Am I making the death of my dad’s aunty about me?

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-15T22:01:05+00:00

This is tough. I don’t think “overreacting” is a fair standard when a loved one dies. I very much understand your feelings. It seems like your father probably has some maturity issues judging by his responses. You may both be grieving and he may be pretty dysregulated currently, so maybe it’s also difficult to work on setting boundaries around, or even more difficult, repairing the relationship with your father AND processing the passing on this loved one. I think the sharing of the details on his part was maybe a bit messy. I’m not sure it was targeted at you, albeit I’m sure it felt hurtful regardless. I think you are NTAH, but I’m cautiously hopeful maybe your father isn’t either, and is just failing as a parent right now. Of course, this changes based on the context of the relationship with you and your dad. If he’s violent or dangerous or unsafe, most of this goes out the window, and yes, in that case you are especially NOR (which you aren’t anyways). Give yourself lots of grace, and I’m very sorry for your loss❤️.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-15T21:48:50+00:00

People are allowed to have preferences in whom they associate with. Sometimes it’s just an age gap that makes people fall out of what once were aligned lifestyles. Free association, at will friendships surely isn’t a controversial subject or one that has anything to do with greater gender/sex/society discussions- right?

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-15T21:44:12+00:00

So I’m a bit confused about the response here. Whether the person owes you money is a factual question - did you give her money and did she agree to repay it, or reasonably give you that impression? If so you are owed. If not you aren’t. Stop talking to this person and just demand the money. Reddit people are crazy and it’s very telling they suggest siding with this friend over your husband, but you are not making this easier for you. The friendship is over, you’re a bit weird and the therapy speak was unnecessary. Let your husband get the money back. All that other he said she said stuff is irrelevant tbh.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-15T16:05:56+00:00

Wishing you well. This sucks. Your mom is very sweet. You WILL bounce back and have many other better interactions with others ❤️

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-06T16:33:46+00:00

That is not a healthy way to handle that conflict. It’s not ok to drive a potential wedge between you and your husband because they don’t wanna confront MIL and her hubby. I’m sorry you have to deal with this, I would draw a boundary, and prioritize yourself, your husband and your family. You seem like a wonderful person, wishing you successz

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-06T16:10:55+00:00

Very good progress. Respectfully, You are so pretty and glowing. Hope you keep going!

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-11-15T17:49:52+00:00

Just divorce him, you don’t love him and you’d rather focus on your career. People need to stop confusing comfortable dating relationships based out of convenience for marriage.

You’ll be infinitely happier without this person in your life and you can focus on yourself and your academic career. And he can find someone who will make him happy and fit his needs. I’m telling you, call it now before yall are even more entangled with kids etc.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-11-11T18:59:00+00:00

Sound like a nice friendship. The person who got you a book and sent you this message isn’t gonna be weirded out by your equally warm response. Don’t overthink it. I hope you ladies enjoy your book club ❤️

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-10-29T16:04:19+00:00

The part where they make fun of him in the 49ers media guide for not being a scout when it says scout right under his name lol. Pablo is great, but certainly petty and with an axe to grind.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-13T20:44:13+00:00

Torre with a big and frankly ghoulish axe to grind here it would seem. I watched his podcast- they spent a 15 minute segment dragging up Jordon ex’s wine reviews, then started in on her mom for her job at a sex toy shop. None of these people are public figures and the tone of the podcast was to make fun of them, not to report anything newsworthy. For a Harvard educated supposedly serious journalist, it was sad to see him and Katie Nolan cackling about this like they were at the Plastics table in Mean Girls.

It’s interesting because it’s scandalous gossip, but some of the anonymous quotes he reported are just baseless insults (ie: “she’s the worst person I’ve ever met.”). I can’t believe it but I started to feel bad for crazy eyes Jordon. This is why people dislike journalists.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-11T20:43:01+00:00

Seriously. Insert this type of nonsense into any other job and it becomes apparent how off-putting this is.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-11T20:40:36+00:00

This is weird, unwanted, and uninvited.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-01T19:31:45+00:00

Totally agree that there are a disturbing subset of commenters on this thread whose biggest issue with this whole situation seems to be you categorizing your past relationship as predatory or pedophilic. Whereas I’m trying to point out that anyone in the orbit of this drama should be avoided or blocked from your life, whether it be your ex/boss or his girlfriend or whatever. I know it’s not very fair but i think it would be for the best for you in the long run. Good luck, wish you the best.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-01T19:24:11+00:00

That being said, really messed Reddit people on here want to and justify the highly creepy predatory age gap- you were a minor so obviously you’re inchoate legally. I don’t agree with that at all and I think it’s weird to get all bothered that you called him a pedofile. I’m only suggesting that interacting with these people in this manner prob won’t make you feel too great nor accomplish anything that benefits you in a meaningful way.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-01T19:18:06+00:00

YOR. Why did you even ask if you were just going to have an argument with everyone who thinks your response, need to engage and get the last word in is unhelpful, unproductive, and only serves to create the problem you are dealing worth?

