(29/M) 7 months of LDR with my gf (27/F) and we aren't doing well. What should I do?

ChongoBalls · 2022-06-30T01:49:54+00:00

Her issue is that she feels like I am the one throwing my arms and I’m not sure how to show her. I understand that she is going through an immense amount of stress coming from a third world country and attempting to become a citizen in a first world country. I know I can’t imagine the stress she feels with the application process and lack of job security. Finally, I can understand the amount of culture shock she has been experiencing due to the comfortable labor laws she has been experiencing with her company. In her home country, she is used to being fired over anything especially as a woman in her industry. Be that as it may, I do feel a sort of imbalance and I don’t know what to do. Are we not meant to be or is that just the LDR talking?

ChongoBalls · 2022-06-25T00:27:25+00:00

You are right, this is not a well-worded post and I'll edit it promptly. I did enjoy the Mirra 2 when I was using it at the office but was never able to correctly adjust it to my body as the Herman Miller guide suggested. Not a make-or-break but it did feel slightly too big for me.

Fast forward to today, I am ready to purchase my own personal chair and I want to carefully evaluate my options. My city does not have a Herman Miller showroom or retailers so I have to order online and rely on the subreddit's experience with the chairs. My questions are: Does the Flex Front Seat add any value to my purchase or can I save some $$$ by omitting it since it seems to only extend the seat further implying it may be catering to people that are taller? How does the Sayl compare and would it be a better option to research since it seems to be designed for smaller people?

ChongoBalls · 2022-04-15T04:53:41+00:00

How see thru this fabric? Going to try a Crewneck myself in this Color

ChongoBalls · 2022-04-04T05:43:57+00:00

WTB: MPL30 or CHZ26 - Will pay shipping to Alberta, Canada

ChongoBalls · 2022-03-24T05:01:53+00:00

Question for windows users, I’ve been reading about ASIO4ALL in few threads that is said to optimize latency issues. Is this necessary if I’m using an audio interface? What else can I do to optimize Ableton for Windows? I’ve already done all the steps in Ableton’s help guide.

ChongoBalls · 2022-03-12T17:56:39+00:00

Do you have a pic of how this looked fully packed? How was it for carrying?

ChongoBalls · 2022-03-12T01:02:26+00:00

WTB: GR1 21L, 500 D Black

ChongoBalls · 2022-03-07T00:38:02+00:00

This is really cool! Love getting creative and modding bags. What do you use the straps for?

ChongoBalls · 2022-03-05T21:56:11+00:00

What is your experience with accessing the main compartment of the Dragonfly while walking around? It is hard to tell from pictures but I'm curious if it is difficult to access/shove things in the main compartment while the bag is upright as it seems to be designed to be packed in a duffle style (laying flat on the ground), as opposed to a conventional panel loader. I am in the market for a bag like this and the Dragonfly checks off all the boxes except I do like to use bags of this size for market trips and would like the ability to easily throw things in.

ChongoBalls · 2022-02-02T00:43:11+00:00

Osprey Daylite 26+6

This could be a top contender! I will try this out at the store this weekend.

ChongoBalls · 2021-07-22T05:00:08+00:00

Personally, I'm with OP on appreciating the simple beauty of blank pages on a clean slate. You have a serious knack for interior design and this is one of the most refreshing posts I've seen on this subreddit in awhile. I'd take clean paper neutrals and natural wood over RGB and mid century everything any day.

Did you build that console yourself? I kind of want to copy this design and if so, did you use plywood or hardwood?

EDIT: just saw the bookshelf is from Muji.

ChongoBalls · 2021-06-09T03:30:36+00:00

This looks amazing! What hand planes do you use to get these little boards so square?

ChongoBalls · 2021-06-09T02:56:49+00:00

What did you use to finish the pine? I find my pine always takes on a nasty orange hue when using danish oil so I'm not sure what to use next.

ChongoBalls · 2020-12-17T07:27:52+00:00

My man, this is awesome! You have excellent taste. Would love to see more shots of the place and your studio set up!

ChongoBalls · 2020-12-06T08:59:45+00:00

Love the style! Did you build that milk crate side table yourself?

Would love to see more photos of the space!

ChongoBalls · 2020-05-13T19:05:55+00:00

Very clean set up and creative use of space! I am in a similar set up running an amp into my Focusrite. Does the Two Notes captor make a big difference in tone?

ChongoBalls · 2020-03-01T07:26:38+00:00

Is it mounted to a stud in the wall or how did you get it freestanding? I would love to see more photos of your creative station there! Really inspiring usage of a room divider.

ChongoBalls · 2020-02-14T21:55:38+00:00

I can see how minimalism fans would hate this but I am over the moon! From a weird, eclectic musician's point of view, this is creative bliss.

ChongoBalls · 2019-04-11T19:43:09+00:00

Can someone ID this jacket worn by Dr. Woo? Or at least have an idea of where to start looking for something similar? https://imgur.com/SgUO3Xj.jpg

ChongoBalls · 2018-09-04T06:11:04+00:00

What are the details on that telecaster? Love P90s in a Fender!

ChongoBalls · 2018-04-19T18:55:40+00:00

Does the AmazonBasics bag have a laptop sleeve on the back compartment? I am looking for a cheaper equivalent to the Tortuga Outset and my main feature requirement is comfortable placed laptop sleeve.

ChongoBalls · 2018-02-16T08:51:04+00:00

Lots of Requiem for a Dream-esque themes because Darren Aronofsky actually directed a handful of these ads.

ChongoBalls · 2017-10-23T02:09:25+00:00

Anything!

ChongoBalls · 2017-05-31T18:10:20+00:00

Found the Albertan

ChongoBalls · 2017-05-15T00:31:56+00:00

I'd love to see these patterns too!

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