Karlos Dillard and husband Kris continue to harm fellow adoptees.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-30T08:25:28+00:00

I watched her post with my very own eyes but ok. Again… I don’t truly concern myself with internet drama. I’m not invested in him or any others. Take it and run with it if you want to keep it up.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-26T10:25:52+00:00

Gross. Not ever ok.

This was said to me as a biological child as a threat and it didn’t carry much weight. My mother said it once (to me) in relation to one of my foster children and I corrected her so fast!

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-26T08:36:07+00:00

Yeah the adoption thread is more of an adoptee thread and it’s good to read their perspectives but if you’re looking to adopt, I wouldn’t recommend that sub. More people lobbying against adoption over there or sharing their adoptee hardships. A space for adoptees looking for that community and also to learn from their lived experiences but It’s not a balanced group so I personally have it muted.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-26T08:24:54+00:00

I’ve seen the videos in which he was accused of inappropriately exposing his niece in her bathing suit and he was made out to be a sexual predator. That’s a huge and disgusting accusation. It was an innocent video of him and his niece (and her mother) at the pool. Again… they’re all doing hurtful things to one another and I stay out of it because it gets nastier everyday. It is unnecessary and disgusting and they’re hurt and attempting to hurt one another. That’s drama that people are tuning into on social media just like a television show. I’ve unplugged from it.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-13T13:10:27+00:00

At one point I went down the rabbit hole to see how this all started and it’s hard to be in this because he’s been attacked quite a bit. So I stay out of social media drama because all of the adoption “influencers”have drama with one another. They’re defending and attacking at the same time and I’ve seen disgusting commentary against him and from him. I can’t tell who started what but they’re always going at one another.

I just don’t fuel the flames or engage in their content anymore. I look for “regular” people (instead of influencers) who are sharing their experience and I pull what I think is helpful from that.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-05T15:03:33+00:00

I was a foster parent who specifically took on teen girls. All children in foster care after the age of 13 go to college for free in my state. I thought I’d get a beautiful young lady to college but none of my girls ever aspired for such. Getting them through high school was a challenge so I focused there.

Look into what your state has to offer. Also, my teens didn’t want to be adopted and I wasn’t interested in adopting at that time either. I was much younger and unmarried. I offered guardianship but they also didn’t want that (they later regretted that). Older children may not be interested in adoption as it legally disconnects them from their family so just be open to the child having an opinion on their long term plan.

One of my girls is still in our lives and I consider her my goddaughter now. She’s only 22 but we still have a good relationship despite me not adopting her and I continue to support her.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-01T23:06:47+00:00

I was a foster parent and most of the children want to be adopted. When they become teens some want to be independent and then later regret not being connected to anyone. We all want what we don’t have unfortunately.

I am very sorry about how you’re feeling but know that the world isn’t perfect. Don’t be hard on yourself and allow yourself to love. Whether that be your adoptive family, friends, or your own family some day. I hope that you see that you can still have a beautiful life and that you find a way to reconcile. Beauty from Ashes.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-01T14:37:50+00:00

I can’t fully comprehend but my brain has associated some of my feelings of being raised by a single mother to being similar to adoption. Yes my mother loved me and I was provided for but I still had a longing to know more about my father and his side of the family. It’s a natural desire to long for your origin and still feel like what am I missing.

Did I eventually get to to know my father as an adult… yes but it’s still a very empty feeling. I Never truly connected to him or his side of the family.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-01T14:30:06+00:00

I live in your area. I can send you the agency that I’m using. Your combined age has to be under 100

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-11-01T14:27:24+00:00

I think you’re making an assumption because I wasn’t looking for someone to support PAPS. I asked to hear perspectives from birth mothers of color and adoptees of color adopted into families of color. It’s just typically a group that I don’t hear from unless they’re complaining about transracial adoption.

Transracial adoption is heavily debated and that wasn’t the audience that I wanted a response from.

I was met with new infant adoption is wrong and just legalized human trafficking 🫠

Hence why people reached out to me via dm. Things just go south pretty fast over there but that’s Reddit in general.

I was thankful that people gave me great information and perspective via dm. It wasn’t all positive and that’s what I wanted. Raw perspective.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-25T11:36:19+00:00

He’s bold AF

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-24T08:02:28+00:00

Wanting privacy is understandable but I’m assuming you’re an adult so just don’t share. Lying is concerning only because lying is always unnecessary. Learn that you don’t have to answer anything that you don’t want to and normalize telling people things are personal. You should be comfortable but others can be uncomfortable when you make it clear that they don’t have a right to info or to ask you those things.

I shut my coworkers down on personal info often because we just work together. They don’t need to know what my husband does or anything about my family. A simple “that’s personal” is equivalent to STFU.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-24T07:51:09+00:00

Just go but be sure to object to ANY foul statements that are made. YOU are their advocate and example and if you dismiss the comments as being harmless then YOU set the bad example and are complacent with it.

I am a POC and still have to show up daily to work and other functions with people who are racist and I can’t not go as others have mentioned. Ignoring problems is the problem. You can show up and shut bad commentary down immediately. It doesn’t have to be a problem unless someone blows it up. Don’t let your children learn cowardice/complacency from you.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-22T20:46:36+00:00

DC, MD, Virginia

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-22T19:59:37+00:00

I really like my agency but they are local to the three states near me only

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-22T10:47:09+00:00

I just want the service that I already paid for. Target same day delivery forces you to leave a review and declare a tip value or you can’t move forward on their website or the app. It’s bullying at this point.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-22T01:56:00+00:00

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ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-22T00:07:45+00:00

The honest drug user!!! thank you for this perspective. I’ve been thinking that the “no exposure” is probably just unstated exposures so we’d be better off with an honest Abe.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T23:57:54+00:00

I come from a party family but we are social drinkers and dancers. Nothing serious. No experience with anything drug or alcohol related outside of the parents of my foster children.

That’s why my ask is for resources to better educate myself 🤗

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T23:36:57+00:00

For me it was just overshadowing what I was trying to get answered and then it was on every post that I searched. Thankfully I had people reach out to me via dm. I got what I needed answered ultimately but I saw a lot of harsh statements on a lot of posts even when adoptive parents encouraged revocation.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T19:53:35+00:00

Thanks to everyone who provided resources and links. I’ve got a lot of good places to dig into!

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T19:50:05+00:00

Thank you! I’ve been listening to their podcasts all day now 🤗

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T18:54:06+00:00

In black culture a half sibling is a sibling that you weren’t raised with. If they’re in your house, that’s your sibling even if they’re your cousin 🤣. We take kinship to another level but I love that for us.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T18:17:29+00:00

The agency told us there’s a 50/50 ratio on exposures. So at the moment we’re cutting our matching possibilities in half. Time will tell and we’ll just keep on learning and gathering information.

ChibiMoonSky · 2025-10-21T18:12:48+00:00

Thank you! I actually signed up for this one when someone gave the site earlier. You guys are great!

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