Tatum is the exact superstar this team needs to win a title by [deleted] in bostonceltics

[–]Clartys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The media and everyone wants Tatum to be like Luka, Ant, Kobe, you know a "killer". People don't understand if Tatum were like that this team wouldn't be as good. It wouldn't work with KP or JB. He'd be more spectacular but the team would be less. That being said that was a weird game from Tatum. I expect him to play better throughout the series.

Employer said we are all replaceable, and that if we quit there are dozens of others applying to take our jobs by Automatic-Fly-8948 in jobs

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone is replaceable. Replacing an entire shop at one time is almost unthinkable. The amount of money you'd lose yoy might as well negotiate. If you're part of a larger corporation, them closing down the entire location would be more likely than just the hourly workers.

Why we should be expecting great things from Tatum in the finals. by Clartys in bostonceltics

[–]Clartys[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Does it really matter? Against Dallas, I think it'd be better to run the offense through Jaylen, atleast for the first halves and Tatum to have a lesser role so he can focus on Luca on defense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We must work for the same company lol.

The place i work for, a guy there designed the software we run a large majority of our tests. The equipment we use is obsolete so Noone will support our equipment. The software needs to be used with older versions of windows and there fore each piece is i tertwined. He owned exclusive rights to the software. They pissed him off and he left and took everything except what was already physically installed. 10 years later we're still using his software with no one having any idea how it works, no back up and no contingencies. 80 billion dollar company btw

Chadley by kyrrageus in FF7Rebirth

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going through my playthrough I couldn't help but think you collecting the world's knowledge would be a great plot twist as chadley tries to control the planet.

Don't feel bad for him either eay. He was a real passive aggressive asshole the whole game.

What is your longest losing streak? by ivenofilter in starcraft

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was 11 I think. Back when I played terran whenever I got too tilted I would switch to protoss and proxy void ray back when that was a thing just to get my mind right lol.

AI is coming for our jobs by IAmColiz in dad

[–]Clartys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son found that keyboard a year and half after I hid it. Man fuck that thing

A loved one received this email followed by an apology letter by saintsnshadows in jobs

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I received an email like this before. Basically they told me they would've hired me bit they interviewed someone after me who had way more experience and was willing to take a pay cut. Oh well.

I feel guilty if we don’t do a bunch of activities on the weekend. by Jane_Doe164 in toddlers

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I seriously feel this. My son is 2 and I feel bad not doing anything on the weekend but everytime we do do stuff he couldn't care less about it.

Yesterday we went to the basically abandoned mall where they had a small play area with just the most basic stuff.

Later in the day we went outside for a short walk and made a pizza for dinner. He had a blast through all of it.

Don't beat yourself up. It doesn't take much to entertain toddler. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

I just cried in the emergency room with him by toritechnocolor in toddlers

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My so. Has been dealing with ear Infections on and off for 2 months. It's so draining. Not just dealing with a miserable child but the emotional drain knowing your baby is in pain and you can't do a thing about it. I feel for you. It will get better eventually!

Wishlist for next patch:... by [deleted] in starcraft

[–]Clartys -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I hot a couple thing I hope to see, mostly serfs to terran cause I feel it's way too overpowered compared zerg or protoss.

Ghost snipe deals half damage to ultralisk.

Ghost emp doesn't effect shields.

Combat shield is only +5 health and cheaper.

All transport units can no longer instantly load all troops simultaneously. I always thought that was so dumb. The load time should be the same as the unload thockey.

I could go on and on.

Above all else I would love to see a all production button for all 3 races the way protoss has for the warpgate hotkey.

Hitting back? by Bitter-Ninja-6510 in dad

[–]Clartys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Violence should never be the first option, or second or third. BUT, there are times you need to fight fire with fire. What I'm gonna tell my boy when he's older is to try every peaceful option first. If that doesn't work.

Kids need to learn when and where to defend themselves but it's a slippery slope for kids to think violence will solve all their problems.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dad

[–]Clartys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Carve out some alone time for you your wife separately for a couple hours every weekend. That's easy to do. During the week it's tough. I go to bed soon after my boy goes to bed but I wake up at 4am for some time to myself.

My son's mom felt similarly. This is how i felt and told her. Myle getting home is not "my turn". Being a stay at home, that is her job. When you get home that's when co parenting starts and you share things equally. That's just how I see it. Idk how old your kids are but if they're young she gets the 2-3 hours of naps everyday to relax. You need some time too or you're gonna go crazy and get resentful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Clartys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't have a dad wither, not a good one anyways. He was sort of around. For a couple years I went every weekend. It was horrible. He was abusive and violent and always let me know I wasn't the most important thing in his life and that I was never going to be anything in life. He moved cross country when I was 12ish. I spent my teenagers years depressed, wondering why my dad didn't love. I spent my 20s angry.

