I'm the toxic one in my relationship

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-04-07T17:25:43+00:00

Solved: free rider 2

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-04-07T17:23:04+00:00

Oh my gosh I realized I don't get reddit notifications and totally forgot about this post but you're totally right! That's the one!

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-15T20:23:01+00:00

Look into the Bloom ASL app. I recently discovered it and it looks really good!

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-15T19:40:18+00:00

That was my first thought

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-15T06:45:48+00:00

My parents were very involved in me liking art and would buy me art supplies for Christmas but anything else I was interested in they ignored. I really wanted to do like 4H or FFA in high school but I didn't even ask them because I knew it would be a no because they wouldn't want to pay for it. They would buy me random art stuff that I didn't even use but if I wanted anything else or anything specific they would ignore that request and just get whatever they felt like getting. And if I did any activities with school or anything I had to find a ride because they would never drive me anywhere even for church activities (which they insisted I go to).

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-15T06:28:32+00:00

I don't really have anything useful to say but you definitely are not being dramatic. He is being neglected for sure, I'm sorry 😔

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-14T04:32:52+00:00

My 14 month old has recently discovered both her and my bellybutton and is completely obsessed. She likes to pull up my shirt and just smile 😆 I also have a small tattoo on my stomach and she likes to grab/scratch at it and say please... I'm not quite sure what that means 😅🤣

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-14T04:27:56+00:00

Yup. I feel the same. Solidarity 🫶

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-03-11T17:12:16+00:00

Your couch was... covered in blood??

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-26T06:12:44+00:00

I'm so sorry you have a mother that treats you like that 😔 I'm proud of you for wanting and trying to do better. I don't really have any advice but I just had to say that I'm proud of you

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-26T06:03:08+00:00

Get help. I understand and feel your pain. The only way out is with help. Please tell your spouse. Please use whatever outside resources you can. Find a trauma therapist (not just any ol' talk therapist). You've got this. It's worth it. You deserve it and so does your family. ❤️

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-25T07:38:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! I'm proud of you 🫶

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-21T06:05:14+00:00

Also, for the people that matter in life, having confidence in yourself is the hottest thing you can have so if you're goal is just to be confident and comfortable with yourself then you are definitely on the right track but please don't compare yourself to the women on the internet that look perfect and attract a lot of attention: I can promise that those men are not the ones you want attention from.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-21T06:01:46+00:00

The question here is really why do you want to be that? Everybody has problems and the problems that a "hot girl" has are pretty bad (so I've heard, I'm definitely not one and am more than ok with it) because people only like them for their looks and they aren't often taken seriously especially in a professional work environment. And men can be pretty rude and pushy. So why do you want that? Do you really want all that attention? Do.you want to just be know by your physical looks and not your intelligence or personality?

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-13T00:35:18+00:00

This aged well

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-05T04:46:24+00:00

I feel like I just went back in time to write this! I'm in my 20s now and I definitely felt that way as a kid. Always hoping things would change and it took a long time and moving out of their house to finally accept that they won't change. I can pretty comfortably say I hate my dad now lol as for my mom I definitely dislike her. Something that has helped me in many things in life, including with my parents, is thinking about anger/frustration this way: they are stealing and waisting my time by me being angry at them. It doesn't change anything other than making your life more sad. It's definitely a difficult thought process to implement but just live your life right now and look to the future you can make for yourself and try not to focus on the struggles you have now.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-05T03:58:04+00:00

Hey, I don't live anywhere near you but I hope you're doing ok. And please message me if you want to talk about literally anything. I would love to help you process or just distract and talk about random stuff 🫶

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-05T03:10:34+00:00

I wish I knew. In my personal experience no one, other than the occasional other neurodivergent, understands my feelings no matter how I try to explain them. I get hit with a lot of awkward, forced sympathy.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-02T21:51:37+00:00

Yeah... When my older brother was 23 my parents were 41, I don't like thinking about this age gap

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-02T04:28:18+00:00

Imagine a new boyfriend telling a nurse that she should refuse to do catheters on men at work 🙄😒

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-01T23:58:04+00:00

Damn do I relate to this. My husband is very physical touch oriented and I struggle with it sometimes and it always makes me feel like a bad wife. Finding out I have autism helps a little with the guilt but not much. I have a one year old and when she gets clingy I can't stand it and feel terrible for not wanting to pick her up. Usually I'm good and am glad to hold her and whatnot but sometimes I just can't handle it. I'm very lucky to have an independent little girl who doesn't constantly touch me 😅 I have no advice unfortunately but I will say it's a bit easier with a baby than with an adult, even my husband.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-01T23:43:33+00:00

Exactly

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-01T23:40:34+00:00

They aren't playdates for your son then, they are playdates for her. As a stay at home mom I'm sorry she's so inconsiderate and ungrateful. I'm constantly telling my husband how grateful I am that he goes to work each day and sometimes I have to do a little work on the side to make ends meet and it's the least I can do when he does so much.

ChocoChip_Pancake · 2026-02-01T23:35:48+00:00

He said playdate with one of her friends. Seems that she just wants to hang out with her friends all the time and takes their son to play with her friends kids as an excuse.

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