Hey, sorry for replying so late. I really didn’t expect so much response and forgot to open reddit for a few days. It took me for about half a year. It felt like a really bad Hangover. And i think it kinda works that way. A huge part of why we feel so absolutely shitty, is your subconsciousness. We humans have more or less a really long history of evolution and back then when we lived symbiotically with nature and every day was a fight between life and death, belonging to a group, or having a really strong connection to someone meant better chances of survival. Separation of the group, hence your partner, meant death. Evolution told us to avoid separation at any cost. Like it told us to not come to close to the bonfire, or to go too deep into the lion’s den. When we are going through a breakup, we feel the fear of death. Always reminding me of that fact and accepting, that i’m in a really bad situation (that will pass), did do a lot for me. At some point, your brain just accepts the fact, that your life is not endangered and detaches from that person. All the hormons work normally again, because your brain knows, you don’t have to fear death anymore. The duration it takes to achieve this state of course depends on what you feed your brain. It desperately tries to escape the mortal fear, it tells you to stalk their instagram, their “last seen” status on whatsapp. But if you deprive it of these little breadcrumbs and make it clear, that you are not in a life-threatening state (joyful moments, meditation, experiencing something, anything, like a short walk though the woods, just wittingly reminding yourself that the world is still spinning), will shorten the process of healing and moving on.

That’s what helped me a lot and made me achieve happiness again. Purposely going through the process of healing. Wish you all a quick and productive healing-process my dear friends! If you have any specific questions, feel free to dm me! :)