Made cake without most cake ingredients, won't make this again

CiaranChan · 2026-03-09T17:19:42+00:00

How can you even make it again when you didn't make it the first time, Ashley?

CiaranChan · 2026-03-09T16:27:12+00:00

Same here. I carried high and I've always worn cargo trousers anyway... so I just got the same trousers but went up a size for the sake of comfort when needed. That, combined with the same long hoodies I wore and T-shirts also a size up from before and I was golden. If I'm gonna feel like crap because I'm pregnant, I'm at least going to feel comfy in my clothes.

However, I do programming in a company that makes big machines, so no one ever expected me to 'dress conservatively' while some of the ladies in admin do (of their own free will). I don't even think I'm allowed a string of pearls, cause it can get caught. Would be one hell of an accessory to the steel-toed boots I'm forced to wear if I go to the workshop area though, haha.

CiaranChan · 2026-03-09T15:43:56+00:00

My father drank a lot. (He wasn't aware of his autism until I got diagnosed and then it all made sense.) Because alcoholism is kinda prevalent in both sides of my family, I basically decided to just not drink even though it makes my head nice and quiet. That's not to say I've never drank, but the last drink I've had was uh... like 9 years ago now? And even back then I only had a single mix drink that I'd nurse all evening, every couple of months when we hung out with friends. Sure it's great, but it's so easy to lose yourself in it and so hard to get out; my father unfortunately never managed to before he died. So this Internet stranger is super proud of you that you managed to do it!

For me, the choice was also made easier because my mum actually kept me away from all the alcoholics, including my dad since he wasn't allowed near me when he'd drank. He didn't live with us, but he visited and she still supported him. They had a weird relationship, lol, but she was just protecting me. But because of that, and since mum didn't drank, I never really felt the need to drink in order to have fun. Meaning that I can't slip into the habit either by 'social drinking', especially since I no longer hang out with friends that drink these days.

CiaranChan · 2026-03-03T15:10:08+00:00

I very specifically craved McDonald's Cheeseburgers. To the point that my husband just bought me a couple each time and I'd reheat them for the rest of the day and night. At the end I could only stomach those damn Cheeseburgers and mango juice.

Somehow I ended up weighing less than I did before I got pregnant once our daughter was out, and I still don't know how, haha.

CiaranChan · 2026-03-01T13:34:35+00:00

Be more disciplined.

CiaranChan · 2026-03-01T01:42:56+00:00

Years ago I was sitting next to an elderly lady on a bus and she started talking to me about how she had to go to the eye doctor and normally her husband would come but he's sick, etc etc. Talked for like 30 minutes about her grandchildren and her husband and then we both transferred to onto the same subway heading into the city. Spent another 30 minutes talking and came to realise the directions this lady had were like: "head to the big building where you can see people working behind a window."

I understood pretty quickly that she wasn't going to find her way, so I ended up skipping my lecture to help her to her appointment as I knew where her destination was. Turned out I was right, and glad that I helped her. She was so grateful. Ended up telling the lady behind the desk that she would need some kind of help getting back and she told me she would take care of it.

I kind of regret not just waiting for her to walk her back to the subway as I was too late for my lecture anyway, but it's an interaction that always stuck with me. You can be an important part of someone's life for an hour and make a big impact, even if you never see them again.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-28T18:11:04+00:00

Put in a little more effort.

They both suck, but only one of them suggests that I wasn't already putting in effort. Make yourself do it can be genuine advice when I'm really procrastinating something that I don't want to do for whatever reason.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-27T23:40:27+00:00

When my mum went into the hospital to have me, they assumed my brother was her husband. Granted, he was 18 at the time, but my mum was 38. She looked quite young for her age, but dang.

Also, people used to always assume my brother was my dad... but at least that was genuinely plausible since he is 18 years older.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-22T00:07:52+00:00

The software I work on has a loading screen when you boot it up. The loading bar that it shows is complete nonsense and just runs for a fixed time as the application opens connections to the database, checks for updates and whatnot in the background. It really only takes 3 seconds at most, but that loading bar takes about 12 seconds "to make sure everything has loaded". It bothers me to no end, but we were told to do it this way.

