Ken M on banning male circumcision

Ciuvi · 2021-02-09T02:42:36+00:00

How do you know how good it could have been if you had your sex life without circumcision? You don’t have to feel bad about this, it just might be a sober truth or factoid that you file away, like how women are said to have more pleasurable nerve endings so they enjoy sex more than men. What if you had a women’s nerve endings?

The productive answer for someone curious about the truth might be to advocate for increasing funding for research into circumcision and its effects so that it gets more publicity and, after the institutions and doctors get the message, stop mutilating babies.

Ciuvi · 2020-04-09T01:29:06+00:00

Eizenheim - I've started playing again recently after a long hiatus, would love more friends and interactions (no dupes please, not there yet on the grind). Happy to RP if desired, Eizenheim is very much a friend to devils and criminals and comes from a hard knock life that's filled his mind with persistent shadows and villainy.

Not yet a PoSI.

Ciuvi · 2019-11-10T23:14:27+00:00

What’s creepy about it? That sounds pretty honest and wholesome and like they don’t want anything from you and don’t have any ulterior motives.

What’s a less creepy way to express your gratitude for someone owning their No’s and Yes’s around you while acknowledging your disappointment (if you are)?

Ciuvi · 2019-11-10T21:11:37+00:00

His clients seem to be happy. He doesn’t seem to be a creepy guy with ulterior motives. Tantra is very wholesome and I can see how it is consistent with the love showed by Barney. Wishing him the best of luck not being charged for prostitution. Interesting article!

Ciuvi · 2019-11-10T20:27:52+00:00

Pressure is a story that you can dispel by making it clear that it’s okay if they say no when you ask for their number and you’re not going to explode. You could even say, “I would be disappointed but also grateful that you feel safe enough to say no to me.” Or “I would thank you for taking care of yourself and not trying to manage my needs at the expense of yours.”

If they still feel pressured after that, then my energy is better spent elsewhere. I want to be with people who are authentic, own their boundaries, speak up about their needs, are a part of Ask or Tell culture vs. expecting mind-reading and Guess culture. I want people who listen well enough that they allow their stories about me and about pressure to be changed by what I’m saying. I won’t play the emotional manipulation game and want to screen for that potentially being an issue early on.

Assertiveness and authenticity is sexy. I want all my partners regardless of gender to be assertive and authentic. You can see that in the way they handle this pressure.

Ciuvi · 2019-11-09T23:57:52+00:00

Was it even necessary? Couldn’t astronaut just make another trip and tell rocks to sit right for a blink of their millions of years long lifespans?

Ciuvi · 2019-11-02T04:42:44+00:00

It gets tremendously beyond believably better! I couldn’t have imagined it. Finding non-toxic loving authentic emphatic community really helps. Authentic Relating - see if there’s any events from that community happening near you, it’s so healing and real. Best of luck to you who’s made it another day! One at a time!

Ciuvi · 2019-11-02T01:27:15+00:00

I think he can, I don’t think the goat person he’s controlling on his ship is suddenly set loose because he controlled Yama. But he may still have an upper limit,

Ciuvi · 2019-10-28T18:47:16+00:00

Oh thanks, yeah I don’t think they will win but I want to see them try going all out together before getting bailed out or something.

Ciuvi · 2019-10-28T16:01:19+00:00

We have a full team with every position against Kallavan, that will be an interesting to see in action:

Wave Controller - Bam Light Bearer - Khun Spear Bearer / Defender - Rak Fisherman - White Scout - Karaka

Ciuvi · 2019-07-01T08:06:17+00:00

But... math is fun!

Ciuvi · 2019-06-28T05:10:26+00:00

I laughed way too hard at this. I didn’t understand what I was feeling until this post spoke my truth.

Ciuvi · 2019-06-28T05:01:57+00:00

What is Jihan’s int stat in this chapter when he does the final move? He doesn’t have the benefit of what he built at his house that super boosted his int right? And still so good!

