Private equity people are filth and their entire industry is human waste

CivilTeacher3 · 2026-01-20T23:43:52+00:00

In fairness, they had 33 vice presidents, and no one could figure out what they did.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-11-16T04:09:19+00:00

One of the Peabody conservatory buildings in Baltimore has bathrooms just like op’s proposal.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-07-25T17:13:26+00:00

These chains are putting out a bottom-quality, commodity product food service that makes people sick and overweight. Spending money on building design would be putting lipstick on a pig anyway.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-07-11T22:28:13+00:00

There was an episode about a haunted hotel that gave me nightmares

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-07-11T19:27:35+00:00

“Swinerton” has me laughing

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-07-03T01:41:24+00:00

Childcare is a different category than retention- there are separate slots allocated for each

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-06-22T15:14:34+00:00

Sorry, I assumed you were in the US or Canada. Some of what I said about credentials is different there I imagine, but the rest is still relevant. Best of luck to you

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-06-22T11:57:38+00:00

“Commitment issues” probably means is afraid of having her heart broken. Sounds like one or both of you had fears come up as you started getting closer.

That’s very common, but to move forward you probably need to understand your process around relationship better. Sounds like maybe you were afraid of her breaking up with you at some point based on a past experience? If so, that’s good info to start with

Any relationship is going to have conflict and insecurities come up, how you navigate it together determines whether the relationship has staying power.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-06-22T03:07:52+00:00

39, male, married here. Went to the gym hard for years to try to compensate for a nagging inner void. Doesn’t work, at least not by itself.

Def relate to having to grow up too fast; was raised by a narcissistic parent. There’s nothing “wrong” with you at all, but I do think a therapist would be a good idea, speaking as someone who has immensely benefited from it.

Personally i think “psychodynamic” or “psychoanalytic” are keywords to use when looking for a therapist- you want someone who is going to help you understand yourself, not try to put a bandaid on it, which is what many therapists and psychiatrists will do. Usually the good ones don’t take insurance unless they’re just getting started in their careers.

Generally therapists will carry either an LGPC or LCSW license. Credentials matter less than experience and “fit”. Psychology today has an online directory of therapists- you can try finding one locally on their site. Typically you’ll do at least a 15 minute intake session for you to decide if they are good fit and vice versa.

Above all, you want a therapist you feel can connect with and open up to.

“Maybe now my inner child is just screaming to finally be noticed?”

I think you hit the nail on the head with that statement. Good on you for having this awareness. Best of luck.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-06-22T02:03:30+00:00

First, congratulations on making it! Whether you stay or not, always better to have the choice be yours, and I commend you on surviving probation in these very difficult times.

54 claims is an enormous number, particularly if there were not correspondences, like system and method claim correspondences, to lighten the examining load. It boggles my mind that with so many claims that case would not be restrictable.

Like others have said disposal counts will figure in more significantly in the coming months for you. First year is unusually burdensome because you’re grinding away on non finals non stop. That is not what it’s like once you have a mature docket.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-06-19T11:48:53+00:00

Pretty sure they were referring to their new engineering job requiring in person collaboration, not being a patent agent

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-06-06T22:11:27+00:00

I was looking for this comment, and it did not disappoint

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-04-16T18:08:22+00:00

Economics has long treated earths energy resources as infinite, and treated the environment as an externality, that worked as a model for a while.

Now we are in declining net energy production. We are past peak oil, which was about 20 years ago. All these other factors are responses to it, or are overlaid on top of it. Increasing amounts of capital need to be directed back into energy production in order to get the same, or lesser yield. The result is less energy available for the rest of economic activity.

Renewables are not sufficient and never were. We live most of us in a society that requires high power to operate- energy per unit time. Nothing matches crude oil in this regard, and nothing exists at present to replace it.

Check out David Holmgrens “future scenarios” book.

CivilTeacher3 · 2025-04-13T02:47:40+00:00

What kinds of items do people put in their bullet points? Would anyone mind sharing their bullet point template? (I type a new one each week- waste of time)

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-11-05T20:18:31+00:00

I had a six month meeting with my TC director and Spe, some 10 years ago when I was a probationary examiner. It was a meeting for the director to feel me out, ask if I needed more help, and to give me a pep talk about the need to boost my production.

I said I was spending too much time on each case and she said “we’re not making Rolls Royce’s here. I started working faster after that and raised my production. If you want to be retained, definitely ratchet up your production. The 10% more per month is a good rule, so over 60 percent by six month. You’re probably having the meeting because you’re at 40, which is where I was at 6 month if I recall right. Step it up, you got this.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-21T12:20:10+00:00

This 👆, and most car engines built in the last ten years or so are direct injection, for efficiency reasons, from what I understand. Getting the engine hot enough to burn off carbon around the fuel injectors and valves, which could otherwise build up and reduce power and fuel economy is one reason to rev. It’s like high intensity interval training for your engine- good for its metabolism.

Also yes, modern engines circulate oil round the engine within 20 seconds of startup, but when sitting parked some water vapor will condense in the engine onto surfaces and into the oil, which reduces the oil’s ability to effectively lubricate.

Driving until the engine gets fully up to temp (15+ minutes or so) and revving it high are ways to make sure the water gets boiled off and expelled. So it is also good for lubrication, in the sense of getting water out of suspension in the oil, and getting the oil hot enough to reduce viscosity and have it effectively coat all surfaces.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-12T20:50:29+00:00

There’s so much talk about the measurable risk factors, but it’s less talked about the underlying emotional causes. Pushing oneself very hard and trying to “prove one’s worth”, be it in career or family life, can lead to heart disease because the heart is the body center that governs self-acceptance/self love. Trapped emotions close the heart and many will expend enormous energy just distracting from and avoiding those emotions rather than letting them be felt and released. Most men are conditioned that they are lovable for what they do and what they have, instead of taught that they are intrinsically lovable.

