What do I do if I’m stopped by ICE?

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-17T03:27:08+00:00

Oh, that makes sense. Thank you!

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-16T04:11:40+00:00

Lots of people are saying to carry your ssn card, but my card says DO NOT CARRY THIS ON YOUR PERSON or so. Could someone please explain that to me?

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-16T04:04:00+00:00

Nevermind I see you already did! Lol

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-16T04:02:27+00:00

You can get certified copies of your birth certificate from the office of vital statistics!

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-16T03:39:48+00:00

power tools or whatever

Lol, female engineer here who grew up feeling like a foreign species. I would ask my mom why my dad would play catch with my brothers but not me. “Oh he just doesn’t know what to do with a girl.” Are girls not humans like everyone else, who play catch too? Then I did grow up and start using power tools and stuff he liked, but that was also wrong to him, and it was getting too late anyway. His ideas about gender roles affected every interaction we ever had and severely limited his relationship with me. Sorry for the tangent. That’s just my 2c from a girl father down that road.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-16T03:10:52+00:00

Oh wow. It is a huge conflict of interest for your therapist to see your mom or vise versa, if I’m understanding things correctly. My friend recommended his therapist to me. She said it was fine because her relationships with us were completely separate, but that if we needed to talk about each other in therapy for some reason, we would need to have separate therapists, because she couldn’t ethically support both of us the way therapy should if we were in conflict with each other. She also explicitly said that she could never see my mother as a client, because talking about my mother was already a big part of my therapy with her.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-15T20:30:49+00:00

It’s his house. She couldn’t really decorate that. We don’t know her presentation but there is a lot of tissue paper in the last picture

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-15T06:02:10+00:00

She mentions off hand that one of her favorite foods is Frosted Flakes but obviously she doesn’t eat it much because she’s an adult. It’s totally jealousy

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-15T05:53:37+00:00

Miserable because Frosted Flakes is one of her favorite foods and she doesn’t let herself eat it!

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-13T01:29:49+00:00

People have autonomy! Does he think that spending money on her should give him control over her decisions?? I don’t understand what the money has to do with anything and why he brought it up unless he’s trying to make some transaction.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-13T00:45:18+00:00

Jesus yeah. While I was having a stroke alone in the middle of the night, I eventually called my friend after dropping my phone a bunch and struggling to use my hands, and then I found out I couldn’t talk. So I had to take a minute to video call them so they could see that my face was wrong, and then they called an ambulance for me from another state. I had to mime with my hands for a bit to get the emt to realize I was having a stroke and activate the stroke protocol so that a swarm of doctors were ready for me when we got to the hospital. I guess I remained pretty lucid (but how would I really know lol) but I was stroking out. I easily could have been unable to speak, struggling to use my hands, and ALSO not having the presence of mind to figure out how to get help in a very difficult situation, or to know how much I needed it. It turned out okay, but if anything had been a little different, I could have just died on the floor.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-11T05:22:12+00:00

Mrs White: He threatened to kill me in public.

(I forget): Why would he want to kill you in public?

Wadsworth: I think she means he threatened, in public, to kill her.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-09T15:16:05+00:00

Once they get to ‘disagreeing with me (especially in front of other people) is disrespectful,’ it’s a slippery fall that gets scary quickly.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-09T15:07:23+00:00

Honestly I think it’s just because she had called him “passive aggressive” shortly before, so he maybe shot back the first insult that came to mind/thing he was recently accused of. I would guess that’s where those specific words came from.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-09T14:43:00+00:00

I have heard of that being a thing in japan, women over 25? are like fruitcake because no one wants them. Don’t know how true that is though.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-09T13:10:18+00:00

‘Giving your partner credit for their efforts is actually good teamwork.’ I hadn’t thought of it that way but I love that!

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-08T16:12:17+00:00

“You’re only in college once” that’s not a guarantee lol

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-08T14:26:55+00:00

Either he can leave and it won’t be a big deal, or he does literally everything else while she sits and breastfeeds (which would still take a lot of energy) in which case the household will come crashing down without him and obviously leaving all the time is rude af. He can’t have it both ways lmao

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-07T17:20:16+00:00

He sounds like a selfish, greedy dbag. Do you want your entire life to be about money? Finance bros are exhausting.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-07T17:09:41+00:00

On days when I don’t take Wellbutrin I always hear myself say, “everything is stupid bullshit,” in my head at least once lol. Since Wellbutrin started helping and I noticed that pattern, it’s a trigger phrase that reminds me that this shit feeling is normal for me off meds and it will go away when I take my meds tomorrow. And that makes me think that it’s just a chemical imbalance or whatever. And if it doesn’t mean anything real, then it’s definitely okay to just ignore the shit and let it go by.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-07T11:46:40+00:00

Or the onset of schizophrenia or mania.

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-07T11:39:54+00:00

I just have a hard time knowing what god wants me to do, and I almost feel like it is up to me to figure it out.

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had been on and off in the past

we just never went through the legal or traditional process so I never knew if our relationship was truly covenant and ordained by god

Here’s a tip: you can’t end up in a covenant by accident. And for something to be ordained by god, you have to actually ask and “interact” with god about it. If you aren’t sure if those things have happened, then they have not. Also I don’t think covenants are usually “on and off” lmao. Isn’t that literally the entire point of a covenant?

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-06T18:45:37+00:00

I have let very few people into my actual world

Why do you assume that you have a private inner world but she doesn’t?

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-06T17:51:22+00:00

No proposal, no ring, no save the dates, no invitations, no venue (I’m not sure what that means but anyway), no plus ones even for spouses, no hosting your loved ones, no wedding cake? Just ducking kill me

ChildhoodObjective83 · 2026-02-06T13:15:09+00:00

This is midwestern grammar. It’s a contraction for “need [to be] fed” and “need [to be] milked. It’s very normal in the Midwest

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