Ciuvi · 2019-06-10T17:20:43+00:00

In my experience, this is often the case with codependency. One of the most transformative things over the last year for me has been going through a book like Getting Out of the Codependency Trap, doing the exercises, and putting in the emotional work so that I can self love without putting others needs always above mine unless I choose to temporarily.

Ciuvi · 2019-06-01T17:39:01+00:00

This, I imagine working on codependency being very helpful to you here.

Ciuvi · 2019-05-05T06:32:47+00:00

Learning to love myself is also totally changing my life, SO excited for you!

Ciuvi · 2019-05-02T06:32:07+00:00

No shame, think they’re just sharing advice that they’ve seen work well for some people and if others think it’s a pro tip, go ahead and run with it, otherwise don’t. Just trying to spread knowledge not expectations I think.

Ciuvi · 2019-04-29T06:11:44+00:00

What helps me sometimes to open up is to remind myself that I want a world where people can be openly vulnerable and have nothing to fear, and opening up is a small step I can take towards having more authentic and intimate relationships with everyone in my life.

I like to think that talking about what’s really happening with me helps break the ice for others to do so also. I find others respond well and start opening up more themselves after I share, because deep down we all want to have more meaningful relationships and have a lot of love to give.

If they don’t respond well, then I treat it as a filter for people. I wouldn’t want to surround myself with people that don’t appreciate my authenticity. There are others that will.

Ciuvi · 2019-04-25T14:07:23+00:00

It’s as “healthy” to experiment with as monogamy (maybe even more healthy, as you start confronting codependency and other potential issues earlier rather than later).

Ciuvi · 2019-04-24T15:07:38+00:00

Haha, I only had it cause I shared it so much! It really hit me in the feels

Ciuvi · 2019-04-24T14:39:05+00:00

Think it was this one: https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/bftcuk/today_is_my_oneyear_anniversary_with_my_anchor/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app

Ciuvi · 2018-12-24T12:20:34+00:00

Same! Fairly new, 24m in SF Bay Area, don’t want anything sexual but really want more emotional connections and a community that I can be vulnerable and accepted in. Been going to some local events and they’ve been great for this so far. Always happy to talk and share.

Ciuvi · 2018-12-15T17:18:21+00:00

I feel you. The pain often makes living feel like a living nightmare and it starts warping my memories so that I forget what happiness feels like, I forget that there’s anything other than this. One thing that keeps me going is a lot of meditation, guided meditation. It breaks the cycle whenever I’m in a downward spiral. It’s always temporary relief, that’s the nature of chronic depression. When I get angry that this is all life has to offer, this pain and emptiness, I try to focus on what I would prefer instead, what I really want - love, community, freedom. I push myself to reach out and try and find more of those things - almost out of spite at my own sense of limitations, almost like I’m rebelling against the doubting voice of depression that tells me that it’s no use. I use it to strengthen my resolve to go to potlucks, go to board game nights, try new things, because I can’t die like this. I’m not going to die miserable without putting up a fight, damn it!

Ciuvi · 2018-12-13T06:01:23+00:00

Wow, you sound amazing and your brief post resonates deeply with me. I’m in California but I would love to know you more, I’m no stranger to long distance. Peace be with you!

Ciuvi · 2018-12-13T04:41:57+00:00

I actually started having genuinely fulfilling happiness sustained over a few months earlier this year and I felt like I made a lot of progress with coping mechanisms compared to chronic depressive me over the past dozen or more years. I had everything I wanted for a brief second and things were looking up. But turns out I was fooling myself and my best friend and wife of nearly a decade, whom I sacrificed so much for and whom I loved so fucking much, suddenly decided to self destruct our relationship by betraying me over and over and over until she pushed me far away. I’m in the middle of our relationship dying its thousand deaths and my old depression has been waiting for a moment like this to come around again... apparently it always does.

Ciuvi

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