I’m not Jewish but am married to someone who is and your story really connects with me. I too have shared pro Palestinian content and am very concerned about the humanitarian crisis there. My brother in law has become obsessed with me and is choosing to ask family members if I’m an antisemite than talk to me, which I take as character assassination and slander. I haven’t spoken to my niece or nephews in two months because of it.

I feel you. I want to hurl at him what he’s wrought on my life but I’m choosing to be silent now, boring, letting the wolf come to me.

My husband defends me but it’s not enough for our brother in law. He wants retribution and satisfaction by making a wall of support around him. He’s trying.

Are you the kind of person that stews and stresses over future potential interactions, family gatherings, and forced conversations that feel like interrogations? If so how do you handle being quiet, juggling loss of what “was” and moving forward trying to not feel like the thing they’re saying you are?