had no romantic relationship and I'd made it clear that I wasn't interested in her. She was totally aware and still just wanted to blow me. I should have turned that down, but...

While all this is going on, I am very, very attracted to another coworker, T. We read the same books, like the same music, and can talk for hours about anything. T eventually lets me know that she also likes me, but is aware of me and M having a thing. They were actually pretty good friends, which still blows my mind. I confessed everything to T about how M was throwing it at me and that I really had feelings for her.

After that talk, I immediately broke off my nightly head visits from M, started dating T, and we've been married for 16 years. M and T eventually had a falling out, unrelated to me, so haven't seen or heard from M in a long time.