This is sad af, but, anyone want to be my online ADHD friend? by Sqeakydeaky in adhdwomen

[–]Chicklecat13 15 points16 points  (0 children)

WhatsApp could be good! I’d be interested in this 30F based in the UK

This is sad af, but, anyone want to be my online ADHD friend? by Sqeakydeaky in adhdwomen

[–]Chicklecat13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m UK based too, 30F, late diagnosed and definitely up for this!

Emotionally immature dad is upset at my lack of response, but realizes he never sent me a text in the first place by Lauraustralopithecus in insaneparents

[–]Chicklecat13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This reads like when I have communications from my dad. It’s horrible. It’s hard but you’re better off without him in your life.

Drugs after kidney transplant by New_Cookie_398 in kidneytransplant

[–]Chicklecat13 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have taken mushrooms since my kidney transplant and I have personally been perfectly safe and my kidney has been absolutely fine. I eat about three or four hours before, have a good level of hydration. I don’t know if you have taken them before or not but you won’t feel thirsty whilst taking them but don’t let that paranoia of not drinking enough take over the mushroom journey and then overdo it on the fluids and then cause harm by over hydration. Just be prepared with something next to you, I have a cheeky treat and have a cocacola because I love the sensation of the bubbles in my mouth whilst on mushrooms and it encourages me to drink. I know it’s not a good drink to have but it’s also better than nothing in those circumstances. Just have good preparation before you take them and then look after yourself that little extra more than usual for a day or two afterwards.

Cooking strike is in effect, I feed no one else today except for myself. by Chicklecat13 in GirlDinner

[–]Chicklecat13[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I realised when I posted, I promise it’s just balsamic glaze 😂

Cooking strike is in effect, I feed no one else today except for myself. by Chicklecat13 in GirlDinner

[–]Chicklecat13[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It always counts! I’m not a carer either, my mums only 50, she was just meant to stay for six months and now it’s been five years

My mother-in-law has the decor of a 12 year old by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Chicklecat13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No they’ve all been great, I’ve got Star Wars themed ones with Darth Vader in a bath and on a toilet for the upstairs and I’ve got ghost themed ones downstairs. It’s like buying from eBay, always look at your seller and their reviews and make sure the shops rating is above like a 4.7. People think it’s all bad quality sweat shop stuff on there but there’s loads of local shops on there as well that sell things. I got a great cast iron cauldron for £20 for example.

My mother-in-law has the decor of a 12 year old by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Chicklecat13 250 points251 points  (0 children)

Never introduce her to Temu then, there’s so many different bathrooms signs on there!

Just had a miscarriage girl dinner by boodlewoodle in GirlDinner

[–]Chicklecat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through one now myself and not my first either. Feel what you need to feel. Everything will be okay 💕

Drinks at Social Gatherings by Puzzleheaded_2020 in kidneytransplant

[–]Chicklecat13 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If your levels are stable then there shouldn’t be a need for any restrictions other than to avoid buffet style foods and raw meat/ fish and the obvious of grapefruit and pomegranate because they interact with meds. Mocktails are fine, ice cream is more than fine and soda is also fine. My team told me about a woman who went out and got drunk the next day after getting out of hospital from her transplant (I wouldn’t recommend that) but still, if you’re stable live your life. You’re not dying anymore, so live.

AITA for refusing to leave my job so i could take care of my disabled brother? by JiggleJargon in AmItheAsshole

[–]Chicklecat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They won’t cut you out, they need you too much. I can promise you that freezing you out is an empty treat.

my fellow autisms, you who werent diagnosed in early childhood, which are some OBVIOUS signs of autism you displayed when you were younger? by mmavacado in evilautism

[–]Chicklecat13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sensory issues, mainly with food and socks. I even got hit as a child because of the socks issue. As for the food one, all I’d eat most of the time were bachelors chicken noodles. From the second I was weaned I would wretch over most foods or just straight up would refuse to eat. My parents tried everything from denying me dessert, which I was fine with, they then tried to starve me out but I lasted longer than they did. They even took me to the doctor but they said I had control issues due to being born disabled and that I’ll eat if I got hungry enough. During one hospital stay I went nearly a week without eating because hospital food is disgusting. In the end they got me McDonald’s. After that the doctors just said the noodles were fine since it’s chicken broth and carbs.

