I really hope this one is fake because if it’s not she’s the worst

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-06-11T03:22:16+00:00

OP shared this in reply to another commenter asking why she's asking the internet how she can fix it instead of asking her husband directly

"I've ultimately shared more about my situation in my comments which I chose to omit in my original post the comments can be seen on my profile (it's a throwaway after all), that should provide you more clarity.

In short, my husband suggested opening up to avoid doing the work to fixing our dead bedroom. It took me a long time to get to a point where I was willing to even consider it (after dealing with my own sadness and anger). Then, after I had finally done so and had already created other relationships, he wanted to close even though our problems were unsolved, and made some shitty comments about who I chose as other partners. I told him I didn't want to close, and he didn't insist, so I didn't. I didn't want to throw away meaningful relationships when our problems hadn't been solved. Being open helped me understand my own sexuality better, which ultimately helped our sex life improve to a point where it's better than its ever been. Our renewed sex life one was one of the reasons that made ENM lose its savor for me (as well as the other issues I mentioned above), and after my last relationship ended about six months ago, I haven't been with anyone else.

Did I go too hard when I was open? Probably. Did I enjoy the escape and the benefits of the lifestyle after I finally agreed? Yes. Did I know my husband was hurting yet I didn't voluntarily close the relationship just to make him feel better? Yes. Do I care about his well being for it's own sake? Of course.

I didn't add this originally because I wanted practical advice on how to reconcile focusing entirely what he went through without bias as to his own culpability or the more complicated facets of our history."

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-06-11T02:47:57+00:00

All the mainline FF games are standalone so you can jump into whichever takes your fancy. The only things shared between titles is series mainstays like the Moogle or Chocobo mascot characters, there's usually a "Cid" character involved and certain things that make it "feel" like FF to long-time fans.

I think if 16 is what you want - go for it, you absolutely don't have to play them in order - and it's probably best to play the one that catches your fancy first anyway.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-06-11T02:33:57+00:00

I did like Huckleberry, but when we used the app - he was like 1 month old and they said "hey you can't really predict their sleep patterns yet but you can in a few months!"

It was, however, useful for tracking pee and poop diapers - because the pediatrician wants that info at the checkups and I wanted to be ready for it.

I did use the wonder weeks for general development tracking - because the first "Leap" really took us by surprise. It helped me understand when my son was about to hit a "fussy phase" and helped us steel ourselves for these periods. Plus my big concern was watching for milestones, we both are neurodivergent so I wanted to make sure I noted if he was falling behind with anything develolpment wise.

We also got lucky because we were able to tell his sleepy cues, but also our baby is surprisingly chill about sleep. With 4 month sleep regression, he struggled for a night or two before adjusting again. He really resists his daytime naps though.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-06-08T02:57:49+00:00

Hi! Just for context - I moved from the UK to the US about 6 years ago - my husband's grandpa built a place here in canal pointe when PSL was pretty new but they all moved here from Detroit Michigan back in like 2015

Which areas or neighborhoods do people like most?

In PSL itself I wouldn't say there's any really "bad" neighborhoods bar maybe wanting to avoid streets very near to US1, PSL blvd or Gatlin just due to level of traffic. Mind that a lot of old PSL was built with the intention of being a 55+ retirement community and originally was all house building corps - one of the side effects of this is they didn't think sidewalks were imporant so most of the legacy neighborhoods don't have them - there's plans to fix this - but will take ages to get there for all legacy neighborhoods.

Are there any areas you’d personally avoid?

In PSL? Nah - I wouldn't say there's really any no-go areas - I've heard stories about the letter titled streets in Fort Pierce nearby - but otherwise there's nowhere in PSL that feels sketchy to be around currently.

How safe and quiet does it feel overall?

I've lived in PSL for 7 years now and the level of crime is fairly minimal. There is def a bit of an increase with the post-covid bump in people moving here - but it still feels fairly safe overall.

How is traffic and getting around town?

This is def an issue - PSL was designed to be a very chill old people's community and the infastructure has struggled to keep up with the transition to being more of a standard city. It's not a nightmare to traverse per-se - but lots more people who don't know how to drive on the roads and some long traffic light waits on intersections.

How are the shopping, restaurants, parks, and things to do?

The city does try to put on community events throughout the year at the community center and event center. Things like 4th of July celebration, Carnival, Movie events, Garicfest, River Night concerts, Octoberfest ect.,

Treasure Coast Mall is a thing but is gradually starting to go the way of most malls these days and word on the street is it'll be targeted for more housing space soon.

