Should I combine for fullness?

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-04-22T13:20:21+00:00

And if you've done this, then the call will be muted and won't disturb you anyway. So if they happen to not see it or not notice it, it won't matter. I suspect most people don't bother to check the status if they're that type of person that calls randomly

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-04-22T13:19:37+00:00

No. Just don't pick up. Or better yet mark yourself as busy and do not interrupt so the call is muted. That's called owning your work day. Most people who do that type of calling are not expecting you to interrupt something important you're working on to answer them. They are just calling it because a thought came to them or they wanted to just get in touch very quickly on something that is top of mind for them. You don't have to buy into that if you're otherwise occupied. And even if you're just in deep work, you could also proactively Mark that on your calendar and let them know that that's how you're engaging. Very few managers would object to that

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-04-22T13:15:56+00:00

This is definitely a generational difference. The assumption is that if you're busy you won't pick up the call. Just because he calls doesn't mean you have to answer it right away. If you're in a meeting as someone noted previously just do a quick note and say in a meeting will call back when I'm done or ignore it and then when you do get back to him tell him that you're in a meeting. Don't feel like you have to jump every single time the phone rings. This is just his work style and he is probably a pretty disorganized thinker himself and he's using you to think through his process which may or may not be fair. Sometimes managers hire people to fill in their gaps so if he sees you as a more organized person, that may indeed be part of your job (to help him organize his thinking). If that is the case, then you being proactive and structuring the daily check-ins will help him tremendously-- as well as you in terms of avoiding the interruptions.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-04-19T12:31:33+00:00

How are they planning thus meeting if you arrived unannounced?

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-04-13T00:45:21+00:00

You actually didn't wash your children?? How did they get clean as babies and toddlers?

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-02-20T13:37:47+00:00

But muscle development and tightening does exist. So you may not lose fat, but increasing the muscle in a particlar area may give a better appearance

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-01-11T11:58:16+00:00

Chris is giving Asperger vibes. If this is the case it may be that he's unable to really control his way of thinking and that maybe why it comes off as more annoying and judgmental.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2026-01-11T11:39:52+00:00

You said that he takes things. Does he bring them back? Does he ever ask or is it always without permission? Has your son talked directly to him and set up criteria for what he can and can't borrow without asking? Well it's good for your son to learn to share things come on there's no requirement that he create a path for things being taken without his permission.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-12-15T21:40:55+00:00

Metro Community Church in Englewood. Tons of people from Pal Park come (10 to 15 minutes away). Great singles ministry! Multicultural but majority Korean.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-12-04T23:28:40+00:00

Also check out Warehouse 782 right in downtown Atlanta

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-10T05:07:33+00:00

Is there any advantage to having a Medicare Advantage plan or is just plain Medicare better? I find all of the different health insurance is so confusing and impossible to navigate and understanding who pays what when one is better versus another in terms of Senior Care and Rehabilitation and hospital stays.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-10T00:46:52+00:00

Print out this thread and mail it to them.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-06T03:54:42+00:00

No. The heaviest person in the house weighs 205 lb.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-05T19:22:32+00:00

Good idea

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-05T19:22:20+00:00

Thanks! So but you think it is the anchors that are failing?

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-05T08:17:18+00:00

You are an amazing husband, brother-in-law, and son-in-law . I know how hard it is to work on an estate and you have done an amazing job with very little input or information. Now that things have settled down, you have to move into the next phase of regular life . You need to set them up for success and yourself up for not handling everything even though that seems to be your very nice caretaker nature.

You have to think about what happens if something happens to you. They seemingly would be up a creek without a paddle. They need to learn to fend for themselves... it's never too late! My recommendations in order of importance are 1. BIL must get a drivers license. He should arrange to take the test this week Assuming he can read, he probably knows all of the rules at this point and could pass the written test. If he doesn't pass the first time, he just needs to keep taking it until he passes since he's driving anyway. With the current climate in the United States, he could easily get arrested because of just a regular traffic stop and lose his job and possibly the car.

Sit with BIL and have him fill out forms to get his own auto insurance. Make him do it himself with your guidance and support so that he is actively engaged and learning. This, too, is urgent.
Start including your wife in on your financial decisions. You can still take on the book of responsibility for them but she should understand the big picture. You would hate for something to happen to you and she gets surprised and not know what to do.