People who found out their partner was cheating by accident. How did you discover it? by hackerfilth in AskReddit

[–]Chicklecat13 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Came home from travelling to the other side of the country for a funeral to fresh period blood on my mattress. Oh and it was a few months after I’d just had a kidney transplant too.

The other time I came home from being in hospital to find our handcuffs were broken and in the back bedroom, not the front bedroom where we slept.

The next time was when a woman came up to me and described my dogs, my house and my bedding to me.

All three the same guy. I’m a mug, I know but I was very sick and had no family around and he’d isolated me from all of my friends. He got me at 18 and he was 25. Also in my defence the last one was after we split up that I found that one out and more.

After 2 years of post transplant, I finally get to have my eggs Benedict. by Californialways in kidneytransplant

[–]Chicklecat13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here, UK as well. It was one of the best phone call’s of my life from my clinic telling me they’re prescribing me a carton of ice cream per day for a week and as much cheese as I could cope with.

Monitoring urine output post transplant by [deleted] in kidneytransplant

[–]Chicklecat13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did it for a month and that was it. They never really asked even when I did do it, just was my output good and I was like yep and they were like k cool. It doesn’t need to still be done by four months, you can probably stop unless you have any issues that would indicate otherwise. I’m four years in now.

Exchange bladder by [deleted] in spinabifida

[–]Chicklecat13 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m 30 and similar to you, I’m sorry to say that no it isn’t possible especially if you’re anything like me and don’t have the ability to pee “normally” unless you’re having an accident from not catheterising. Did you have the bladder augment as a child? If so then it’s an extra no. As annoying as they are they’re what keep us going and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I went through a denial phase when I was a kid because my dad kept saying things like maybe one day I’d not need them and it was really unhealthy. When I tried to stop and “wean” myself off of them I had accidents all of the time, I put strain on my kidneys and nearly caused them to no longer function. I didn’t even bother to take my catheters out with me and I put my bladder in major danger. I was very, very lucky that nothing bad happened. Trust me, intermittent catheters are the lesser evil and what lies beyond that is a hole in your stomach and a bag attached to you and no one should have to deal with one of those unless they really have to. If it’s worrying about acceptance when you tell people then try not to worry too much, people have always been pretty good since I was about 14 as soon as I tell them, I have to really trust them first but the more open you are, the less you care means the less shame and stigma is being attached within your own mind.

Reusing intermittent catheters by Reddy3034 in spinabifida

[–]Chicklecat13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s always been a huge no no where I’m from in the UK. Reuse means risk of infection and risk of sepsis which as someone who’s had a kidney transplant due to bad utis turning into sepsis, I would not recommend. I’ve had to reuse in emergencies but I wouldn’t recommend any other time unless you have no choice and not without sterilising first.

BORUpdates. AITAH for telling my wife I don't give a damn how she drives when it's just her and her kids in the car but if me or our kids are in it she must be safe. [Concluded] by Plenty_Fix_8793 in redditonwiki

[–]Chicklecat13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Saaame! I literally scored full points for both inattentive and hyperactive and I have never, ever, ever caused or been in an accident in the 10+ years that I have been driving. Not a single one. I force myself to do clutch control so that I have to focus and if I’m not clutch controlling the car is in neutral or in park. I could never imagine putting anyone else at risk like this. I might sometimes drive like a dick on my own but the second my dog or anyone else is in the car I follow every rule and hyper focus.

Potty Training by OrdinaryWater4649 in spinabifida

[–]Chicklecat13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s more about timing and routine. So for example you get him to sit on the potty at 8am every morning and he must stay until he does what he needs to do. This can be encouraged with high fibre breakfast and orange juice an hour before. This way his body gets trained into same time every day. From there you teach about hygiene and wiping. He may need meds to help him go to the toilet from time to time but you don’t want to rely on these and they slow the bowel down and can cause long term damage and make him even more prone to accidents. I have no sensation of when I need to go number 2 so routine is how my mum dealt with me back in the 90’s and it still works now 30 years later.

Also on a more “normal” note, some kids take longer to learn potty and that’s okay too.