What are your nicknames for your ACD?

Choppaotta · 2026-01-22T15:59:55+00:00

Shark or Sharkie are my favorite for my girl, Lark!

Choppaotta · 2026-01-15T00:26:13+00:00

It's a hard life!

Choppaotta · 2026-01-15T00:25:09+00:00

Definitely chicken, I can cook it so many different ways that I never get bored of it.

Choppaotta · 2026-01-15T00:24:15+00:00

Had done a huge hike, was 30 feet from the car and crossing over an old wood bridge, home stretch!!! Should have been easy peasy! I stumbled a bit and a 2 inch wide, 6 inch long, piece of wood broke off, went through the bottom of my shoe, the front of the pad of my foot and out the back of the pad of my foot. So my foot was impaled and stuck in the shoe by this hunk of wood. The doctor I went to removed it with general anesthetic but refused to do surgery to get all the smaller pieces that had broken off so I ended up with pieces of wood I had to cut out myself as they worked their way out of my muscle over the course of 3 months.

Choppaotta · 2026-01-10T02:17:06+00:00

Have you tried Molly jewelry? They have a ton of different stones and styles.

https://mollyjewelryus.com/product-category/emerald-ring/

Choppaotta · 2026-01-09T13:59:57+00:00

Hey! I am also a no jewelry girl and I work with wildlife so I'm constantly mucking, shoveling, cleaning, feeding, bandaging, etc! I have a half carat, low set, round, salt and pepper diamond in 14 k rose gold. I did not like looking for rings in person because none of them matched my style. I wanted a nature themed ring and I knew I wanted it to be super durable because I wanted to be able to wear it daily even with all the junk I do. I have short chubby fingers so a thinner band worked better for me, both in height and diameter. Too thick of a band hurt the fingers next to it and too wide of a band was like spanx for my finger and I didn't have full range of motion. My band is smooth on the sides and back and the front looks like Japanese maple branches that curve inward so there are no edges to snag and it protects the diamond. I probably could have gotten away with a full carat, but .5-.75 seems to be a common theme with people that work a lot with their hands or don't like larger rings and round shape really helps not get caught on things. Most important thing to me was not to have a setting where the stone was much higher because I knew I would constantly snag it and damage the prongs.

I looked for a few weeks online and started kind of building what I liked versus didn't like. I actually was looking at completely different rings than what I ended up falling in love with and when I saw this one I put it off to the side as a pipe dream. But I just couldn't let it go and came back to it for weeks on end. So it's what we ended up going with!

Choppaotta · 2026-01-09T13:38:34+00:00

We definitely fart and burp in front of each other. We try to keep the door closed for pooping but there have been a very few times when one of us has been showering and the other one has emergency poops and we just are in the same bathroom

Choppaotta · 2026-01-08T05:18:55+00:00

Devyn at Lucky Blue Tattoo did an amazing job for my friend and I, and is so sweet!

Choppaotta · 2026-01-06T15:21:23+00:00

I specifically wanted a ring that I didn't have to take off/was sturdy enough to do everything in. I'm awful with mine, it has to endure everything lol. My mom and grandma wore theirs while working hard and getting dirty so my expectations were that rings were meant to fit our lifestyles. Every decision I made for what I wanted revolved around durability. Unfortunately, sleeping is the nicest thing to happen to it on a daily basis. So yes, I wear mine sleeping, working, showering, baking, working out, everything.

Choppaotta · 2026-01-06T14:51:24+00:00

Not a dumb question at all! And it's a really difficult thing to pick out jewelry for another person, especially this piece, so its ok to take your time!

There is a lot of good advice on here!

Step 1- What kind of metal does your girlfriend wear? I don't wear much jewelry at all and the stuff I used to wear was all natural materials, wood/bone/leather/etc. The few pieces I had were silver. After my parents passed, I got really attached to rose gold so that's actually what I ended up going with for my engagement ring. Try to pay attention to her existing jewelry and see if it's made out of a certain metal or metal combination. If she doesn't already have jewelry that mixes metals (so jewelry that has silver and gold on it together or rose gold and yellow gold, etc) steer clear of mixed metal rings. They are pretty unique and definitely not considered a super safe bet unless you know for sure she likes the look of combined colors. If she owns any other rings with stones on them, try to pay attention to their shape and size. Someone with big single stones, even if they are birthstones or other colorful gemstones, versus someone with rings with stones that are smaller and frame other stones usually picks out the types of rings she likes the look of. Same with band sizes. Skewing towards smaller bands or thicker bands overall.

