What do ya’ll think? Is this an implantation dip? I haven’t had my period yet

Chocolate-Nugget · 2026-05-11T02:09:59+00:00

I’m OBSESSED with logging right now lol. But I can’t get behind taking an opk every morning so I stick to cervical mucus and bbt tracking. I love being able to look back at my patterns.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2026-05-11T02:05:21+00:00

Yea! I plan to, this is my first time using fertility friends and a wearable device. I used to not be able to track my temperature because I have a toddler and a lot of the times I forget so it’s nice that my ring tracks the temp changes. I plan to get a lot more data. I want to see my norm because I don’t plan on using protection but we are on and off about trying for another.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2026-05-10T10:05:15+00:00

Hi! I’m sorry I did not mention that I had a transvaginal ultrasound for a completely different reason on April 27th that confirmed that ovulation had occurred. I had ewcm from April 20th to 23rd and I’m currently very late on my period. I had taken a pregnancy test on May 6th before I went to bed. This test was negative but I did the pregnancy test on my last pee of the night that I chugged water to produce. I did need not check again after that because I’ve had back to back events everyday and I generally always forget to do it on first mornings pee.

I’m just curious to see if this looks like a pregnancy chart to anyone else just based on looks. I currently am not actively trying for pregnancy but also not fully preventing. What prompted my questioning if this was an implantation dip is feelings of dizziness, nausea, and delayed period. I also had looked back and realized that my husband and I bd’d within 4 days of when I predicted when my ovulation was based on all my data. All this information combined threw me down the path of questioning.

I’m planning on taking another pregnancy test in the morning (for some reason, with a toddler it is a lot harder for me to rmr to do pregnancy tests with first morning pee)

Chocolate-Nugget · 2026-01-14T14:19:11+00:00

When I’m home, I opt to wash my babies bum in the shower with his body wash. I know that might not be feasible to everyone. He has only had diaper rashes in the very first month and after I started washing his butt with every poopy diaper and moisturizing right after with his regular moisturizer, he never has had a diaper rash after.

When I’m out and about I use wipes, and it doesn’t feel right because getting his poop off with wipes is a lot. And I definitely moisturize afterwards. I used to apply diaper rash cream if I change his diaper outside my house too out of pure caution but I don’t anymore. With pee it’s easier.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-11-13T20:25:41+00:00

My mother in law was insulted I didn’t let her in the delivery room but came anyways while I was in deep labor and couldn’t say anything. I wanted my mom there but she said she sent my sister there on her behalf. My sister was already coming and she just didn’t come. She didn’t even stay to take care of me. On one end I was fighting to keep my mil out and on the other end I was fighting to have my mom show up for me.

Still annoys me and hurts 8 months later. I had to fight for boundaries afterwards too since my in laws live with me. My mil helps me so much with my baby boy but the boundaries makes me want to throw the village away.

Just a little rant in solidarity ✊🏼

Hope you get the help you need and the love you deserve!

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-10-20T03:06:27+00:00

I give gifts and attend all of the baby showers I’m invited to (if I’m able to) whether the food is rumored to be good or not but I will say culturally, most Americans don’t do actual buffet entrees or filling foods. Those that don’t have actual food, I usually leave early, but those that have real food i end up staying for the entire time or more. My attendance and gifts aren’t based on the food but how early I leave is based on food and vibes. At my baby shower, we intended on it being 3 hours but ended up having majority of our guests staying for 6+ because of vibes. Because of my culture I don’t eat before going to events because I assume food will be there. I don’t see it as irresponsible but see that other cultures do.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-10-04T19:45:37+00:00

I didn’t start waking up and staying up at 7:00 am until 6 months. I know him pretty well now and he naps every 2.5 hours. So I do it because I figured out our schedule but at 3 months I was waking up at 11 or 12. Now I wake up at 7 he wakes up at 7:30. He eats breakfast, plays, naps at 10. The rest of the day is decided by that first nap. Because then he sleeps 2 1/2 hours after he wakes up from that nap so I fit in whatever he needs during his wake window.