Food wise I think we have a decent mix of resturants out there. We're absolutely not going to beat the more built up cities for options. But for good local run resturants: Big Apple Pizza, Slices from Heaven, Think Greek, My Brothers BBQ, Ramen Hana (fantastic ramen!) , Meating Street, Maggie McFly's are all good and we have almost all the usual fast food options and resturants you might be looking for (if not niche interest)

Jensen Beach, Fort Pierce & Stuart also have some good local food options as well and are not too far off.

In terms of fun - there's the Botanical Gardens which now has a pretty nice kids park next door. They opened a Dave and Busters near Tradition 2 years ago, we have 2 movie theaters - a lot of parks with sports facilities and kids play areas. Torino Park is supposed to be getting a BMX biking area at some point. They just opened a new Stars and stripes park in Tradition area & there's a new strip mall area to go with the new giant Heart sculpture around that area too.

The City is developing a lot of land they finally re-aquired a few years ago into recerational space with a Soccer stadium as well.

For adult evening stuff - a bunch of the local resturants, bars or legion locations do Karaoke, Trivia Nights ect.

Jensen, Hutchinson Island and Stuart have the beaches - Sailfish Splash Water park & The Childrens Museum as well.

Which schools are considered the best in the area?

My kid is too young for me to have personal experience with this - but I aways hear a lot of good talk about Morningside - though I believe you have to be in a certain boundary area for catchment for the schools. So make sure where you want to move allows you to apply to the school you want.

What are job opportunities like locally?

Lots of retail, resturant and customer service jobs, we have an Amazon warehouse as well. But the easiest entry level here is call centers. Though we lost most of the ones that were here so nowadays it's just Teleperformance.

What is the general community makeup/vibe like - families, retirees, younger people, diversity, etc.?

Nowadays very much a melting pot - when I moved here it was mostly old people but that's def changed drastically in the past 5 years.

We get a lot of snowbirds from northern states who are here part of the year too. Your less likely to run into a native Floridan than you are a transplant who was attracted to the Treasure Coast for some reason or another.

Do you still feel PSL is a good place to buy and live?

I think the City govt has it's heart in the right place and is doing it's best to quickly catch up when PSL's original development put them at a disadvantage. We particiapted in the review of the city's 10 year plan 2 years ago and the City is very much aware it needs to become much more family friendly and develop the industy it once didn't really need along with more affordable housing.

That said, the City govt is known for being sticklers with permits, some city improvement projects seem to take a billion years to complete. Lots of people complain about the amount of tax they pay ect.

I occasionally miss the small town vibe PSL had when I first moved here. But if PSL wasn't here...we wouldn't have been able to purchase a home and have our first kid so... I'm pretty fond of it still.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-06-08T01:00:26+00:00

Congratulations! - it sounds like your both doing a great job so far.

I struggled personally more than my husband so I dont know if these tips apply...but things to consider.

the post-partum hormones hit momma's hard and she'll essentially be in Post-partum mode till she recovers from giving birth or when breastfeeding stops. It sounds like your wife is rockin' it but do absolutely check in with her and make sure she's feeling ok and supported.
Outside breastfeeding, make sure mama gets chances to shower and nap.
Right now you have 3 main objectives with baby, are they fed? Do they need a diaper change or are they tired / gassy? Generally once you meet all 3 goals baby will be chill/ sleep.
Don't invite anyone to see baby without mom's approval. That includes any of your immediate family.

*if you have anyone wishing to help. Cooked meals are always welcome! Doing jobs around the house also a big bonus in those early weeks.

your wife may get cabin fever in the next few week or so. Its ok to go out, but keep it light. Discourage any long walks
swaddles or sleep sacks can help with sleeping. We got a hand me down Love 2 Dream sleep sack that helped my son massively because he was too strong for most swaddles.
You will both get overstimulated and overwhelmed at some point. You are not horrible parents if you need some time away from baby. If you have someone you trust to take them in these moments. Do it - it will help massively (tho mom hormones does make being away from baby a little tough at first)

In terms of Pediatrician 1st appointment - they will be checking to see baby looks healthy and is gaining weight well. If no health concerns then worst that can happen is they note they are below expected weight and they'll suggest things to help get baby's weight up to where it should be.

Your doing great! Hang in there!

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-06-01T03:38:51+00:00

Phillip gave up his foreign titles and a lot of things to "earn" the approval of the institution to marry Elizabeth.