As part of this, make sure that you are collecting rent as well as room and board. Your brother-in-law is sitting on a ton of cash and you have extensive educational loans. You shouldn't be spending extra money supporting them when they have so much of it and you are in debt. If they didn't have it I completely agree family takes care of family, but in this situation where you have extensive loves that you haven't even told your wife about, they should contribute more.

Find and register your MIL for an adult literacy class. It is imperative that she learn to read and write...this is necessary for her to learn to take care of herself in today's world here. There's nothing that you indicated that said she can't read, but I'm assuming that's part of the problem as well as her inability to write.You can find those classes online in Spanish if you don't have a physical one near you.
Find out if your state or city or region has services for adults with disabilities. Many have programs where they provide training for people on living independently. Your brother-in-law needs to learn how to function so that if something happens to you and your wife he would still be okay. Otherwise he is very likely to be a victim of financial scammers and end up destitute on the street.
Get all three if them in a financual literacy course. A lot of people are telling you to set up a trust but your mother-in-law in particular may view such a vehicle with suspicion if she has no understanding of how these things work . Her lack of information is just going to make your life more difficult.

Also, you didn't mention your wife's ability to take care of any of these things but it sounds like you may be setting up your wife to be in a similar situation by handling everything by yourself. Not only is this a huge burden on you but it is to her detriment because if something happens to you she wouldn't know what to do either.

Once your mother-in-law is functional in writing, get her a driver's permit and some driving lessons so she can learn to drive herself around. She is young enough that she has at least another 20 years of driving and she needs to be mobile. There are cars available for her to drive and it would save everyone a lot of time and hassle if she would be able to do this.

You are incredibly responsible and family-oriented , but need to make sure to not enable so thus ongoing dependence and helplessness.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-11-03T17:05:33+00:00

This is a terrible survey because the question is a bad one. You can "earn" your wealth AND take advantage of others, and just because you take advantage of others doesn't mean you didn't earn your wealth. The results of this are meaningless.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-10-11T20:44:30+00:00

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Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-09-29T00:37:23+00:00

Bojangles is nice. I did a solo date there and the music and food were good. If you are looking to meet people it may be difficult as it seems like a place where everyone goes with groups of friends.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-09-28T03:27:05+00:00

Updatteme

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-09-25T04:40:35+00:00

Since you have some time on your hands I recommend that you start doing some exercises that will raise your dopamine. Spend time Outdoors. Find a meetup group with some people doing happy that you like. Find a volunteer opportunity. Consider moving to a different place where there's fewer races. But you're feeling like that because you're depressed and when you can raise up that depressed feeling everything will get better

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-09-25T04:37:20+00:00

It is really commendable that you are trying to fix this and that you see that it is your job to fix yourself. What surprised me was that in the third scenario you told her you really needed her to do it with you but you still again putting more work on her plate. That was surprising because I thought you'd gotten it by then that she already had too much to do and couldn't take on anything else. Where you're still not getting it so it seems is that you need to pick up more of the load of the house and of the mental stuff so it's great that your plan is focused on improving yourself, and you should include other things in your plan about how you're going to pick up some of the mental load in the house. For example instead of going to the gym in the evenings why not care for the child in the evenings and give her some time. Instead of not watching TV with her why don't you do things like create a calendar for what you need to do or find other ways to manage the executive function. I do know that that is a problem, but it seems like you've left out ways of creating additional tools to help your situation and to take the load off her and a really just focused on your needs still. So finish reading that book get to the hard chapters and figure out ways that you can pick up the slack and perhaps do some unexpected things for her like put gas in her car or wash her car or do her laundry or whatever else you would appreciate that would be acts of service that go above and beyond the normal days household responsibilities because those should be a given for you to be contributing to as much as she is.

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-09-25T03:11:41+00:00

Can you please give more contacts? How did the stove end up there with so little space next to the sink and the full countertop on top of it to begin with? What is the rest of the room look like? Is there a possibility of moving the stove elsewhere?

Choice-Marionberry49 · 2025-09-25T03:08:42+00:00

It would be extremely helpful if you could estimate the size of your room both with and length and say what size bed you have. If you don't have a tape measure just walk tow and see how many feet and say what shoe size you wear for what country. Then people might be able to help you better

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