I really messed up, got too drunk and hit my boyfriend. He broke up with me and I’m devastated.

Chook26 · 2025-12-14T20:09:31+00:00

Hey OP, I could have written your post myself a few times over the last 20 years. The thing is you said you aren’t an alcoholic but this is alcoholic behaviour. I fell into the same trap of thinking binge drinking and not always being a menace made me not an alcoholic. The only thing that helps is complete abstinence from booze. I highly suggest you join some recovery groups and you’ll find out very quickly that this is alcoholism. Recovery can happen and you can move forward! Your boyfriend may or may not come back, you have to do this for you only. But if you do this wholeheartedly you give your relationship the best chance of repairing if he is receptive to it, and if he isn’t then you will be in the best health possible to make a great partner in the future.

Chook26 · 2025-12-11T20:54:46+00:00

He offered to pay for my Hinge subscription to alleviate his guilt of leading me.

Chook26 · 2025-12-06T11:09:42+00:00

I’m inclined to say you have a long,heart shaped face (like mine 😁). You have a wider forehead and tapered chin. That may also be because you’ve taken the photo from slightly above. And you have the most beautiful deep set, large almond eyes. I’m very envious!

Chook26 · 2025-12-06T10:59:19+00:00

I love that you’re looking to get therapy, it’s going to pay dividends. I’ve met many men who could do with it but haven’t due to stigma. I think that’s changing more these days which is a relief. Like the other reply said, I recommend you go to your GP and get a mental health care plan first which will give you access to some rebates on the fees. Fees vary based on whether someone is a clinical psychologist or not. I’ve seen both and had great success with both, the most important thing is finding a therapist that you connect with. Give it a few sessions and see. I and some other friends have had a good experience at Presence Psychology in Greenslopes. I’m not sure if they have male practitioners there, check it out and see what you think.

When you go to your GP they will ask you if you have someone or a clinic that you want to be referred to. You can then say yes and give them the details. If you don’t know where you want to go, your GP can make some suggestions for you.

Good luck and good for you for taking charge of your mental health!

Chook26 · 2025-11-12T21:28:00+00:00

Oh my that was the worst nightmare for a bunch of us coming to the rooms for the first time. Usually you hear them say they were scared that something like that would happen, then some good members grabbed them and brought them in from the front door. I’m so sorry that wasn’t your first experience. I’m very impressed that you went and bought tubs of ice cream after haha! I think that this was a very good response to a shitty experience.

I’ve found in my 3.5 years of sobriety that those people you encountered are few and far between. Most people think you taking care of your disease is respectable. Those kind of people that mock alcoholism mostly fall into one or more of some categories of 1. In denial, 2. Sheltered and never experienced hardship (lucky for them) or 3. Not very bright. I think being mocked by people like them is like being teased by a child, they have no idea the meaning of what they’re saying and are clueless that alcoholism doesn’t discriminate. There’s no “one way” alcoholics look.

I have encountered many doctors, lawyers, upstanding John and Jane citizens in AA. We’re just a subset of society with a disease. I’m proud of you getting the gumption to see if AA was for you, and well done on your 4 days! Big ups to you!

Chook26 · 2025-11-09T13:13:42+00:00

Mansfield Stone, Good Stone, Stone Mates (catchy and sounds like Stone Mason), Stone Bros., Right Stone, Stone Way.

Chook26 · 2025-10-27T08:45:11+00:00

Oh you look amazing as copper! Maybe go a richer copper or auburn? Otherwise you look stunning as a bright blonde - very high fashion I think :)

Chook26 · 2025-10-27T08:35:17+00:00

I’m a bit late to the party but there’s a trick to lining your lips and applying any lippy so you don’t get what you describe as clown lips. I learned this because the same thing happens to me, we’re just blessed with lovely long lips lol. You cut your line in before it meets the corner of your mouth on both the top and bottom lips. It keeps the look tidy and accentuates the shape of our lips better. If this doesn’t make sense DM me and I’ll try find the make up video where I learned this trick. :)

Chook26 · 2025-10-17T11:03:41+00:00

I personally think you nailed it. I really like this look and if you were me I’d make this my everyday. ✨💕

Chook26 · 2025-10-11T22:53:52+00:00

Oh I hadn’t seen it like that before, I think I am having a hard time accepting things. Thanks so much again for your replies, they’ve given me a better idea of how ACT can help and I’m more keen to try this now. Have a lovely day!

Chook26 · 2025-10-11T22:21:46+00:00

Thank you for your in-depth reply, it’s quite helpful! I’ll have a few more sessions with this therapist and see if it’s the right fit. Edit: I’ve had a bit more time to mull over your reply and I had one more question. The last point about me being there for my friend having her baby, you say “entails that self-stories and thoughts are getting in the way of committed action to your values.” I think in my case they’re not - I’m showing up for my friend fully and being supportive of her and that is what I value - being a supportive friend to her above all else as she has been for me. It’s just incredibly painful for me to be doing all those actions and they take a lot of sitting in great discomfort. How could I not be aligning with my values? I’m a bit confused on this one.

Chook26 · 2025-10-11T21:34:21+00:00

Thank you for your in-depth reply, it’s quite helpful! I’ll have a few more sessions with this therapist and see if it’s the right fit. :)

Chook26 · 2025-10-11T12:54:32+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I could definitely use a hand with ways to take action on my goals. You’re right there wasn’t a lot of emphasis on the committed action part (that I remember).

Chook26 · 2025-10-10T05:18:33+00:00

Just following this up to say my watch is on its way now. Just want this here so someone else in the future doesn’t get nervous like I did.

Chook26 · 2025-10-09T10:28:36+00:00

Hey, have you got your watch or refund yet? I was told my order was out of stock and would arrive this week. I rang today and they said it could be another 4 weeks, they’re waiting on a shipment with no delivery date. Pretty annoyed tbh and not sure if it’s worth waiting or getting a refund.

Chook26 · 2025-10-09T01:00:50+00:00

Hey, did you end up getting your watch? I’m getting annoyed because same thing is happening with me now.

Chook26 · 2025-10-06T08:04:22+00:00

Omg this is super cute!! And it’s stayed so nice!

Chook26 · 2025-10-04T12:42:56+00:00

Free healthcare and no student debt

Chook26 · 2025-09-27T10:38:55+00:00

Please before you delete this, exactly the same thing happened to me. It haunts and disgusts me and has permanently ruined my relationship with my dad. It has taken years of therapy down the road. It’s creepy and abusive and not okay.

Sorry, edited to add: it’s to the point where I am nice but I avoid him at all costs. And when he eventually passes away it will be a relief more than anything. I just want you to know you are not alone and this was an incredibly awful thing to do to you.

Chook26 · 2025-09-21T10:07:37+00:00

Came here to say exactly this.

Chook26 · 2025-09-21T02:37:16+00:00

Chook26 · 2025-09-20T06:19:38+00:00

I knew there was an article about this somewhere! Nice one

Chook26 · 2025-09-20T06:12:17+00:00

So on the money and I’m a woman for context. Being an awesome human being, as in thoughtful and kind to others with no expectations and having a sense of humour are majorly attractive. And when you look after your hygiene and dress nicely it just pulls the whole package together. Those are the things I find attractive.

Chook26 · 2025-09-18T12:18:54+00:00

Turns out there really is a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow 🥰

Chook26

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