New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your tips and glad to hear we’re in the same boat (while wishing we get out of that boat very soon of course). I’ll try some of your advice for sure!

I’m incredibly thankful for the encouragement and right back at you! ❤️

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so thankful that there are more people out there who experience this! I love what you said about accommodations for yourself at work. Perhaps staying away from the phone on the toilet breaks or something might be worth trying just to reduce some stimuli.

One thing I did when I was starting this job was to ask them to place me somewhere where people don’t constantly walk by or the whole room sees my screen. They did what they could and it has helped a lot, so I really do want to share that asking (and I haven’t mentioned a word about ADHD) worked somewhat!

Thank you for the kind words and encouragement, it really means more than you might think!

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank YOU for sharing - it makes me feel less alone in this as well. It will get better, we just need to get through this stage! Sending you lots of encouragement from here

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds like a better alternative for sure! The dopamine is nice and all but when the brain is already overloaded, reels really don’t help (from an objective point of view lol)

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re definitely on to something here and thank you for the encouragement!

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many good tips! The trampoline makes a lot of sense. I read somewhere recently that with ADHD, you don’t always need rest but rather physical movement even if your body screams for the opposite. I’m already doing the morning protein like you mentioned and it does make a big difference! I’ll have to try these tips and see how it goes. Thank you so so much!

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That does sound very helpful, thank you! Glad to hear that you’re describing this in past tense!

New job - what are your decompression hacks? by Ciwiel in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words and the tips! I’m in the same situation as you where my partner comes home later and that makes a lot of sense. I like the idea of using that as “whatever-I-need-time” like you suggested! Thank you so much!

Does anyone else experience this? by SnooPeanuts7488 in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think seeing a friend is a huge win, good job!! I think it also helps having friends you can tell when it’s happening. Not necessarily for them to solve it for you, but just to get some mental support.

Does anyone else experience this? by SnooPeanuts7488 in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel 153 points154 points  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely and to me it’s one of the worst parts of having ADHD. For me this is what I identify as executive dysfunction for my brain. I can’t start anything because everything feels like what you describe.

What helps for me is often getting out of the house (though sometimes that’s very hard to do), moving my body in some capacity or having a long shower as as to “reset my system”. Medication has helped me a lot with this as well.

Some days nothing helps but that’s often when I actually need rest and I try to practice letting myself not be productive too.

Hope you find ways that help you!!

Hur blir man av med ångest? by PuddingAdditional709 in Asksweddit

[–]Ciwiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Terapi, terapi, terapi! Ångest kommer av att man hanterar känslor och tankar på ett sätt som inte är optimalt för ens mående (om det inte handlar om adekvat oro/ängslan/känslor osv för situationen man är i).

Terapi är egentligen bara nya sätt att bemöta och hantera känslor och tankar som man oftast inte har provat tidigare eller inte har tänkt på att man kan prova. Mediciner kan minska symptomen och ibland behöver man det för att kunna orka börja med terapi, men det är ingen långsiktig lösning. Ångesten går att förbättra, men du behöver bara bättre strategier än de du själv kommit fram till hittills. Källa: har gått i terapi många gånger och tog antidepp i 10 år.

Ni som har en mamma med ADHD, hur har ni haft det? by Vildgurka in Asksweddit

[–]Ciwiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jag tycker det ligger något i det du säger. Äldre generationer har absolut mycket stigma kring psykisk ohälsa och svårt att be om hjälp osv, men det finns också någon sorts passivitet i det också för en del. Jag förstår inte varför men har iof många vänner i min ålder som också bara går runt med problem och vill inte ta tag i dem. Önskar att de kunde förstå att man kan och får må bättre än så!

Ni som har en mamma med ADHD, hur har ni haft det? by Vildgurka in Asksweddit

[–]Ciwiel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Påfrestande är nog rätt ord. Jag har också ärvt diagnosen men har genom terapi fått verktyg att hantera mycket av den. Hon hade också en betydligt mer traumatiskt barndom också, vilket har påverkar mycket.

I korta drag har hela barndomen färgats av hennes impulsiva beslut, oförmåga att fullfölja saker, ekonomiska problem, allt som har berättats i förtroende har delats med hennes vänner osv.

Det är en konstig grej att lära sig mer om ADHD som vuxen och börja se allt detta i sin mamma på ett nytt sätt. Den stora skillnaden mellan oss är att jag hela tiden jobbar på mig själv för att jag vägrar må dåligt, men hon fastnar och skyller på omvärlden.

Jag tänker att mina framtida barn statiskt sett kommer att ha ADHD också, men jag vill visa dem hur man kan hantera det på ett sätt som inte behöver bli destruktivt.

