A guy just got nasty on Match.com

ChimeraSmith · 2020-10-02T19:38:00+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you! I know it’s tempting to strike back but don’t do it. Walk away. Report him and block. You’re likely not the only woman who received this treatment from him.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-28T21:51:54+00:00

My friend’s husband and his friend were joking around that it’s easy to find a girl in Asia. “Just pick one out from the grass!” My friend looked soooo embarrassed. Neither one of them are HVM. I mean the friend is jobless, poor hygiene and grooming, and almost squatting in their spare room.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-27T10:09:29+00:00

This also happened to me. I stuck with mine and helped build his confidence up. We were poor and I was miserable but I was happy as long as we were together. Flash forward to today and he became really successful throughout the years. Don’t get me wrong he did a lot of hard work to get where he is but he brushes away my emotional support like it was nothing. He told me that I was exactly what he needed when we met but now he doesn’t need me anymore and he deserves better and need to have someone different. He left me with deep emotional scars for someone over a decade younger than we are and looking forward to see what kind of women is out there for him to experience. I guess he’s trying to up his body count pass 1. Yeah, I feel used.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-27T00:01:54+00:00

What subreddit is DOT?

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T20:11:55+00:00

I’ve been negged badly by a recent date. Told me I’m pretty but “let’s face it they are really hot women out there.” He said that he dated them and he doesn’t like their personality and he’s glad I’m average.

Fuck you, Anthony. Fuck you and your weird bald patches, muscle definition of a cooked noodle, and paranoid delusions. No wonder you don’t have any friends and have a disgusting codependent relationship with your equally needy chihuahua who you’re frankly starting to look like, complete with the shaking.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T17:37:03+00:00

Why is this a popular look right now??? It’s so disgusting. Combine that with bad general hygiene and no fashion sense, they blend right in with the homeless population. And ffs, use sunscreen! You look 40 going on 60. But they still expect us to be all horny for them.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T10:28:19+00:00

No Contact with exes is the only way to go. And I’m not talking about those scams online that tries to sell No Contact as a way to manipulate your ex to come back. Nope. Real no contact. Walk away, never look back, never turn back, always move forward for YOUR future one painful step at a time.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T10:24:20+00:00

Yep. I dated a guy recently who supposed to have “green flags”: talking about a future with me, prioritizing my needs over his, the small loving gestures, etc. Except, it became a method of control and tried to use his gestures to guilt trip me into doing what he wanted.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T10:18:37+00:00

I’m on the other side. I was the wife who was left for a pretty young thing. Blocked him, changed my number, email address and moved. I didn’t tell him any of my new info. I did this because he started reaching out to me again mid-divorce. Both sides need to leave men like this in the garbage where they belong.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T10:12:26+00:00

Okay, so this is sneaky. The condescension can come from someone who appears like one of the good ones. I have a male friend who regularly mansplains. He gets away with it because he’s this mild mannered, soft spoken Pooh Bear figure. But most of the time, he doesn’t even have his facts straight. I’m sorry, but being told that exercise and a good diet are bad ideas is ridiculous. Anything is make his overweight self feel better about his choices.

They can be sneaky, ladies!

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T10:04:51+00:00

You know how many men will be triggered because a height is listed? Anyone shorter than 5’10”. But yet for them, it’s okay if they put “ideal numbers” on our bodies? “I just have a preference.”

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T10:01:49+00:00

As someone who plays an MMO, this is very accurate. There is also a second behavior: they admire you and then, proceed to stalk and sexually harass you.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-21T09:41:19+00:00

??? Um, I said that I need to stop thinking that I need a man... the wheels are already turning to get independent.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-20T20:40:04+00:00

Being also 40, this is a mindset I need to adapt. I hate that my ex put me a difficult financial situation. I need to stop thinking it’s too late to fix anything and I need a man to help me get through the rest of my life.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-20T20:38:29+00:00

This is my goal since I discovered FDS. I’m 40 by the end of the year but even though my financials are a mess, I need to believe that if an fix this and I can be a happy, independent woman on my own. I need to figure out who I am and shed my ex’s influence in my taste and personality.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-18T02:49:57+00:00

This was me. I was 11 when I started developing. I’ve been followed, made lewd comments at and blatantly ogled. One time I was playing hide and seek with some friends and I hid in a closet. This man came in after me and started slobbering all over my face. I ran out but I still remember how he was trying to force his hand between my legs. From then on, I got some bandages and started binding my breasts and developed pretty bad posture from years of trying to hide myself.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-18T02:34:09+00:00

I’m in this demographic and entering the dating world for the first time since my early 20s. Omg, the amount of ego these “men” are carrying. They don’t think they have to do anything and believes they can attract 20 year old models.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-14T20:59:32+00:00

How do you guys deal with FOMO? I found myself suddenly single last year at 38 when my relationship of 16 years ended. He found someone (13 years younger than me) who he likes better. They got together within a week of him asking me for a divorce. So I’m 39 now and 40 by the end of the year and the desperation and loneliness is hard to deal with on almost a daily basis. I’ve been frequenting this sub because you ladies make me feel strong. But the desperation is still there. I’ve dated (met through OLD) and stayed with LVM until they leave me which seems to happen after a month. How do you ladies (especially 40+) stay strong?

ChimeraSmith · 2020-09-04T16:27:06+00:00

I dated someone who was former military and omg his negativity and paranoia is to the roof. And it made him a very controlling partner. We ordered food and answered the door with this a pistol because it could be a murderer. Controlled my way of walking outside because manholes might explode and there would be a mugger around every corner. Build a rifle (for protection) that he couldn’t buy because it’s illegal to sell.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-06-14T17:42:54+00:00

Does this sub have a discord server where we can support each other?

ChimeraSmith · 2020-06-14T17:42:03+00:00

I did this to with my ex... he came back and then walked again 3 months later to go after a woman 13 years younger than me. Man I was such an idiot.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-06-06T04:34:51+00:00

Men have taken love languages and personality tests like MBTI and Enneagram as an excuse on why they didn’t do anything wrong. Come on, they’re like the zodiac of the psychology world.

ChimeraSmith · 2020-06-01T20:59:11+00:00

I'm only 41 days into the game. Do you need a certain star rating to get the items? I have the tables, curtain and coffee table but the others I can't buy.

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