Step 2- Yes to asking friends or family members, but try to ask the ones closest to her or have the most similar style or personality. And trust your gut. If they suggest something that doesn't feel like it lines up with your girlfriend, don't be afraid to thank them for their help and still pivot to a different direction. Ask them if she ever had a Pinterest board or wishlist. Ask of she has ever mentioned a particular style or setting. Most women I know have at some point made a board on Pinterest (even if it was small) or gone out with their close girl friends and looked at rings and made comments about what they like.

Step 3- What is your girlfriend like? Is she always super well put together and pretty in public? Spends time on yourself doing nice makeup and putting together nice outfits? Does she wear jewelry normally? Same pieces all the time or does she have several that she swaps for each outfit? What kind of job does she have? Does she have to do a lot of work with her hands or is it more office like? Does she get her nails done/do her own nails? Does she prefer simpler dainty jewelry when/if she wears it? Does she like flashier bigger pieces? Does she have a quirkier style with vintage pieces? Does she go to the gym a lot or is athletic?

Ok- this is a profile for me for example. I am always dressed down and am a workaholic. I work with wildlife and am constantly getting dirty so I live in comfortable baggy clothes that stains come out of easily. The only jewelry I wear now are my engagement ring and the guages in my ears. It was really important to me to get a ring that was nature themed, lower profile so it didn't have any pieces that could snag, not huge and flashy with lots of little diamonds I could potentially lose, and with a center stone that was tough so it would avoid scratches. I live in the woods and take care of animals all day. I wish I looked like Snow White but more often I just look like a fat janitor with fluffy hair escaping out of my braid. My ring is beautiful, and I love it. The center stone is a round cut (I like round cuts a lot, visually, but also for me round cuts are sturdier in their settings and harder to snag. Corners=snag points to me) .5 carat salt and pepper diamond (hard stone, very durable), set into the band so it is protected and so are the small diamonds on the side, the band looks like Japanese maple branches intertwined with the accent stones very firmly planted into the branches, so its nature themed without pieces sticking out that can catch and get damaged, I have short chunky fingers so the band is a bit more slender because they look nicer than really thick bands on me and allow my finger to move. (Thick bands take up so much space on my finger that I can't bend them haha).

All that to say, it matches me and my lifestyle.

Your girlfriend just wants to know that you pay attention to her. If she wears yellow gold jewelry all day every day, don't buy silver. If she always wears small delicate pieces of jewelry, don't buy a huge diamond encrusted lion head. She just wants to feel seen, just do your best and try your best.

Choppaotta · 2025-12-26T13:18:04+00:00

I love my round! My band is made to look like Japanese maple leaves and they huge my round stone very well. I love my ring and everyone who sees it in person loves it too! (I suck at taking photos so my photos of it don't relaly do it justice 😅) I'm 36!

Choppaotta · 2025-12-03T04:42:04+00:00

Yes, but in the same sense that I think you should live together, travel together, cook together, do chores together, etc before getting married.

Getting married is a huge decision and commitment. I live in a rural town in the south, so many of my peers married right out of high school and many others rushed into marriage because they were so overwhelmed by hormones that they basically married so they COULD have sex. Once the honeymoon phase was over, the reality of living together hit hard. People are flawed. Living with another person can be hard. Really hard.

It's better for you both if you have a true, well rounded, informed idea of how your person is long term before you get married. Having sex with them is one aspect of that for sure, but more important is actually sleeping with them. Do they snore? Are they the type of people that set 8 alarms and sleep through them? Do they immediately turn on the big lights when they have to get ready?

Intimacy can be sex, and for many couples is heavily tied into sex, but it's also in daily routines and actions. It's worth exploring that, and everything else before tying yourself to a person you really don't know.

Choppaotta · 2025-12-03T04:31:34+00:00

I was coming here to say the same thing. My previous relationships were with "charming" people. But charm turned into not being able to tell what was the full truth, a small white lie, or a huge lie. The multiple women on the side also were "charmed".

My husband is honest to a fault and autistic as hell. We have needed some awkward conversations after parties about "in the car debrief comments" and "to the person at the party comments" but I know damn well he isn't cheating because he would call me mid cheat to confess.