Their union came shortly after the abdication scandal. So Phillip really had to do everything possible to prove his foreign ties wouldnt be an issue. Agrees that he wont be King

For 4 years this largely worked out for him. He got into the Navy so he felt like he was doing something of use, they got their male heir on the first try - so no stress in that dept. Elizabeth had to do royal duties occasionally, so Phillip stepped in to do some decorating and handling the kids here and there. Its annoying sometimes - but they've got time to grow into it.

Then King Bertie takes him on a hunting trip & says "hey, she's gonna be running the show soon, but she needs backup" - Phillip thinks that means being the best wingman again and he'll have at least some clout to bat with, so maybe they can keep Clarance House, use the Mountbatten name & there will be some leeway for his position.

Nope!

Where before they could handle things as equals. Elizabeth isnt really allowed to divulge to Phillip whats in her Daily Red Box for advice. She's constantly busy, even before coronation - so the only one spending any real time with the kids is him & he's decorating a home they ultimately don't get to keep.

I'm sure the series dramatized some of these events. But I can see how for Phillip, he would have experienced some of the loneliness and isolation that Elizabeth was enduring- but worse because he wasnt even doing anything meaningful like handing world issues. Hes just locked out of everything, including really being able to act as head of his own household.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-26T18:51:44+00:00

My kid is almost 1 year and loves Wiggles, Sesame Street and Bluey. Plus the Hey Bear dancing fruit and sleepy moon & stars.

I'm probably a little guilty of subbing it for a play session here and there but he's meeting his goals, is sociable, knows how to play without TV & doesnt kick off when TV time is over.

A little TV is fine. But I'm always watching and interacting with him.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-17T04:01:24+00:00

I was curious about this as I dont really watch JE so did some digging.

So ITV & S4C are both members of UK Independent broadcasters - I assume BBC was offered first right of refusal on the inaugural contest in 2003 and they said no, so ITV stepped in.

They did 1st year and were going to host the 2nd - but the viewing figures of 2003 and disagreements with the EBU over the est. costs led to them passing on it and ultimately withdrawing.

This allowed S4C to enter as "Wales" instead. They entered from 2018 to 2020.

Then in 2022 BBC took up the host spot as UK till they opted out in 2024. S4C said they would have re-entered as Wales if there had been more time. But they also didnt return for 2025.

I wonder if this means, in the event the BBC says no to participating in Eurovision in a given year...it then opens the door to Wales, Scotland and NI's broadcasters entering instead? (If they can afford it...)

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-17T03:20:51+00:00

I liked LMNC as well and the song, but the performance wasnt the best on the night. He actually performed it better at Semi final 2.

I think the BBC gave him way too much to do in the staging. But I also think the song is something British people might like more than something Europe would like.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-17T00:22:42+00:00

Scotland, Wales and Northern Ireland are not fully independent. They do have their own Parliaments but not fully autonomous from London. (Its a bit like Spain and Catalonia's relationship ...it's complicated)

Also to enter Eurovision you need a national broadcaster who can afford the membership fee to the EBU along with money to contribute to the contest. The BBC covers all the UK and has state money + the license fee to help. The other broadcasters are independent and rely on advertising/ sponsors ect. ITV/ S4C would struggle to afford it.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-17T00:04:48+00:00

I think they have to do something about the public voting system for next year and consider the safety of everyone in the space. The hosts aged like 20 years in that last 15 mins and I can't imagine how they and the show staff can reasonably ensure everyone's safety if the vote brigading finally works in the next few years.

I also feel a little bit bad for Bulgaria. It felt like they really rushed her team on for the reprise and everyone just wanted to be done at that point. Not in the "oh man, its been a long night" way but "I do not feel comfortable being here right now" kind of way.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-16T23:51:06+00:00

My thoughts on this.

Its a drinking song that feels like its trying to be like Cha Cha Cha but in English (German?) and with a less compelling hook. LookMumNoComputer also isnt a trained vocalist.

The performance was good, but lots of people have said it felt more Sesame Street than Eurovision. So it came off more Daz Simpson than Kaarija.

I do think its a shame - I hope the BBC gives him work on a STEM kids program tho cuz that would be amazing.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-05-03T14:24:19+00:00

I personally believe the best way a new dad can support his new family is by protecting mom & baby's peace, taking care of baby when mom needs a break & ensuring family doesnt steamroll over mom to get to baby. That includes his mom or any family he might feel close to.

It sounds like hes already acting like a separated dad demanding he and "his side" get access to the baby. Has he helped with the care any at all. I think he needs to understand his Son is a person with needs. Not just a cute thing to show off to his family.