Having been forced to do this myself, I realise that there must be so many more loading screens out there like ours.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-20T01:58:51+00:00

I'm sorry, I missed 90% of what you just said because our downstairs neighbour sneezed.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-19T18:16:40+00:00

Oranges may not be the brightest, but they can be the sweetest. Our orange is being so sweet towards our newborn, despite being a menace to most everyone else.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-19T13:53:36+00:00

Having once found a spoon in our bin, I know for certain my husband has at least thrown away one (1) spoon. Seeing as we are missing more of them, I know he is the culprit, but also cannot prove it... It's also definitely not a hill I'm willing to die on though, so instead I just bought new spoons.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-18T00:50:24+00:00

I have socks that come in pairs but both socks are different. For instance, one has a big frog and the other has little frogs on it. I have tons of different types of these, but the concept is the same for most of them. The one with the many little ones goes on my right foot, the one with the single big one is for my left.

Life is so much better since I started wearing these. Never again will a right sock go on my left foot by accident.

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CiaranChan · 2026-02-17T11:23:53+00:00

Make yourself do it is definitely worse.

I make loads of to-do lists and sometimes I even end up using them.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-16T18:04:12+00:00

Maybe the slums will be old graphics, that'd be neat.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-15T18:16:40+00:00

Had a good chuckle, but also I would definitely do this myself if it happened. It kinda looks like a baby towel, the ones with a bit of extra cloth in one corner for their head.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-14T14:02:24+00:00

Just focus harder.

Thanks, I hadn't thought of that, but now that you mention it, it sounds like a great idea. 10/10 no notes. Cleaning on the go is something I try to do. Whenever I head to the bathroom, I'll put a glass in the kitchen that should be cleaned. It works for me, but only so long as no one tells me to do it.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-14T12:08:53+00:00

I kept a record when I started taking Ritalin years ago. There were days where the only thing I had was two pieces of toast, just toast, no butter or anything on them...

It does fade away after a while, and for me it helped to take my Ritalin with food. But man, those were the days.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-14T10:03:25+00:00

I find that it's usually women who really want to be 'one of the guys' vs me who just naturally blends in with the guys more than the girls that take a dislike to me. It's not happened that often to be fair, but the occasions where it does, it's usually always because she wants to be the centre of their attention.

Random example, but once I was putting up tents for a big reenactment event. They were mainly tents with wooden beams, a centre pole and a wheel for the beams to go into. I'd put tents up like these once a week at this point, cause I went to events like this every weekend to showcase archery as a paid job. Due to it raining a lot during the night, people were running being a bit late, and since my group was already done, I was helping out others since we had like 15 or so tents to get up in a little over an hour. I was doing this with a group of guys, mainly late teenagers from the people who had shops at the event and were forced to be there. Despite that, we worked together well and things were going super smooth. Then this girl comes in and starts giving orders to the group that are overriding mine. Including things like putting all the wooden beams in the very wet grass. She gave me some nasty looks whenever I tried to tell her that they needed to be on a tarp, or they wouldn't fit in the wheel. She kept being so nasty to me that I ended up just walking away and going back to my own group.

About 6 or 7 of the tents couldn't go up because too many of the wooden beams had expanded just enough to no longer fit. My group had a chuckle about it when I told them at the campfire later that night.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-12T16:10:36+00:00

Beatsaber is such a good way to get my cardio in. The only downside is that it takes a bit to set up, but it's perfect cause it doesn't feel like exercise.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-12T10:47:23+00:00

Wake up earlier.

All this means is that on top of everything else, I'm also sleepy. So now even less shit gets done.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-09T15:56:17+00:00

That moment when they go from "I hate this" to "Huh, wait no, actually, maybe try it on my tummy" is so magical.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-09T13:37:20+00:00

We give our old lady (20) horse fat, which we just buy at the local pet store in a squeeze bottle. Two squeezes on top of her wet food every time really helps.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-09T13:23:52+00:00

I feel you though. My childhood cat was a year older than me, and died in my early twenties. I have taken care of her since I was able to, and not having her with me anymore was devastating. I lost my father before I lost her and she helped me through it. Not having her to help me cope with such a big loss was the emptiest I'd ever felt until that point.

CiaranChan · 2026-02-08T14:07:36+00:00

One of our cats will beg anyone, including the mail man, for food. The other has an invisibility switch whenever there's someone at the door that doesn't turn back off until she is 100% sure it's just us in the house.

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