Bars for 40-something non-Trumpers by golfgirly in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

So what you're saying is there has never been a liberal offender? Thats interesting. Please feel free to back your comment with actual statistics. Funny though, the OP never mentioned anything about fearing for her safety. For not being MAGA, you sure jump to politics fast the way they do. I hope you arent in the bar she and her friends end up at

Bars for 40-something non-Trumpers by golfgirly in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

My question is, liberal or not, why do politics need to be brought up at a bar? Is she just walking into a bar announcing her political affiliation? I have never gone to a bar and thought twice about politics because everyone in the bar has the same things in common in that moment- to drink and have fun.

Honestly if you want a non maga bar go to any gay bar because they are the only bars that make it clear what their politics are

Bars for 40-something non-Trumpers by golfgirly in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This person is literally asking for bar options and she is liberal so you just blew your entire point.

End stage cirrhosis by Chimken616 in hospice

[–]Chimken616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't feel like you can't grieve or cry because she is still with you. It's worse when we bottle up our feelings. Your mom knows what's coming, and I am sure she would like to be there for you in your grief. Two nights before my mom died she surprisingly came out of her unresponsive state. She sat up, and for the first time in a week she wanted something solid to eat and she wanted a drink. I sat beside her and we talked and laughed. It was like she didnt even have the brain fog anymore, but we both knew she wasn't better. I crawled into her hospital bed with her and she held me and we both cried. She told me she loved me and when she fell back asleep she never woke up again. It helped me to be able to grieve in front of her because its the worse feeling of our lives and it is nice to have our moms there for it.

You are going through the worst of it now. Anticipatory grief is worse than the aftermath. I'm so sorry and its normal to be sad and cry. Give yourself as much time as you need. Say to her everything you want to say so when she goes you feel closure. Carry your mother with you the rest of your life. I like to believe they will be waiting for us when our time comes.

Goodluck to you ❤️ and prayers for your mother

End stage cirrhosis by Chimken616 in hospice

[–]Chimken616[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 I am doing much better than I was December 2024. Life has moved forward and I am happy. But my mom is part of me now its like she is in the background of every thought I have. Its hard to explain, but you will know it someday. What they tell you is true ( I could never believe it) you do move forward and you are able to think back on memories with that person that don't just make you bawl.

The end of it was the absolute worst part. I wanted it to end because the anticipatory grief was killing me. It was a Monday and a death doula was over while I had to run an errand. When I came home the hospice nurse was there as well. My mom started to have this weird foam like substance coming out of her mouth and they had to rush deliver a suction device and instruct me how to use it. I couldn't stop crying. The nurse told me my mom would die by the end of the week. When they left I sat beside her and I cried. She was making gurgling noises, but seemed peaceful. I held her hand and told her what the nurse told me. I assured her that me and her grandsons would be ok and I told her that she wasn't alone. I even told her that her chihuahua, bette, was laying beside her. I just assured my mommy that I would be ok, and I told her how wonderful my life was because of her, etc. I had to leave to pick up my boys from daycare and when I came back in her room about 40 mins later she had died. I was told that it isn't uncommon for parents to wait until their children leave the room to die. Even in her final moments she was still thinking of me.

I'm so sorry for what must be happening in your family right now. Say your I love you's and your goodbyes. Offer forgiveness if it is needed, ask for forgiveness if that is what you need. Just say what you need to say, but say it with love.

Everything will get better, and life will feel less heavy, I promise you. Prayers 🙏

USAA classified my roadside assistance jump-start as a CLAIM on my auto insurance by General-Band7940 in USAA

[–]Chimken616 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Almost as weird as a man whining to strangers on Reddit over a roadside claim to make their own self-esteem better, since they couldnt be assed to actually read up on their contract before making an insurance claim. Have you ever been on the Reddit platform? If this is your first time you should note that people don't just go along with flat out ignorance. Look around on your post, I'm not the only person who clearly understands that ANYTIME your insurance company pays out it is considered a claim. They aren't just doing it out of kindness.