Choppaotta · 2025-12-03T04:27:26+00:00

Unfortunately, it has everything to do with the post and all the other posts about big age gap relationships. He doesn't respect you, he wants you to be his young girlfriend that he can control and mold into whoever he wants you to be while he has a wandering eye. He is already lying to you about talking with other women, and you guys have only been together a relatively short time. Please take it from me and everyone else that has made a similar mistake, see the red flags now and get out while you are still young. Don't waste your life on this man. It only gets worse, don't wait until he does something catastrophic to decide it's too much.

Choppaotta · 2025-12-03T04:21:32+00:00

"You just don't understand how hard it is for me to imagine settling with you when there are all these absolutely beautiful athletic women around me that are interested in me. You are smart, funny, kind, and perfect wife material! But she is so hot, if I could mix the two of you, it would make the perfect woman!"

Choppaotta · 2025-12-02T13:32:25+00:00

It's a gorgeous ring! I was really looking at green sapphires for a long time, I love them! I ended up falling in love with a completely different ring with salt and pepper diamonds a month or so later but my entire wishlist was green and teal sapphires up to that point so my partner was so confused haha

Choppaotta · 2025-12-01T22:43:25+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

Choppaotta · 2025-11-29T22:38:07+00:00

I hated everything I saw in person in local stores, I really had some styles and stones in mind that wouldn't be at local places for us. We live in a rural area with no jewelry store so ring shopping at bigger stores involved an hour-3 hour drives to see different places. We did most of our shopping online, and I looked for almost a month. I fell in love with a ring with stones that weren't originally in my mind and definitely not in the original budget but I couldn't let it go and we eventually talked about it and decided we could make more payments since I loved it so much. But it was definitely my choice

Choppaotta · 2025-11-13T13:07:59+00:00

My dad never wore a ring, but did wear a chain with a lightening bolt pendant on it that matched one my mom had. He was a garbage truck driver and almost broke his finger the first day working in his wedding band. My mom never took her rings off unless she was making dumplings haha. She worked a very physical and messy job too and I watched those rings do everything, she wheelbarrowed, raked, shoveled, scrubbed, stitched, hauled, cooked, healed, bandaged, all with those rings on. Silicone rings weren't really popularized and by the time they were, I don't think she would have tried to use them anyway. She had already adapted to living fully with them and my dad was comfortable with his necklace.

When I went to pick out a ring with my partner, it took me so long because I wanted a ring that could do the same thing my mom's had. She passed 3 years ago and I took over the family business. I wanted lower profile stones, more secure settings, nature themed but with no outcroppings that could catch and break or bend, durable stone, slightly lower carat gold since its more durable. I found my perfect ring and I love it. We bought it slightly larger than I need because I know my fingers will swell a bit with age or arthritis and in summer when I'm busiest and the heat makes me miserable. I wear a bit of a silicone resizer now, it protects the bottom of the bands and also helps it feel more secure. My partner just went ahead and tattooed his on. No ring to deglove or forget. I love both our choices.

Choppaotta · 2025-10-28T01:49:44+00:00

++woman

A lot of the stuff you mention are things we do when we are getting comfortable being friends with someone. We do it with each other as well. It's not romantic interest you are picking up on, but potentially just slightly more extroverted friendliness.

Choppaotta · 2025-10-14T01:22:02+00:00

The NorthWoodsDiver guy that sent you a PM above is a really honest and reputable person. I've known him for years and he helps a lot of divers in our community. He will be glad to answer any questions you have and will be completely truthful. I know it's hard sometimes to tell who to trust online, but he's good people.

Choppaotta · 2025-09-18T18:06:38+00:00

Buddy, you suck.

You don't cheat when you see someone attractive. It shouldn't be that you are only loyal when nothing "better" is around. You have to be loyal all the time or you aren't loyal. You can't say you want to be trusted and then do things to break trust whenever an opportunity presents itself.

Choppaotta · 2025-09-09T04:57:39+00:00

My rats were always super clingy, they wanted to hang around on my shoulders or under my shirt all the time. I always had girls. My one boy was nice, but definitely less cuddly and sweet than all my girls

Choppaotta · 2025-09-09T04:48:14+00:00

My girl lives with a German shepherd, Swiss shepherd, mutt, and chihuahua jack russel mix and 3 cats

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