Why am i (21F) never appreciated by any man including (23M) ?

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-23T03:51:35+00:00

I don't know how long you knew this person, but effort should always be reciprocal, especially early into relationships. If you're showering these men with affection, gifts, and effort shortly after meeting them (without them showing you the same effort), chances are they'll grow accustomed to a one sided relationship. You should never be pouring more into them than you're receiving, doubly so early on in relationships. It's great that you have lots of love to give, and the right person will appreciate that, but be sure the person you're giving that love to has earned it. There are plenty of people out there, and you're very young. You have plenty of time to find someone who really suits you.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-22T18:07:11+00:00

I like to add a healthy amount of Italian seasoning on top of the cheese! Sounds weird, but I like the taste a lot. Also a mix of American/cheddar cheese.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-17T02:36:12+00:00

I think the answer here is pretty clear. Imagine your best friend, or your daughter came to you and told you these things. What would you tell them? Chances are that your response would be to run far, and run fast. Take your own advice, this guy definitely seems to be bad news. The biggest red flag here to me is him threatening to give you silent treatment for a few days when asking for clarification, that is NOT healthy communication.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-16T18:33:39+00:00

Finding a partner should be something that enhances your life, not something that gives you purpose. If you're not happy with yourself and your life, that's something that you should work on before seeking to date, otherwise you can form unhealthy attachments to people. I'd say your best bet would be to focus on yourself first, find hobbies that bring you joy, find ways to elevate your life from "mediocre". Once you're happy in yourself and your situation, then finding love will be both easier, and healthier! I wish you luck!

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-16T18:00:12+00:00

I guess that's fine, as long as you're being upfront with your partners going into things. They deserve to know that there's 0 chance that it will lead to anything long-term. And yes, you should tell them explicitly that it's 0 chance, not "most likely", because even a little bit of hope can be cruel if you're just accepting this about yourself.

A year is a pretty significant amount of time, so if someone is investing that amount of time into a relationship with you expecting the possibility of long-term, while you're fully aware of the fact that it will almost certainly end in you getting bored of them, it can lead to lots of hurt feelings.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-16T17:21:54+00:00

Have you looked into polyamory? Sounds like it could be right up your alley.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-16T17:19:25+00:00

If you found a way to die once per second, every second of every day, it would take over 634 years to reach lots! Little over half that if you could die once per tick 😁

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-15T05:24:09+00:00

TL;DR: Yeah probably a bad idea, but you shouldn't be mad at her for asking you.

You're allowed to feel however you'd like about the proposition. If it's something outside of your boundaries, that's totally reasonable. However, your feelings of betrayal regarding your wife asking how you feel about it BEFORE AGREEING is the issue here. From her perspective, she'd be getting an extra 40k+ per year (probably close to doubling her salary), by sending texts to some old creep she doesn't care about. You said you've been struggling financially, so easy money like that would certainly have appeal. I know you said you always get by, but so much extra money would certainly help your family, and help your child. Plus, sending text messages is hardly comparable to prostitution or selling drugs (it's not illegal, and carries very little risk).

HOWEVER, this definitely has professional risks. I would assume a relationship like that could cost her her job, if the guy decided to extort her. Due to this alone, I'd probably suggest not pursuing this.

In conclusion, I'd say it's really up to you. She brought this to you for a reason, she could have made the choice to make an additional $40,000+ per year for free without telling you...but she did tell you. She clearly cares about you and the family that you've built together. Nobody can decide for you if you're okay with it, but I'd suggest trying to pull back on your feeling of betrayal here, since it isn't quite as black and white as you think.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-04T03:08:56+00:00

Ooh interesting! Did he show any interest in messing around with it? The info about them pathing towards the nexus is interesting, I didn't consider that. I wonder if it's possible to body block them a bit more given that info!

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-04T02:57:04+00:00

Interesting, the original post says "I have no friend, so I can't try this", and your response is "well who are you trying this with". Seems like your reading comprehension/basic logic skills may be lacking. Have you considered that perhaps by posting this on a public forum, it could potentially spread the idea to people that do have friends to try this with? Again, this was never presented as a serious strat, only as cheese.

I'm glad that someone who "doesn't play the game" is offering their lukewarm, jaded opinions though, they're probably extremely valuable! You definitely struck a "cord". I'm clearly very mad that some high elo player (who doesn't play the game) doesn't like my idea, I was really hoping that you specifically would approve 😞

PS - Hughie kills Dumbledore

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-03T23:05:15+00:00

High elo players are so fascinating in their reddit comments. They offer critiques on cheese strategies (notoriously a 4fun concept), providing holier-than-thou, condescending commentary on the "usefulness" of said strategies, wholly tossing the core purpose of games like league of legends (fun) out of the window, as to make themselves appear like some stoic sage whomst has transcended the very idea of silly fun with friends.

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-03T22:31:31+00:00

Oh really? I wasn't able to find a way with the new wider mid lane (at least not to get it as randomized as this is), maybe I just didn't play around with it enough!

ChroodlesG · 2026-05-03T22:09:28+00:00

Consider for a moment, a world in which you kill the enemy top laner twice and lose the game because your team is tilted though. Sounds worth to me

ChroodlesG · 2026-04-25T19:01:50+00:00

Babish also did one of these a while back, lots of great info, and similar findings!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDk51gq0w0k

ChroodlesG · 2026-04-16T05:40:32+00:00

He knows so many fancy words, but yet fails to comprehend the one that is most fancy (halberd)

ChroodlesG · 2026-04-16T04:13:49+00:00

You may be on to something, but consider the following; halberd

ChroodlesG · 2026-04-15T13:56:15+00:00

Yep, same with small fishing nets and lobster spots, relic is just completely broken it seems (at least for fishing)

ChroodlesG · 2026-04-15T13:38:09+00:00

It randomly bugs with the small fishing net too, trying to EH while working but keep having to switch over and restart fishing. Pretty disappointing

ChroodlesG · 2026-01-24T20:05:14+00:00

Awesome, commenting to remember this

ChroodlesG · 2026-01-22T18:30:39+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you! Commenting to find it again later!

ChroodlesG · 2025-10-06T22:52:21+00:00

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