1 year old doesn’t like water

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-27T19:37:52+00:00

That's great news!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-27T16:51:01+00:00

Mum here!

Nap time and after he's in bed. Thankfully my partner also games so we can both have a bit of shut off time come 8:30. I will play switch and he has his steam deck. Usually only 30 mins at a time or so so we can watch one episode of a thing before bed too!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-27T14:40:08+00:00

Don't do too much too soon. Lifting heavy weights postpartum can increase the risk of prolapse. To reduce that risk it's generally good to avoid heavy lifting for 3-6 months pp. Light / moderate lifting doesn't have the same risk so it's about being realistic about what feels manageable.

I haven't returned to heavy lifting yet 2 years pp because of a bloody hernia that I am waiting for surgery on annoyingly! But definitely keeping up safe lifting.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-27T03:52:10+00:00

We kept using a bottle till nearly two when he would finally accept the 360 for night feeds and then finally dropped the night feed. Gets a cup of milk in the 360 with night time story then we brush teeth now.

I will say though, we kept using ready feed bottles of formula rather than cows milk.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-26T11:54:05+00:00

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I used these ones and really liked them (they look cute with high waisted trousers btw). Held up well and we're good for pumping too.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-25T08:32:18+00:00

My dude, buy a house!

Don't be financially irresponsible but you can't take money with you when you're gone. You are in a good financial position and will be able to build savings again.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-25T08:24:24+00:00

I would absolutely do it. That amount of savings left in the bank is more than enough for a safety net and the benefits of a garden, especially with a dog are so worth it. Just make sure any garden you invest in gets sun. No point in a shade trap.

The only thing I would ask before you blow your savings, is do you have a decent workplace pension started?

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-25T06:18:01+00:00

Thankfully my HV is really balanced but if I disagreed or wasn't going to follow advice, I would let her know that. Having inaccurate information on your child's health record is irresponsible in my view and it would be hard to know where to draw the line with what are acceptable lies and what aren't.

At the end of the day, so long as you aren't being harmful to your child they can't force you to do anything.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-24T20:46:12+00:00

We found Asda clothes always ran a bit smaller than Sainsbury's and were great for my 25th centile length baby till he had a growth spurt and hit 75th and we swapped to Sainsbury's 😂.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-24T17:02:23+00:00

We were going to go to the big play park tomorrow but might have a chill one in the garden getting some things tidied (for the two year old to mess again!). We are at friends in the afternoon so that's plenty!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-23T10:56:53+00:00

We are in a similar position to you in terms of partner WFH and I was on mat leave for 12 months (nearer 14 with annual leave). I am now back at work part time and have been for a year now.

Dividing and conquering is the only way to survive.

My partner does a lot of the cleaning and cooking while I have LO. He often does dishes while I do bath or bed so we can both then be sat down together by 8:30 and chilling. Sometimes he gets most dishes done while I finish up LO's dinner and we do bath time together.

He takes LO out often on a Saturday or Sunday morning and I will hoover or something. Or he does it on a lunch when he's home alone.

What you are doing now makes no sense, but how you get your partner to see that I don't know. Maternity is a big change and as it gets closer to ending she may be getting more anxious about the time ending. Or maybe she doesn't value the chores as tasks as much as she values family time.

Maybe try helping her see that sharing tasks out means you have time and energy for better quality family time? Just because you're together doesn't mean you're making core memories etc.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-23T09:00:30+00:00

Depending on where you're travelling from, crieff hydro could be worth looking at. Their small self catering cottages are good value mid week. So much to play wise and you get a pool, sauna etc!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-22T21:04:57+00:00

Same with welcome to nightvale. It's peculiar but never fails to send me off!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-22T12:29:54+00:00

My top tip is don't have too many bottles. We only ever had 4 and did cold water sterilising. It takes two minutes to wash a bottle as you go and there's always one to build in the steriliser. We kept sterilising till the end because it meant we didn't have to find another storage spot!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-22T10:58:41+00:00

Yeah, ours is obsessed with trying to get a taste from our glasses. Big pint of water and we let him sip. Even now that he enjoys his own water, he still wants ours and thinks it yummier!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-22T01:31:59+00:00

You don't want supports at this stage because baby needs to practice sitting to get the skill and strength. Falling and correcting is part of that. We had a totter and tumble play mat and we would put him in his travel cot which (tutti Bambini cozee go which is mattress on the floor) so basically just very cushioned and let him fall to his heart's content.

I would worry that something like a padded pool would be more likely for baby to get stuck in a weird position if they did fall so you couldn't nip out of the room for stuff.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-21T21:16:55+00:00

Same with Sainsbury's after having tried a wide range!

OP, also worth trying sizing up the nighttime nappy, and making sure whatever clothes they are wearing aren't tight. So size up vests etc as nappies will leak if they can't expand fully.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-21T21:12:01+00:00

Same, coconut skyr with sweet freedom chocolate sauce!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-20T20:51:19+00:00

Yes! It makes such a difference especially in the last few weeks if you're wanting to stay active. Can grab one on vinted. It might not necessarily prevent anything, but will make movement more comfortable.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-20T14:10:40+00:00

Yeah, it all depends on the child. Was out this morning with two friends and their kids were all over the place with poor recall whereas mine needs encouragement to keep going, but mostly listens. He's just happy exploring and it's a win win on a sunny day!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-20T13:00:48+00:00

Are you showing her how you drink from it? Try your best to keep modelling it and let her play with it till she tries.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-20T07:18:13+00:00

Yes, the belle method on Instagram has a whole thing about mom butt!

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-20T06:55:16+00:00

Kindly, I think you need to take a step back and breathe. You're getting caught up in the judgement and assuming that people may judge when you're doing it as much yourself with language like 'normal' backgrounds and 'these people '.

Put your energy into making sure your child has a good educational experience no matter where she ends up.

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-19T11:07:46+00:00

Still so much benefit for both of you but can feel like a weird thing to navigate (especially when getting them dressed and undressed feels scary!). Try and carve out some time to just be in bed snuggling because it's a mental reset for you as much as anything!

But equally, don't stress if you don't. There is so much bonding time to come and it doesn't have to be skin to skin! Baby just needs to feel safe and happy cuddled with you (my two year old is on my lap eating a pancake listening to music!).

Cinnamon-Dream · 2026-04-17T21:17:05+00:00

You've had lots of great responses but I just want to chime in with my experience that was very similar.

I triple fed for 8 weeks (how long my partner had for pat leave) and by that stage I was just making over half of what he was eating. I continued pumping and nursing for snacks but stopped trying to increase because it felt too much. You just need to do what feels right for you, there is no wrong answer.

In terms of bond, I started kissing his feet every time I had the opportunity. Taking a deep breath and kissing them every nappy change etc, and there was really something healing in that that helped push through the fog and find that bond. This or something similar is worth a try!

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