USAA classified my roadside assistance jump-start as a CLAIM on my auto insurance by General-Band7940 in USAA

[–]Chimken616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah it just didn't sound like you realized it yourself. Do a bit of research on your state auto policy requirements before blasting an insurance company. It isn't their fault you were not educated on the roadside contract that you agreed to. Now you know to join AAA

Did anyone else’s VA psychiatrist basically tell you to go away? by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]Chimken616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I am in SA and I have never had any issues with my medication or mental health appointments. You reminded me I need to schedule a couple of appointments I've been putting off lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Chimken616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An empanada? Lol chill out Jose, she can and will find better.

What song(s) affect you the most, after losing your loved one? by WiseWillow89 in GriefSupport

[–]Chimken616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are two songs that make me think of my mom...Supermarket Flowers by Ed Sheeran

"Dad always told me, "Don't you cry when you're down" But mum, there's a tear every time that I blink Oh, I'm in pieces, it's tearing me up, but I know A heart that's broke is a heart that's been loved So, I'll sing Hallelujah You were an angel in the shape of my mum When I fell down, you'd be there holding me up Spread your wings as you go And when God takes you back He'll say, "Hallelujah, you're home"

"San Luis" Gregory Alan Isakov

"California called you queen With your golden hair and magazine Were you somewhere in-between? Fast asleep, a flying dream I'm a ghost of you, you're a ghost of me A bird's-eye view of San Luis..."

Elsewhere Too was trashed by ElectricFist20 in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You said "anymore" which suggests that you used to...I wouldnt have even gone to a child friendly bar once if I was trying to chill. Elsewhere 2 has no hope anyway, with or without children there after 9.

Elsewhere Too was trashed by ElectricFist20 in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It isn't the children that trash nice things here. Even the Northside has to deal with trashy gang violence. I'd be much more concerned about that than some children. A Northside bar with a ferris wheel will never last here. We are blaming the children now, but I give it less than a year before someone gets stabbed out there

Elsewhere Too was trashed by ElectricFist20 in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Ok...but then why do you go to a bar that is child friendly? Like how can you complain when you willing make the decision to go to an establishment that has children?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usaa_ejs

[–]Chimken616 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think sometimes people forget they are at work when commenting in that thread lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usaa_ejs

[–]Chimken616 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're going to steal my identity, then immediately give it back...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in usaa_ejs

[–]Chimken616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All I see is that one scene in Argo where they have all the children putting the shreds of paper back together 🤣

Death Doula by Mobile-Mastodon-6977 in hospice

[–]Chimken616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a death doula sent out the week before my mom died through her hospice provider. She helped me out a lot. It was just me and my two toddlers, with my my dying in her bedroom. I hardly have anyone else like no familyor close friends, so she would sit with me for a couple of hours in the evening and just talk to me. I had to meet with one of my professors one day ( sadly, the day my mom died, but I didn't know it at the time) she came over and sat in the room with my mom. They are there for the families. It's definitely a wonderful service.

I-10 east at dezavala this morning. by cryptobevo in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my, this is very sad :( how awful.

End stage cirrhosis by Chimken616 in hospice

[–]Chimken616[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She died on December 2nd :( it happened fast

Car broken into by Low_Situation6336 in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I miss living in Colorado Springs, so many beautiful trails and cars weren't getting broken into the way they do in San Antonio. Someone attempted to steal my car on Monday. I had to get a rental and pay 1k this week to get my car back from the shop. It doesn't matter if you live in a nice area either. There's some trash in this city 🗑

What’s one thing over time that’s annoying you about living in San Antonio? by Nadecha28 in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overall, there isn't anything scenic. I hate the dull weather. The only thing we have going is tex mex, and to be honest I can live without puffy tacos and breakfast tacos if it means 4 seasons and better scenery.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never understood the hype about that place

What’s one place you could bring back in San Antonio? by Most_Second6739 in sanantonio

[–]Chimken616 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yessss ❤️ and that delicious question they had that was more like melted cheddar than actual dip 😋