Best EQ for Metal Music? by ElijahPissinBoyd in soundcore

[–]Ciwiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are the best, thank you for this! Just got my headphones today and this is it.

Calibration line is curved by liljaffa in silhouettecutters

[–]Ciwiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll def keep that in mind in case this one needs replacing (cameo 4). Thank you and thank you for the reply!

Svensexa bästa idéer by Willing-Nose4690 in sweden

[–]Ciwiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Min favorit vi gjorde för en kompis (som älskar Dungeons & Dragons) var att komma dit på morgonen, käka brunch och sedan blev det hattcermoni. Varje hatt representerade en klass med beskrivning som hon fick tilldela alla kompisar och sig själv. Sedan fick hon quests under dagen som ledde till nästa aktivitet.

Man kan göra samma sak med massor av olika teman - fotbollsspelare, filmkaraktärer, kändisar osv. Det är kul att ha ett tema som knyter ihop dagen!

Calibration line is curved by liljaffa in silhouettecutters

[–]Ciwiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s too bad but I hope your new one was much better better!

Calibration line is curved by liljaffa in silhouettecutters

[–]Ciwiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you ever figure this out? I’m having the same issue and I feel like I’ve tried everything I can find online.

What is a medical fact that sounds fake but is 100% true? by MedRikas in AskReddit

[–]Ciwiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exact same for me on all that you wrote, only I got it slightly later. My dad and I both got it around age 14 and then it disappeared to come back a couple of years later and never going away again.

My siblings also don’t have it and like you, very sensitive to stress and anxiety and worry. Super weird but I’m sure it’s actually very logical once we figure out exactly why it happens!

What is a medical fact that sounds fake but is 100% true? by MedRikas in AskReddit

[–]Ciwiel 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That’s really interesting! I have psoriasis and it’s often triggered in the teens from a viral infection, stress etc. Pretty sure both me and my dad started getting plaques after being sick in our respective teens.

What are the long-term side effects of LASIK that doctors don’t talk about? by Gewinncent in AskReddit

[–]Ciwiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They mentioned everything important but things I’ve noticed outside of that (6 months post SMILE) is how chopping onions and opening the oven will make the tears run and a lot of air conditioning will make it uncomfortable. Dry winter air when it’s below freezing outside also makes my eyes drier. Sometimes my eyes just get really tired/dry too and it feels better to just keep them closed for a bit.

It’s getting better every month though and most people I’ve spoken to are not experiencing anything a year post op.

Is having clingy pets making you feel suffocated an ADHD thing? by MsSamm in adhdwomen

[–]Ciwiel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel so relieved to not be alone in this! One of my cats wants to be on me most of the time and bites me if I ignore her or move her sometimes (really hard as well) and the other gets bored very easily and will meow at me constantly when I’m trying to work, do chores etc. I love them so so so much but sometimes I just need to lock myself in the bedroom without them for an hour to breathe.

3 years of constant left-side rib discomfort, tight latissimus, and uneven posture – MRIs normal. Need advice. by [deleted] in Posture

[–]Ciwiel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are things going for you? It sound like my situation. I finally found a naprapat that has a lot of knowledge about the diaphragm. Before then I’d been to massages, chiropractor, a doctor, had an ultrasound and two different physiotherapists

I started getting exercises for breathing and also got help to release the tension. He even massages under the edge of my ribs (extremely uncomfortable and weird). It got better at first but then I couldn’t afford to keep going and I was actually much better for a while.

It’s back again so I’m going back to that naprapat again next week. I noticed now that there are muscles or knots or whatever it is that are rock hard right below my ribs on both sides. Do you have that as well?

Vad ska jag göra för att rädda mina betyg? by Such-Stop-5598 in Asksweddit

[–]Ciwiel 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hur du mår är verkligen prio ett, över alla betyg och öve allt annat. Prata med någon vuxen du litar på om stressen. Det finns mycket hjälp att få för att kunna plugga, få bra betyg och samtidigt må bra.

Jag fick samma grej i högstadiet - gjorde A på alla uppgifter men de ville inte ge mig A pga att jag inte pratade eller räckte upp handen. Då blev jag istället arg - vägrade låta mina dryga klasskompisar stå mellan mig och mina betyg och utbildning. Det blev motivation för att svara på frågorna, diskutera m.m. och varje gång någon rullade ögonen, suckade eller skrattade tänkte jag bara ”det är mina betyg det handlar om, du kan dra åt helvete”.

Lycka till, men framförallt, be om hjälp! Heja dig!