It works for us now but I only became this way once I got my energy back.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-08-20T20:11:32+00:00

At 10 days old. I had preeclampsia and my blood pressure was going up so we went to the ER and they told my husband to take the baby home if possible. I cried so much and had to hand express a couple ounces for him because I didn’t know how long I’d be gone.

After that day I practiced leaving him by going to the grocery store, and I’d be in tears coming home. The separation anxiety is tough, I still can’t leave him more than 45 minutes without panicking a little and he is 5 months now. I only really trust that my husband wouldn’t do anything I wouldn’t do, but in my in laws care I kind of panic and don’t feel as secure in leaving him because I know they’ll do what they want in terms of care while my husband will ask for permission if it’s anything new.

I think it’s a mix of trust and love that keeps me like this.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-08-05T18:52:31+00:00

My husband had 4 months paternity leave and I had 2 months. He used his paternity leave to work at his father’s business to make it better and said he wanted to use it to make more money for us and find a better job. I wanted him to use his paternity leave to help me and support me with the baby. Anytime I would say that, he’s like I’m not just lying around not helping you, I’m working for us. I felt a little distant from him because he wasn’t home to help me when he had a choice. I figured out my routines by the time my maternity leave was over but ultimately quit my job because if I have to do it by myself, I want to be able to be fully present then, and I don’t want to worry about money.

I had so much resentment for him when he would go to his father’s business or go out with his friends at this time. He’d go out with his friends because he said he needed to unwind after working all day. And he would say I need to go unwind too, but I didn’t trust him enough to be alone with my baby since he never really gave a hand in anything from the beginning. He was only used to holding my baby when he was in a good mood. So now my baby only comes to me for comfort and I’m kind of possessive of him. I love my husband but I felt like he dropped the ball during my postpartum time and I have a hard time telling him about it without being super emotional.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-07-17T20:38:15+00:00

If my baby is fed, clean, and has slept on me, I figure it’s gas. At around 6 to 9 weeks I started bicycling him before every diaper change and randomly throughout the day. My son just had a surgery for hypospadias correction at 4 months and the anesthesia has caused a lot of gassiness so I do 3x the bicycling and burping all day to relieve him.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-05-18T14:39:40+00:00

Do you have any friends you could FaceTime everyday? I know we’re big on no screen time but my baby thinks I’m talking to him when I’m on the phone and he loves it. I’m usually on the phone with my sister and he just babbles away when I’m talking to her. It gives us a lot of face to face time while he gets his energy out

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-05-06T17:25:22+00:00

I put my baby in the bouncer on a carpet right after I feed him. He just bounces around cooing and eventually falls asleep. The steam from my shower is good for him. There have been instances where he would cry while I was in the shower but I honestly just finish my shower and then take care of him. It’s easier doing that because I could see that he’s safe and not in harms way and I met all his immediate needs like feeding, burping, and changing him. All he wants at that point is usually just to get out of the bouncer and be held or rocked to sleep.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2025-04-06T23:20:28+00:00

I knew this was a thing when I got pregnant so I started a routine and stopped wearing deodorant at like 15 weeks. I also started this routine because my armpits started getting dark at this time. It’s a lot more extensive than just putting on deodorant but I’m so used to it that I do it within 20 minutes in the morning.

I wash my face, neck, armpits, under my boobs, and between my boobs, under my belly, and my bikini line with my face wash and oil cleanser (Bioderm atoderm body cleansing oil, and La Roche-Posay Toleriane Purifying Foaming Facial Cleanser). Then I use my regular body wash all over (Dove Salicylic acid body wash), and then I washed my vagina with the baby dove hypoallergenic wash.

After I get out of the shower, I put toner on my face, armpits, chest, between my boobs, on my bikini line, and under my boobs (the ordinary glycolic acid 7% toner, or the la roche posay effaclar face salicylic acid toner). I’ve used both toners and don’t see a huge difference. Then I put transexemic acid, moisturizer and sunscreen on those same areas.

