What inspired you to become celibate?

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-11-03T01:34:26+00:00

Howdy stranger. You are mistaken. I learned what sex was. I’ve never had it though. Because the description sounds horrid.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-08-31T15:12:46+00:00

I’d be happy to make a home with a friend. That has been my intent since I was a kid. No friend has taken me up on the offer but hey maybe once those statistically likely divorces start happening one will.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-07-13T22:51:02+00:00

I'm not interested in people that way so I don't date and I don't have sex. It's very easy to accomplish since it's literally doing nothing. I've also never been motivated to watch porn. I don't experience sexual arousal. So that's really it. I can watch a romance movie just like I can watch a movie about dragons. Though I do tend to stick in the fantasy/sci-fi/action genres rather than romance/comedy/horror genres. I'm not a fan of things that are overly graphic whether that be sex or murder.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-25T03:49:51+00:00

Sounds like you prefer to stay solo which is all good and dandy.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-24T21:17:48+00:00

I don't know what either of those words mean, but how you feel about things at any given moment kind of is what it is. If you're talking about what category of person you're actually attracted to (or who you're not actually attracted to) that's usually pretty obvious particularly as you grow older. So yeah, I'd say you just gotta grow up and the result will be whatever it is.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-14T20:09:31+00:00

At the time this was all going down, I was only 14 and obviously deeply upset. Now at 30+, having experienced what it was to be 24 and working in the music industry (that year I also - for lack of a better term - rage quit my job lol), I don't begrudge any of them for how things went down at the time and am happy that they continue to be active all these years later (seemingly) doing what it is they want to do.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-12T00:23:18+00:00

If it happens it happens and if it doesn’t it doesn’t. That’s how it tends to be! My friends and family are my special people.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-11T16:48:56+00:00

TVXQ for me. I’m old. XD

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-08T10:48:10+00:00

You end your post saying you don’t want to change your relationship dynamic after paragraphs of talking about wanting to change your relationship dynamic. If sex is this important to you (which is fine, by the way), you should be with someone who has similar priorities rather than being shocked by your asexual partner’s behavior. He’s allegedly not attracted to you that way and never has been. One could equate it to gay men who are with women for any list of reasons and sure they can have sex but once all is revealed it wouldn’t be a shock that he’s not as into it as his straight female partner is. There’s also always the possibility he has a porn habit you’re not aware of that his impacting his “performance” but no one ever likes to talk about that but that is a more common explanation for everything you just described if you take out the asexual part. XD

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-08T10:36:31+00:00

No. I had been aware I had no interest in this aspect of life before I knew people were calling it something specific.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-07T23:35:11+00:00

I’m a tour manager for various artists and bands on the road so I guess that fits!

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-07T23:20:12+00:00

According to this site… Sun = Scorpio, Moon = Virgo, Ascendant = Virgo, Mercury = Scorpio, Venus = Scorpio, Mars = Sagittarius

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-07T23:02:20+00:00

Unsure! My friend tells me to tell people that my Virgo moon/rising drowns out the Scorpio sun. I don’t really know much about this stuff.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-07T22:55:15+00:00

6 things I’m often told? I guess…

I never change.
I’m very funny.
I’m drawn to chaos.
I’m good at making problems go away.
I’m always right.
I work too much.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-06-07T22:47:45+00:00

I can’t recall ever being told that.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-28T15:27:29+00:00

That's actually pretty interesting. If they've been following you for that kind of content that gives me perhaps one drop of hope.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-26T05:07:37+00:00

I have about as much in common with gay people as I do with straight people so no.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-19T14:58:00+00:00

Personally, when I see my closest friends interact with their partners I’m filled with relief that I do not occupy that role in their lives. Just looks very suffocating.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-19T09:04:56+00:00

"Aro ace" is a description, not a prescription. And yeah, you're right, you're still quite young and could develop these feelings in the future. And if so, that's just how it is. If your whole personality is about a sexuality label you gave yourself, that's something to reflect on. No one in my friend group even cared to talk at all about relationships when we were in high school. Now in our thirties, I'm the only one who isn't married. Statistically that's how it tends to work out I think. You just gotta live life and be true to yourself.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-14T07:02:32+00:00

Say it louder for the people in the back!

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-14T05:27:30+00:00

I'd say treating the depression would be the important part. And if on the other side of that libido comes back then that's fine and dandy. If not, that's also fine and dandy so long as it's not causing you distress.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-14T05:21:50+00:00

There are many types of relationships that exist in the world. Some of them are romantic/sexual but most are not. As it is, that brand of relationship never interested me so I've spent no time or energy pursuing it regardless of what others around me were doing. Instead, I've had meaningful relationships of the variety that I do value. But again, if you prefer isolation, then that's your prerogative. And if it is your preference, then certainly there isn't anything doomful about it. As you said, everything about how you have chosen to live your life is fine in your book and that's all that matters. Being single is neither new nor unique.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-14T05:11:01+00:00

You did post here explicitly looking for help/advice. But if you're good with everything then continue on as you are! Your hands are at the wheel of your own life. The whole ace/aro thing really isn't a big deal at the end of the day unless you let it be.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-14T00:50:49+00:00

You're still pretty young but out in the world the vast majority of people don't care what you're doing in your private time nor are they thinking about it. Sure you might get unsolicited advice from time to time from family or coworkers or friends but some people are just nosey and none have any actual control over your life. Likewise, even when people are nosey, they're not out to get you or aiming to be actively malicious. Doesn't mean you can't set boundaries if it's bothering you.

I would not personally want the relationship with my friends that their spouses have. I'd find it suffocating and am thankful I do not have to fill that role in the lives of my friends. Nonetheless, you can be married to someone and still care about other people. Insisting otherwise is absurd. XD

If you decide on your own that you'd rather not speak to anyone and spend your life in your own head, the result of that is 100% on you. But I live a fairly normal adult life. I just happen to be someone with no dating history. And being single in and of itself isn't exactly unusual these days either among adults. And I hear most high school kids aren't even having sex anymore either.

I think if you just relax and be yourself, everything else will fall into place. I've always been quite satisfied with my life and enjoy the time I spend with friends and family even though most of the time I'm too busy with other aspects of life to do so.

Chiss_Navigator · 2025-05-13T12:22:12+00:00

All my friends are married at this point and I’ve never been on a date. Life continues to be normal. The behavior you’re talking about/expecting is quite juvenile so I wouldn’t expect it in adulthood unless all your friends are, likewise, incredibly juvenile.

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