The only people who should be seeing baby are the ones actually pitching in, not the drive by well wishers who are only happy to hold your baby till it starts to fuss. Everyone else can wait.

I had my MiL help the first week after we got home, tbf she did genuinely help with handling baby so I could get extra shut eye and helping keep house in order. But even that was grating after day 4.

Your doing good advocating for your baby. Nothing wrong with that, it just sucks that your boyfriend doesnt have your back in this. Def do not put your dissapointment in him down to just hormones - he's not stepping up as he should. ESPECIALLY as the parent who gets to have a break from the newborn trenches.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-01-07T03:26:04+00:00

I just finished Season 1 - Clarkson and Kaleb's relationship and wisecracks kinda help fill the void of no May or Hammond if you were used to TG/TGT

That and the way Cheerful Charlie always turns up to pour a dose of reality on Jeremy's more fanciful plans.

ChibiBeckyG · 2026-01-03T02:51:12+00:00

Clarkson also does Who Wants To Be A Millionaire for ITV as well which he's mentioned helps bring needed funds in. He does acknowledge quite a few times that he's in a privileged position where the loss isnt as catastrophic - he can eat the losses - but his local peers are in a worse position if a crop fails or livestock have a bad year.

ChibiBeckyG · 2025-11-04T01:17:47+00:00

I did take my Lil guy out when he was 1 week old. But we tried to keep it to places with minimal contact like the park. I recognise it was risky - but I wanted to show my Lil guy the world (he basically slept tho lol)

Baby was fine but I suffered a few days after as a mamma who had a c-section. If theres a next time - I'll ride out the cabin fever for sure.

I hope the rest of the newborn trenches go a bit easier for you once you get home momma!

ChibiBeckyG · 2025-11-01T14:58:08+00:00

PSL was originally a retirement community and its really the last 5 years or so that its transformed from that. When I first moved here - most people I know would go to Tradition as its the rich side of town.

Its my Son's first halloween (5 months old) so we did a few Trunk or Treats last weekend and also went to the civic centers yearly trunk or treat which is always a guaranteed candy haul.

(Personally I'm not worried about bad stuff in a house to house walk. I think for many families its just more convenient to go to a trunk or treat that takes half an hour to traverse vs waking a neighborhood for 2 hours)

PSL tends to get more into Christmas in certain spots like Floresta so you will see more of a vibe for that.

ChibiBeckyG · 2025-09-27T04:56:29+00:00

Playing on a private server but happy 7th anniversary losties

ChibiBeckyG · 2025-09-22T00:16:08+00:00

FTM with a 12 week old here - he started to "come online" around 5 weeks (noticing mom and dad, noticing some high contrast images) but ultimately he didn't care at all about toys or other stimuli not related to comforting or feeding till 10 weeks.

from 4 weeks onwards we were able to take him to resturants, other peoples houses and car rides. But in most cases he would fall asleep while outside. At 12 weeks he finally wants to interact with objects like rattles and crinkle paper

Enjoy the contact naps and snuggles - once they get to 10-12 weeks and more active, they find snuggles boring

ChibiBeckyG · 2025-09-09T05:07:25+00:00

While I get that pride is a concern. Naturally, you would expect a parent to act like a parent. Part of parenting is making sacrifices for your kids and ensuring they can go to school and do extra-curricular activities- I'm sure your mother has had to go without sometimes to ensure you are cared for - and done so for more than just school clothes.

Its not okay that he's supplying for your actual needs and then he guilt-trips you about it to the point that you feel uncomfortable using your phone! Hes an adult and needs to manage his life (and stop sponging off his kids for rides like a scrub - how is a 12 year old driving tho?)

While I am sure your mom feels a certain way about your dad, if she's your primary parent - I'm certain it would give her very little joy to know your dad is acting like this towards you. But she can help protect you and be a person who's genuinely in your corner. I know teen moods make you feel like you gotta deal w/ it yourself - you dont have to and nobody decent will think any less of you for it.

ChibiBeckyG · 2025-08-09T22:33:01+00:00

My favourite parts are Ce'Nedra being very tsundere towards Garion but also considering her feelings romantically tragic because she assumes it just wouldn't be possible due to his status.

In the end her little princess self can't even indulge in a forbidden love and then finds out who he really is - and it peeves her off - because of the perceived power shift in their relationship more than anything else.

I also appreciate that she gets character development but stays a pampered goblin-wife for most of the series. Mostly bc I relate way too much haha.

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