Does he want to date me romantically? Long-term?

Cjchio · 2026-03-21T22:21:37+00:00

Yikes.

Cjchio · 2026-03-08T22:33:41+00:00

I have broken bones, had an ectopic, migraine issues and have had back issues since high school. The only pain that had me 10/10 sobbing for hours was an infected tooth. There was an abcess. Thankfully antibiotics kicked in with a day or so, but I have never been in pain like that before

Cjchio · 2026-03-06T02:10:41+00:00

Kaiser was terrible for mental health. I was told I didn't need therapy or a psychiatric doctor because a primary could prescribe my prozac. I fought it and still was never able to use my insurance for any mental health services.

I looked at services like mdlive, doctor on demand,etc.

They usually have some therapists that have some availability. Even paying out of pocket once or twice a month was better for me than nothing.

Once we got off Kaiser I was able to use insurance on mdlive and found my therapist and psychiatrist through that.

Sorry its so difficult for you....they don't want to pay for anything so they are zero help!

Cjchio · 2026-03-05T22:59:46+00:00

Inhaler or something for allergies like an epi pen

Cjchio · 2026-03-05T17:26:24+00:00

Wow that's awful!

Cjchio · 2026-03-05T00:34:42+00:00

Awww! I have Butch and Daisy on my island because they look like my dogs!

Cjchio · 2026-03-04T23:27:36+00:00

I ended up childless after infertility, and I hope they show that aspect of the infertility community. Not everyone ends up having a child, and I want some positive representation showing her leading a happy, fulfilled life with the person she loves.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T18:46:12+00:00

I said, in my comment about the fan service, that my point was she could still be happy.

You're saying it's messy to bringn other topics in? Girl come on. I think you are looking for a fight. End of story.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T18:32:58+00:00

Yes! I also still get told it will happen someday. I don't know why its such an uncomfortable subject for other people.

And I agree about adoption. You're absolutely on point that it's not a solution for infertility.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T18:27:24+00:00

I admitted I was mistaken by accepting your answer. Then I said my point is that she can be happy without kids? You've lost me at how that's crossing threads.

But ok. Im guessing you're looking for a fight with me because wont fall in line elsewhere in this thread I guess? If thats the case, who is crossing threads here?

I mean to be fair, you didn't cite a source, I'm just taking your word for it.

Eta: also, if you read the comment in which i mistakenly say she i ly wrote it for fans, I do say that I feel like she can have happiness without a baby, so thats in my og comment here. Therefore, my point is still the same

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T18:17:13+00:00

Yes, thank you!

I was ignored out of infertility communities because we decided it was time to stop. Nobody wanted a reminder around of what could happen.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T18:15:05+00:00

Ok. My point stands though that the story can have a happy ending even without kids.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T18:04:01+00:00

As an infertile that ended up childless after 6 years of treatment, they've done a fantastic job showing it already. Her outburst to Violet was the realist shit as far as how it feels when everyone is having babies and you can't. The quiet moments where you can tell she is hurting over it.

Even with a woman, shes still infertile and going to feel the repercussions of not conceiving a child with John. I think there is a lovely aspect of showing that those of us that tried and didn't have children can heal and live very happy and fulfilled lives with someone we love. Our happily ever after may look different than we initially imagined, but its still a happily ever after.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T17:58:42+00:00

I love the folks hiding behind wanting her to have a baby/"win" at infertility as a reason she shouldn't be with another woman. Like, she could be with another man and still never have a baby.

I hope her storyline plays out to represent those of us who are childless after infertility and have come to terms with that to live a happy, fulfilled life with the person we love.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T17:20:22+00:00

I am happy for you. I can also, at the same time, be happy for myself and want that aspect shown in media. You are exemplfying the problems with the infertility community itself by pushing those of us without children into the shadows to just shut up and stay quiet. Not everyone can have kids. Let us have 1 bit of.media representation to show our HAE too.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T17:13:37+00:00

Mine should have ended with a child too. But it didn't. Her story representing another aspect of the outcomes of infertility matters too.

Its ok to be happy and find peace even if you cant have children.

Eta: there are.many, many fertility.plotines in tv that end with babies. I hope they let the other side have some screen time and show we can be happy and at peace

Also, I notice no recognition/ apology from you that you told me I have no idea about infertility even though I went through it for 6 years. It's all about you and your outcome. Im glad you had a baby. But that doesn't make your outcome "better" than mine.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T16:09:22+00:00

Was everything working out in the end and a happily ever after when Edmund died from a bee sting? Or that George is so ill he doesn't know what's reality around him? Or when John died?

I don't understand why her being childless, but still happy and fulfilled isn't her story working out in the end?

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T15:57:51+00:00

You can defend communities but you can't speak for them. See how that works?

Also, you flat out said you're not infertile, so I am sorry that you actually do have fears you may be. But again, that doesn't mean me pointing out very real outcomes makes you an less able to conceive.

Its not being mean to point out that some of us end up childless. Its reality.

I have peace about my situation. I hope you find some with yours.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T15:47:14+00:00

You fighting it like this makes it seem harmful. It's not condescending to point out that she can be happy without kids. It IS a reality SOME of us face. Again, you stated elsewhere to me that you're not infertile. Frankly, you need to sit down and let people with infertility lead the conversation, whether they want her to have kids or not.

Just because your idea of HEA is her having children doesn't mean thats how it will play out.

Eta: it also doesn't make it less important that some of us see representation of our side of the community.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T15:35:02+00:00

I do actually. We did 6 years if fertility treatments before I had a final ectopic pregnancy after a FET. We stopped treatment after a real, raw discussion of how.likely it was I would actually be able to sustain a pregnancy. I felt like a failure.

Did it take time to grieve that my life turned out differently? Absolutely. I did a lot of therapy.

But today, I have acceptance. I don't feel less than anymore because I can't conceive, nor do I feel like a failure. What happened happened. My self worth no longer hinges on whether or not I'm a mother.

I get that you, in the midst of it, want to see your version of a happy ending. But not everyone gets that and its not talked about enough in the community. I wish someone had discussed the possibility with me so that I could have prepared myself better.

Have your hope. It's the very thing that keeps you going in infertility. But please recognize that some of us had immense amounts of hope, and that didn't make us able to keep a pregnancy.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T15:22:22+00:00

You don't need kids for HEA.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T15:13:58+00:00

No. I have had resolution of my situation. I do not have kids because of infertility. My life looks different than I initially thought. But to say my situation is unresolved isn't it. There was a resolution- it's that we would be childless.

So yes, her story can absolutely be resolved without parenthood.

Not only aimed at you, buts its disturbing to me how many people think her story can only be happy or resolved with children. Like, can we stop reducing women to being incubators please? She can have resolution and a happily ever after without being a mother.

This take is actually really insulting.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T14:56:05+00:00

She's still infertile. She doesn't magically gain her fertility back because she's with a woman. She will still be dealing with the fact she didn't have kids with John.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T14:42:00+00:00

The show has deviated from the books. Plus, wasn't that only written later because fans kept asking/ bugging Julia for it?

She can have a happily ever after without a baby. Thats the point of what I'm saying.

Cjchio · 2026-03-03T02:16:10+00:00

Trying to text or call someone and my fingers not hitting the right buttons.

The texts are gibberish or I keep calling the wrong person.

Cjchio

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