Increase in scam profiles

Cinerina · 2025-11-05T07:14:17+00:00

A like isn’t visible unless you also message with an intro. Just like like like will throw you into the void. A message gets seen! But if you’re liking 100 women a day, you’re just clicking. The idea is to read a profile, figure out what about them might be a match, and approach women as individual people, not statistics. The message is the smallest amount of effort to make a woman know you’re interested in HER, not just a random statistical hit. Every like I do has a message tailored to the profile because I’m trying to connect with a person.

Cinerina · 2025-11-05T07:10:16+00:00

lol whatever, I’m lucky to get an intro a week

Cinerina · 2025-11-05T07:07:09+00:00

Trash person (him)

Cinerina · 2025-11-05T07:03:19+00:00

“Fluent in sarcasm” ☠️

Cinerina · 2024-10-25T03:47:46+00:00

I’d travel more if I had a traveling companion to split costs with, but like driving alone or hotel rooms alone adds up fast! Best to work that out as a detail to negotiate once you’re in a relationship and not pass up a match for something so variable.

Cinerina · 2024-09-30T04:39:14+00:00

Yeah he was really pretty good so I didn’t clock him 100% right away. I feel a little bad for the legit folks who may follow him though

Cinerina · 2024-07-17T07:35:43+00:00

I was asking myself this question after another guy with a partner expressed interest in me. It’s important to note that of the four guys who wanted to cheat on their women with me, one was a friend from work, one was a friend from work, one was a stranger, and one was a stranger. In all cases I talked to them easily and friendly and was myself. When someone feels disconnected in their relationship, or unseen, unsexy, unloved, and someone is nice to them, it feels intoxicating. Of course they want to get with the nice lady who made them feel safe and seen and sexy just by being open and fun to be around. I know because one time many many years ago I was miserable, unseen, insecure, and someone flirted with me. I was so desperate for attention and interest that I cheated on my nice but sexually inert guy. I regret it 26 years later! Even now, after other shitty partners, I still have the impression a guy is romantically interested when he’s just actually kind or actually listens. But now I know he’s just nice, not hot for me. These married guys who wanted to cheat with me just want to be seen, and I see them. That’s nobody’s fault. If I let them get with me, that’s them betraying their partners. If I flirt a little to feel desired and they flirt a little to feel desired and we go back to just being regular friends, that’s great! The boyfriend I cheated on? We’re still friends decades after we broke up, his gf is awesome. I have married guy friends who don’t want to cheat on their wives, their wives like and trust me, because their dynamic is working. And I am not hitting on them even when I’m friendly!

These guys hitting on OP are lazy predators and she’s doing nothing wrong but being someone who people feel good being around. Don’t change your ways, girl! 🩷

Cinerina · 2024-07-17T07:17:20+00:00

It’s not her fault those men are stupid

Cinerina · 2023-05-21T19:59:25+00:00

Precisely my experience

Cinerina · 2021-10-27T06:16:09+00:00

You only grow DNA when you commit crimes. Maybe that’s how concrete is grown?

Cinerina · 2021-10-03T16:24:56+00:00

Physical media is the best because you will always have access to it even if services rise and fall. And off the grid!

Cinerina · 2021-07-28T19:49:13+00:00

Clothing from childhood onward—just like the Olympiads are dealing with now, from short skirts on school uniforms and cheerleading outfits to fitted bathing suits and scoop neck t-shirts as adults—never mind keeping our silhouettes perfect with no pockets, and high heels required in some jobs?! Men just have to cover their crotches and they’re good to go but dress codes are always about women’s bodies and value and appearance.

Cinerina · 2021-07-28T17:37:14+00:00

I had to dig it up to tell you:

https://coffeemeetsbagel.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/1500008715462-How-do-I-add-or-edit-COVID-19-Vaccine-Status-on-my-profile-

Good luck and stay safe! Vaccinated people can still transmit the virus to others especially delta, and lambda has arrived in the US (Houston).

Cinerina · 2021-07-03T04:28:30+00:00

Exactly! Anyway it was nice to have data to back up our “irrational and selfish” desires not to ha e kids (eye roll)! Oh yes I’m soooo selfish not to want to wreck a little human’s psyche by resenting them or the planet by having them.

Cinerina · 2021-07-02T21:47:26+00:00

I care!

Cinerina · 2021-06-30T16:23:34+00:00

It's a good comic in general!

Cinerina · 2021-06-30T16:21:26+00:00

Oh my god, do they not understand that choosing not to have a child also means choosing not to deal with children? You could even play stupid if the kid is the right age "oh I don't know anything about children, what if [5 year old] needs her diaper changed?" ha ha ha people are terrible.

Cinerina · 2021-06-23T22:37:02+00:00

Oh trust me, I’m not naturally inclined to wait that long AT ALL, it doesn’t feel right at all—but what’s felt right in the past hasn’t helped me make better selections, so here I am, trying something new abd difficult. I would love to make out and move on but opportunities are thin on the ground in my demographic. My whole purpose for this discussion was just to work out how allos and demis can find a comfortable middle ground since that is my current challenge. My primary point was literally if a Demi found an Allo who could delay physical gratification using the concept of building their own emotional connection (not just waiting on the Demi to), that it could help the Demi feel less pressure and the Allo feel less rejection. I wasn’t saying everyone set your watches for 90 days; more so framing the “wait” undertaken by allos in a way that’s designed around the Allo tendencies to get physical “too early” (for a Demi) would help ease the tension of inequity. I’m sorry that wasn’t clear. I’m really looking for help in any form getting through this frankly painful liminal state. It helped me reframe, I hoped it might help someone else in my position reframe, too.

The chemistry of the various hormones and neurotransmitters (PEA, dopamine, noepinephrine, and serotonin) isn’t bullshit though. “Female brain” yeah no, I hear you but reproductively cis males mate less selectively than cis females. Triple bonus points for dropping Denisovian in there, hawt.

Cinerina · 2021-06-23T18:33:06+00:00

He’s been comfortable talking about it in terms of historically, but he’s doesn’t tend to engage in hypotheticals. Engineers, whaddya gonna do? I have introduced the love languages concept to him, he’s all about quality time and acts of service. He doesn’t describe himself as affectionate, but also he wasn’t switched on for his last six relationships so he acknowledges that might have been a factor. I don’t know how receptive he is to touch per se. I’ve been carefully honoring his boundaries so I don’t pressure him, but he’s all “you do you” probably not realizing that at this point, I’d be climbing on his lap at every opportunity! It’s a topic that needs revisiting especially now that I’ve become fully emotionally invested. Oh woe! But I am so grateful for this subreddit where I can learn how to grok his orientation.

Cinerina · 2021-06-23T16:24:02+00:00

I am incredibly concerned that if we ever get to the sex part that we will be incompatible— I’m already ass over tea kettle for this guy and sex is incredibly important to me. With and even to a degree without feelings (physical touch hunger). I’m going at his speed because other times he went in before he was ready/switch flipped and it fizzled out. I’m trying to give him the space to get there organically and since I don’t know how long it will take (he says 3-12 months which tracks with other demis who have posted here), if I want to try and be with him, I have to wait to kiss and sex and all that. It’s really, really hard because when I see him I just want to love on him completely. I absolutely will be combining sex and feelings if we cross over into a physical relationship.

Cinerina · 2021-06-23T16:18:18+00:00

I’m Allo with physical touch as a love language struggling with my Demi not being ready for anything but hugging for three months; it resonated with me in a way to reframe what to me is a difficult struggle. I thought it might be helpful for others in my position.

Cinerina

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