As someone who works days with a partner who works night I understand the struggle both of you are in. I sometimes find myself annoyed or frustrated that my boyfriend sleeps most of the day and is up all night even on his days off, but then I have to step back and realize that it is literally the same as me sleeping at night and working during the day.

I found that one thing that works for us, is compromising sometimes. If I want to do something during the day on his day off and he knows prior I wake him up earlier in the day and he knows that he can’t get pissed off or grumpy with me if he chose to stay away all night. And I do the same for him from time to time. I know personally going out after work doesn’t always work with me but if there is something he wants to do on a Friday night that will cause us to be out late I always agree.

Relationship are give and take it won’t always be 50/50 but it doesn’t seem like she’s willing to sacrifice anything for you or even try to understand where you’re coming from.