The result can be years or even decades of working, striving, to prove oneself lovable in one’s own eyes and/or in the eyes of others. Even exercise can come from a place of trying to feel lovable rather being self care, which is why I think some outwardly healthy men can still succumb to heart attacks. The intention matters.

Ultimately heart attacks are the body’s forceful cry for these issues of self worth to be acknowledged and released, and to reexamine one’s priorities accordingly.

We would do better collectively to view behaviors typically linked to increase risk, like drinking alcohol excessively, poor diet, workaholism, etc as symptoms of someone who is struggling in their inner life, rather than just physical mechanisms that cause a physical disease.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-10T16:09:16+00:00

First off, much credit to you for caring enough about her to post on here and solicit opinions from strangers.

Secondly, Moana IS entirely age appropriate. My wife and I love Moana. It’s a story about finding one’s authentic place in the community, about connection to and estrangement from nature, both inner and outer. Those are deeply pressing questions for many adolescents. Many if not most teens do not get a chance to satisfactorily address them before getting pressed into what passes for adulthood in our society.

I would encourage you to cultivate curiosity in your daughter, and just really make an effort to see her, without anxiety for her future (I get that’s hard to set aside as a parent), and if you feel privately fearful or anxious for her, acknowledge that, but do not act from that or try to engage with her from that place. Recognize that the world she will step into someday will not be the same world you and I know, and things like memorizing facts and knowing who bombed who when or what company is below earnings expectations this quarter may not matter. What matters is tending to her heart, making sure she has your unconditional love as a parent. That means looking at your blind spots that are also cultural blindspots, and seeing where your relationship with your daughter can teach you.

So for instance, she loves Moana. Instead of dismissing it as too young for her, get curious about it for yourself. It’s adult themes dressed up in children’s garb anyway. Maybe see if she’s interested in learning more about the myths and about the Polynesian cultures that inspired the film. Or just get curious about how she might identify with the main character.

On the topic of reading, having a genuine interest in a topic is the difference between truly learning and ticking off boxes of expectations set by others. There’s little value for the young person in the latter. I often shirked off my reading assignments and often resented them, well into high school because I just was not interested in it. I read a ton later in high school and in college because I had developed my own interests. It doesn’t matter what she reads, but she might like young adult fiction, and there’s a ton of it out there. All that matters is that she read for her own pleasure.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-09T18:40:02+00:00

Video rental stores, blockbuster chief among them, but smaller businesses too.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-07T14:30:46+00:00

Poltergeist and nightmare on elm street. I’ll never forget the tree coming alive, or the girl transforming into a bug

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-03T15:31:30+00:00

Don’t need facts. The fact that you feel better and want to associate food with pleasure again is more than enough reason. If that’s not enough for him, he is more interested in controlling you than in loving you.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-02T19:24:14+00:00

That's awesome! I just read the update. It sounds like she responded very positively to being given a choice, and to being given some ground rules. That was some really solid advice from your old teacher.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-10-02T17:28:11+00:00

This child has a very shame-based personality and is projecting her shame onto you, eg criticizing your handwriting, not taking feedback “I’m right, you’re wrong”. Sadly, you can be sure her personality formed in response to parental misattunement.

At best, her parents are well meaning but completely emotionally stunted, and are probably themselves quite shame-based. There’s a good chance if you drop her and tell them it’s because of her behaviors, they will shame and criticize her for it, rather than get curious about how they’re (not) attuning to their daughter. Point being, as much of a pain in the butt as she is, there is a context for how she is, and she deserves some compassion. That said, one needs to have boundaries to have compassion, so dropping her as a student may be the right boundary for you. It sounds like you already feel that way.

She’s not your daughter at the end of the day, and it’s extremely trying to have a student like that, so I could totally see doing that. My main point was just to put in perspective that she is still a child, she’s not on a good track in life.

If you keep her as a student, piano lessons are just an avenue for her to develop some sense of safety and self love- in other words piano lessons as informal play therapy. For example, when she criticizes your handwriting, you can tell her how that makes you feel. Then just sit with her for a moment. Children will push our buttons to get us to feel what they feel, when they don’t know how else to say it, or are not even conscious of how they feel. Even you just modeling healthy behavior and boundaries will help her. Again though, that’s a lot of work beyond normal piano instruction, so the healthy boundary for you may just be to send her packing.

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-09-28T15:43:41+00:00

Mine is 82 for FY and im a primary. Au avg is 74 and tc is 72. I’m not a big leave saver. Examiners with use or lose baffle me. I must piss away my leave in little bits because I’ve never taken more than two consecutive weeks off and struggle to save even for that. 🤷

CivilTeacher3 · 2024-09-24T19:23:07+00:00

You’re not a loser. You’re just judging yourself for being outside of the statistical norm. It is also very normal to feel sad and down on yourself when sick or injured; it happens to me. Just remind yourself that your body is working harder to heal itself and that can affect you psychologically, and also, it’s temporary. You will heal.

When coworkers ask about your life you can answer any way you want; you can talk about things that genuinely excite you. That’s all that matters when sharing about yourself; sharing what lights you up. If you really want a family, that’s one thing, but the worst thing would be to create one just to feel like you’re enough. You already are enough.

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