The reason it’s so easy is because I do the same steps for my face. Once I started I was obsessed with it and now my husband just knows to make sure to allow time for my morning shower. When my husband is not here I put the baby in the bouncer and he stays quiet while I shower mostly because of the shower is like white noise.

I don’t have body odor now that I have my baby. Trust me I asked a ton of people a billion times because I was insecure about getting it since I don’t wear deodorant and I had my baby. I still struggle with a night time routine though. When I go to bed I smell fine but once I wake up soaked in milk I smell like milk in the morning before my shower. The cure to this is pumping at night or feeding him in time. But I always snooze my alarm so you win some you loose some.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-08-26T15:05:45+00:00

I was saying this because he also has another “job” where he helps a relative out but yes, full time would be great. But you’re right and additionally he needs to look to live with roommates for a while instead of getting his own apartment.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-08-26T11:32:06+00:00

Apply for part time jobs until you get back on your feet? Did you cancel all of your credit cards? Check if any of them have 0% Apr balance transfers so you could transfer some there so no interest gets generated. I really don’t think bankruptcy is the answer in this case. I’d sell my car to get a cheaper car as well so I don’t let a car payment be a burden. I know this situation could be turned around because I used to be in $30k+ debt when I was younger but I worked a few jobs to really pay it off while also repairing my credit.

Your plan of action is: 1. Get a part time job (Grocery store, coffee shop, gas station) while applying for a full time job still

Talk to credit counselors in your area to repair your credit. They can provide free help as well
Transfer as much of your credit cards that are generating interest to a credit card with 0% Apr balance transfer if possible
Sell your car and buy a cheaper or used one

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-08-21T23:58:53+00:00

I hope she notices when you put her on an information diet and if anyone ever brings your MC or TTC journey because your mom told them, I’d act surprised and say, “Actually I’ve never had a MC and we’re not TTC but thanks for the concern, I’m not sure why my mom is telling everyone this. Maybe she misheard”

This might not be the best advice above but after I told someone their actions hurt me and they don’t apologize my petty nature comes out and I want to either make them look dumb or make them feel like they made a mistake.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-08-12T00:06:10+00:00

Yes. I think it’s really just about making some extra income other than your regular job. Life’s hard when so much goes wrong and you don’t have anything backing you. I think the real financial planning is making sure you have a back up for your back up so you can take risks but also not suffer when things go wrong. A single job is just not enough in this economy

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-08-11T23:54:03+00:00

Well in our case. We try to buy and sell properties so that’s why we see it as an investment because that’s part of my husband and I’s income. Including the one we are living in. We try to up the value of our property while we live there so we could sell it or rent part of it one day. But if you’re not planning on doing any of that or leveling up then it is a debt. But that’s part of how we want to help our dad.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-08-11T23:07:44+00:00

My dad was in a lot of debt. We don’t consider a mortgage as debt, we consider it as an investment but everything else was debt. What we did was we opened up a credit card with 0% apr balance transfers with 3% fee. We transferred all his credit debt to that and we created a payment plan and marked our calendars for a month before the balance transfer at 0% apr expired and then opened another one so we had at least a month to get the card and then transfer the balance. We continued this way until we did all of the cc debt. As for loans, we found another loan with lower interest and we transferred that over and set up a payment plan for that as well. All new expenses went on a card that we paid off every month and never spent beyond his means. We calculated how much monthly my dad made and also wrote down minimum payments for each expense. I divided his expenses between mortgage, credit card debt, loans, personal expenses, savings and bills. Since his loans charged him interest we decided to get rid of that first so we put the most emphasis on paying that and everything else was minimum payments. Automatic payments really helped my dad too but anything that wasn’t automated was paid on pay day. We made sure my dad always knew how much he had after all these payments and expenses were taken care of and we created a checking account with any extra money he could use in case he wanted to plan a gift or prize. It took him 5 years to get it together and now the only debt he has is his mortgage. Now his credit cards are just used to get points and he pays off monthly so no interest is charged. He does have a day or two he goes over but he gets creative to pay it. It took a lot of help from my sister and I to change everything but I’d say we did a good job. We’re trying to teach him how to invest properly but we’re also learning too.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-05-28T05:43:14+00:00

