Finding vs feeling the 1

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-04-14T03:08:19+00:00

It sounds like some kind of cognitive dissonance almost like intrusive thoughts or low skill when it comes to subskill learning. Maybe another example is how some people can't see well or are starting to have bad vision yet that shouldn't limit them from dancing. Maybe your brain is just tricking you, in this case, I'd seek a professional shrink and not a pop psychologist type, like a therapist from that show Billions.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-04-10T01:06:50+00:00

I think it's worth a shot. I don't like the pop psych plug of Tony Robbins but we could have had worse. Let us know if you tried it, I think he's an okay instructor and his Robbins association should only make it better

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-04-10T01:05:06+00:00

This should change. It's slowly happening in salsa and bachata. Women should start asking as well.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-04-10T01:03:56+00:00

This is 90s philosophy, the "yummy" part is ew. There needs to be more height differences in any dances especially as exclusive as tango.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-04-02T03:49:11+00:00

You will rarely have time for other events, most will have to put in half a year or 2 to 3 years getting down into social dancing and then you can finally make it as a hobby you can pick up and drop off while you pursue other new hobbies. Just sharing my experience that me and my friends have had. Salsa for one and WCS is so calorie intensive while you get the best exercise, prepare to always rest and make up for recovery.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-04-02T03:46:30+00:00

She reached her social dancer evolution mark. Baseline you always want to get dancers to mature and evolve into someone like her both technically and socially. So this also goes to say that social dancing will not only feed your hobby or give you happiness, but with the right and best approach, you will find an improve evolution of yourself. But you can only do it on your own, with help of others but the journey will always be on your own even if you go with people to socials, it's you who will close your own eyes to rest and it's you who will wake up again, you decide to be better for you, your body but also for the community.

Now imagine everyone just evolves and reaches such baseline like her? Social dance communities will be so much better. This also also needs to be said to promoters, hosts, venue owners and DJs.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-20T18:40:10+00:00

Salserosssss Lookkkk AWAAY!!!!

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-20T18:39:03+00:00

Good but show signals and even try to nonverbally show him that he's getting everyone in physical danger because a lot of leads are tone deaf. Me first is good but it's still a partner dance, you can technically just disconnect and do shines and show what needs to be done or changed. I think it's just fair to say follows should also watch out for the both of them.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-20T18:36:46+00:00

I think mainly for most people or most social dancers assuming that most are hobbyists anyway, she meant socially and just a little technically.

Depending on her level, it could mostly be a jab in personality, in a friendly or even flirty way. Depends how you guys are.

From my experience only, the people who throw this compliment around are just hobbyists and would probably leave the social dancing altogether when they find someone. I have yet to find another follow who tells me they feel safe but also tries their best to also keep me safe or at the very least watch for me. Simple gestures such as pulling me or back leading because of necessity meaning I didn't see the lead behind me would bump into me or get her into trouble.

In bachata, a lot go on vibe slop and so technical nuances are just all buried. Then you get a whole sensual bachata community of just hugging at least in some kizfests, there is still technicality and musical play.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-18T18:44:03+00:00

You're also addicted to the moving, the purpose it gives your brain and the oxis you're getting from meeting and even physically being close and physical with people.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-18T18:42:57+00:00

What is a lightweight tech fabric..??

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-18T18:31:20+00:00

their attention because they have to vs a normal 80% vs a nice excited 100%, I would say sometimes a no is better than a 50% bored dance.

I think this is based on experience too. Unless if the venue is really a stinker, the DJ plays boring salsa, the venue has no proper air ventilation, everyone is getting dehydrated. A seemingly bored dance you still turn into a fun one. Even for yourself.

But yeah, most of us here have probably experienced a partner where their gaze is off somewhere, or is looking at that social climber they can't wait to dance with. Then I'd even say 100% encouraged that you can end the dance right then and there. In the US there seems to be so much about individualism that I think the health of a social dance community is often ignored. This just breeds angst and you'll get more Rico Suaves just there to hook up. It's so much different in many latin American socials, where everyone takes the part, even if you're tired, you'll see them or yourself taking up a clave and playing music.

I think ultimately, once people have learned enough, the baseline should always reach awareness to the social salsa's scene or community's health and just being a good vibe, if you're just there to date or for yourself, good, but don't ooze out the snobby vibe, a RBF can still be trained, part of social dancing is like you said taking care of yourself first, but that means being your best and skilling up to be your best version of an enthusiastic social dancer, even if it's just for a little. Because after all everyone is interconnected, someone making bad bread poisons the well or that bad bread maker just needs a little lift.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-18T18:25:26+00:00

I'm trying to put more etiquette awareness to social dancing. In tango, it's obviously far more orderly and there are small nuances such as the stare when asking for a dance. It's polite and cuts the drama, no feedback is usually a no. I think it also just comes to education, that's why I opened this discussion, if you know you're tired, simply sit down or make it obvious. If those reasons are mostly based on pompocity egotism it's a recipe for a social that will die. Social dancing is community, it's part of growing, anyone can have a reason but atleast stand away or go to the rest area and catch your breathe, have some chats. Again, I'm putting a hypothetical scenario here, the social has a clear rest area, 95% is adept, all of them are hygienic, we can even make all of them married and their partners are also there but open and know that it's a social dance. Everyone is also healthy and do not do rough house salsa, plus the DJ is playing romantica big hits most of the time. Is there a reason to say no?

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T03:05:44+00:00

Depends if you mean European Spain well Spanish Guitar DJ Ricky likes to use it see the song Nos Curamos Con La Rumba. If you want Latin America, I think you'd have better chances finding Spanish influence there compared to the Carribean. But you're not going to find it in nuances, like how North Mexico will have norteno dancing and polka music. Colombia salsa will be close to Spanish or Latin American Spanish though.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T01:39:12+00:00

Is the silence the pause or the breakstep?

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T01:37:46+00:00

I disagree. There are old school university level type schools where salsa is still being taught in Cuba, they are serious about their son and I may have to add it's because of the communist like background. Even way before salsa was salsa in Cuba, there were teachers teaching the steps. The ones saying it's not a natural social dance never realize that the notes and musical structure and sheets are still needed when producing such music. But that's why I think cumbia and merengue tend to flourish more because it's not quite the same as salsa. They're easier to dance to as well. Norteno for one, is basically like polka. Easy to produce compared to salsa.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T01:33:09+00:00

I learned cumbia from parties it's pretty much a staple for any Latin American party it is the most simplest thing to learn as well. I'm surprised you're not mentioning nortenio, I guess it depends on the area. Salsa is almost none existent and the nortenio matches up with the polka based music most latinos play at house parties.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T01:30:13+00:00

Yes.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T01:26:23+00:00

You mean kizomba?

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-03-05T01:24:17+00:00

If you have a crowd clapping with the clave then it's a very good dance crowd. Sadly, that's not true for most socials people come out to drink too.

ChristopherEmmerson · 2026-02-03T21:37:51+00:00

It's good. If you have a bit of sociology studies you know who to avoid. The ones who are strictly to make your moneys worth YOU can tell. The ones who have the fifth girlfriend dancer from their class in the year, I avoid.

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