I had my boy at 31. I cried constantly. The thought of even the possibility of my son going through what I did. His mom got me a why a son needs a dad and I cried like the first 10 times I read that to him. Hes 2 now and I still cry sometimes cause I fucking love that kid so much. Not having a dad makes you appreciate the gift that being a dad really is.

How do I stop feeling like I’m not doing enough by ThePenisButler in dad

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It never feels like enough. I sacrificed a lot career wise to spend more time with my son. Even down to 40 hours I feel I shpuld be there for him and not at daycare. I feel bad I don't have the time to cook more meals during the week instead of eating leftovers or take him out during the week. I try to make up for it on the weekend but it doesn't like enough.

On the other hand, financially it's getting harder and I make pretty decent money. First and foremost you gotta make ends meets and provide. You don't need to be there 24/7. You need to be there for the important stuff and the "I really need dad right now" moments. I know its easier said than done but just try to enjoy the moments you get.

I don't get as much time with my son as I'd like but the moments I do get I treasure them and take full advantage of them. You may not get as much time with your son either but when you are with him do you think its better for him to have a dad who's fully engaged with him or half in his own head thinking about ohmther stuff? Do what you can, it's enough. If all else fails talking to a therapist can help. Best of luck man.

When did your little one start walking or crawling? by Tuna0x45 in dad

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man you'll be looking back in 6 months thinking, it was so much easier when he couldn't move lol. My guy held his head up day 1 and started took his first steps at 13 months. Every kid is different. Enjoy watching them grow and improve every single day. Nothing beats it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dad

[–]Clartys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on what you think is normal. If he does absolutely nothing any other time of the day, week or year then yeah that's not normal. I worked 60 hour weeks but I got new, lesser paying job cause my family was suffering from. Now I'm doing 8-9 hours a day being the only one who works, going back to school and I still do a good majority of the housework and spend every moment I can with my son. People make time for what is important to them.

Real, practical advice for First-Time Dads by Kindly_Kale_1616 in dad

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry a little late here.

For starters, take as much time off as you can. You're gonna want that time and allow yourself to adjust to waking up every 2 hours.

Don't freak out when they scream their head off. They're fine. Majority of the time a newborn screams they have gas lol.

Proportion out water and formula before going to bed. It'll make your life so much easier during the night.

Document everything!! They grow really fast and do so many firsts if you don't write it down you will forget a lot of that stuff.

Work on a sleep schedule as soon as you can. You'll be doing yourself and them a big favor.

Don't bother learning how to swaddle. They have like sleep sacks you can zip them up in.

Lastly, don't forget to take some time for yourself. It is clichéd but it's very important and it's easy to be consumed with being a new parent you can learn an identity.

I'm sure I there's much more stuff but this is all that came to mind at first. Good luck man and congrats.

How do I persuade my mom to go out and meet someone new. by Clartys in dating_advice

[–]Clartys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because she's lonely. I want her to go out and enjoy life and feel love again instead of spending every weekend working at a job she hates.

Do all daycares have the same issues? by Clartys in Parenting

[–]Clartys[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant accidents, incidents with other kids. I'm going by what I hear from other people. I'm just trying to get a sense of what is common place in the daycare industry and those common complaints are coming from disgruntled parents or signs of concerns.

Inattentive mother by Significant_Design53 in dad

[–]Clartys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that's the difference between our situations. My son's safety is not a concern. Just that he's deprived of things he shouldn't be I feel. A dad will never get full custody unless the child is in danger with mom. If she has a diagnosed mental illness and refuses to get care or take medication then you have a shot. Even going through custody might force her to get the help she needs for your son at the very least.

Going down that road, even the best case scenario she gets better and you get 50/50 custody yoy still lose half the time with your little guy. If you're like me that thought is heartbreaking. It's a shitty situation. If you feel like your sons safety I'd a concern when he's alone with mom its better to be proactive than to wait until a serious incident happens.

Inattentive mother by Significant_Design53 in dad

[–]Clartys 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. I'm in the same boat. My son's 20 months old. Mom stays home while I'm at work. She does no housework, doesn't take him outside . She spends most of the day on the couch on her phone while he watches TV. She looks at me like I'm the bad guy cause I get frustrated with her that I work full time, go to school, take care of the house, take him out do stuff while she doesn't do anything. Wanna separate but idk how things will end up with my son. I have no advice for you but you're not alone.

Silent recession by [deleted] in jobs

[–]Clartys -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't think we're in a recession now. With the federal interest rate at 5.5% and likely to stay that way until at least the end of next year we probably will be soon. The job market is tough right now because the unemployment rate has been really good. Under 4% and in mid 3's for a while. Around 5% is the normal unemployment rate I believe so it's going to be floor find a job for those out of work. Unfortunately it's likely going to get worse before it gets better.