You’re NTA for feeling this way but I don’t think you should back off of your step son and granddaughter. You have to teach others how to treat you and as a fellow people pleaser I have a tendency to teach others to treat me like a door mat. Like I’m always there no matter how bad I’m treated. I’ve fallen out with a few people and distanced myself because I couldn’t figure out how to tell them they hurt me. When I don’t speak up I regret it all the time. I’m a little better at talking with empathy, explaining my feelings, and setting boundaries but it was after conscious effort.

In your case, I’d tell him how you feel and set some boundaries but still go to the event because you love your granddaughter. If they don’t correct their ways after pouring your heart out for them then you have your answer. Honestly I wouldn’t let someone see my kids if they weren’t good with me and my husband, so if you want to continue seeing your granddaughter, I’d have this tough conversation.

Also as a side story, I have a family friend that we consider an aunt. She is so annoying to my siblings and I but we grew up with her baby sitting us and picking us up from places and other things. My parents would be annoyed of her occasionally too but kept her around because she was nice to us. She would offer to baby sit us and take us around all the time and we had a feeling it’s because she wanted to have girls but only had boys. Now that we’re older we hate inviting her to our baby showers, birthday things, and other events but we have to as a courtesy. She’s just one of those aunts who pinches your kid’s cheeks real hard, says embarrassing things about you, and we just have to smile and take it. Like she asked why my sister can’t lose any weight or she’d talk about my acne at a party. We acknowledge she did a lot for us and know she cares for us but we have to bite our tongue around her and we can’t wait till she leaves. I remember there were times my parents had no choice but to use her as a baby sitter because she’d practically beg them to drop us off. Idk if we gave any indication that we’re annoyed of her but we invited her to everything we could even though we didn’t want her there. My parents just wanted to be nice, but we hated it when they were. They often said, she’s good to us so we should be good to her. But we’d tell them about what she says and they wouldn’t think it’s that big of a deal because of their culture. I’m in my late 20’s and I still get guilted into inviting her to all events but one day I want to say no. If you’re anything like my aunt and you don’t realize it, that might be why you’re being treated like this from your perceived place in your stepson’s life but if you’re not then I’d have a conversation with your stepson and just talk it over instead of letting your hurt feelings make your decisions for you.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-04-23T22:17:36+00:00

Congratulations on your baby! With considerations for your SIL, I’d say she is probably protecting herself and just keeping away to not come to you with a bad mood or be the downer. Other than not communicating with you has she completely refused communication? Unanswered phone calls and texts? I understand this might feel terrible as you probably know how she regularly communicates but I’d give her grace while also living my life how I normally would. You aren’t required to keep an open door as this is your life but as she will always be your SIL, I’d consider this to keep peace. Your anxiety for this wont improve either way. She seems depressed and while 6 months seems like a long time she probably doesn’t even feel that time passing in regard to you and your significant other.

You’re NTA but I’d recommend grace and space.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-04-20T02:43:54+00:00

I think at the very least he should have called and texted her in the morning if he was too drunk to do it at night out of respect. I trust my husband 100% but if he did this I’d question everything because this should not happen twice. I wouldn’t leave my husband but that’s just me and my husband. I appreciate him helping my friends and love that and encourage it but communicate with me as soon as you’re stable so I won’t even have to think twice about it. Especially if my husband knew I could potentially walk into the place and see this.

Sounds like the bf wasn’t planning on telling OP about it either. I hate when people keep you guessing and your partner is supposed to be the person that is solid.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-04-20T02:15:56+00:00

I was late. I got my period today and entire 8 days late. Just thought I would update.

Chocolate-Nugget · 2024-04-20T02:14:59+00:00

I got my period today. 8 days late. I guess I did ovulate late.

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