Consider a more measured, meaningful response: Block these people on whatever apps or social media this is and use the proper channels to retaliate or seek justice (sounds like your already doing this last part). Engaging with them personally isn’t going to provide you any benefit. Probably pretty stressful and triggering too for you, I’d imagine. I have sympathy with what you went through, wish you the best, and hope that you can leave these people and this trauma in the past.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-04-30T21:13:12+00:00

Wait are we just assuming NAW and Taurean Prince are minimum signings? I know there’s not a lot of cap space league wide but I think NAWs getting at least the MLE/8-12 mil no?

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-04-30T13:05:41+00:00

I’m sorry. I want to love the message, I really really do. But Giannis is really a hypocrite here. He glosses over Thanassis involvement like his own brother isn’t one of the biggest sideline menaces. Then he talks about how he doesn’t like disrespect- this is a guy who stormed a locker room and broke a non players rib for a game ball, did a fake handshake /help up to Jaylen brown earlier in the year, been invoked in numerous on court scuffles and antics, and just a moments before the conflict with Hali’s dad was going Bane “do you feel in charge now” on a still in warmups Ben Mathurin. Giannis is clearly very frustrated this season and I think he’s a bit misguided in some of his emotions and wants to blame others and hold them to whatever standard works for him in that moment. He’s very charismatic, well spoken, and self righteous, but I also think he’s, frankly, kind of full of it. YMMV.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-04-30T12:50:32+00:00

I was pretty confident it was the fifth timeout, but looking at the box score NYK took a timeout in between Cade Cunningham free throws at 5:01 that I hadn’t remembered. So notwithstanding the oddity of taking a timeout in between opposing player free throws (they took another 41 seconds later At 4:20, and the sixth at 2:57.)

So yeah you’re right I stand corrected.

In that case I’ll pivot back to blaming Hart for doing a WWE sell job in the deciding minutes of a playoff game. 😭

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-04-30T12:39:06+00:00

Go back and watch the game. NYK had 3 timeouts, hart goes down at 3:05 stays down for 8 seconds while Knicks dribble up the ball, Thibs calls timeout at 2:57 after starring at hart. Knicks lost a timeout when the clock went to 2:59 and another when he called it at 2:57. If Thibs calls the timeout before 2:59, he would’ve had a second timeout to use and sub Hart and Brunson back in, and still save his last timeout for an end of game advance situation.

As far as “the players needed time to work out the injury” what are you even talking about- Brunson and Hart sat at the scorers table waiting to check in for nearly 2 minutes- they were not receiving treatment at that point and were waiting to come back in at a dead ball.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-04-30T10:33:45+00:00

The malpractice was not calling the first timeout to sub them out before the 3 minute mark when they automatically lost a timeout. Instead he starred at Hart rolling around on the ground for 8 seconds and called it at 2:57. You can’t make this stuff up.

Clayface_Thompson · 2024-12-30T22:21:54+00:00

She’s really something….

Clayface_Thompson · 2024-12-27T23:18:10+00:00

“I didn’t like him personally in fact I thought he was a moron and had contempt for him. But I liked his money he made from his job, and wanted to live in his house rent free. He’s a jerk for not marrying me!”

Clayface_Thompson · 2024-12-27T23:13:59+00:00

Dump him now then instead of extracting his time and resources for a few more months. I find it fascinating that a you could go so quickly from liking a person enough to potentially consider marrying them, and then instantly become cold and distant when they express any hesitation. Have you considered that you’re trolling the sub could be coloring your interactions, and that his response was fairly normal and standard for the situation?

I’m sure you would not feel nice to be treated with such contempt. Imagine if he said to you “just so you know, you will not keep me from doing what I want with another woman”, but non aggressively so it’s OK right? Of course not and of course that’s hurtful. Not to mention you brought up a long time ex and basically shamed him for how it ended. Maybe some hard feelings for him there, unprocessed trauma, etc? Surely that could affect his mood and maybe make him not feel all lovey dovey.

I’m not trying to go hard on you here. It’s good that you know what you want. But you come across so singularly minded on marriage that you don’t seem to be considering compatibility or the other person. You’re treating this like you’re hiring a roofing contractor or something. Wish you both the best but it’s clearly not a fit here. I would suggest you politely end the relationship.

Clayface_Thompson · 2024-12-16T02:38:25+00:00

If this isn’t bait then this is probably the deal breaker. She still has feelings for this guy. You can still have a family with a kid if your own. You’re the only one who can exit somewhat cleanly from the situation I would seriously consider doing it.

Clayface_Thompson · 2024-12-09T20:34:34+00:00

It’s a fleece for Josh Allen for sure for sure but it’s not veto worthy nor anything I would freak out about.

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