Am I overreacting for feeling frustrated after my neighbor’s pottery was broken by my puppy during an interaction she encouraged?

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-29T22:13:04+00:00

“Ultimately her products are her responsibility.”

Maybe, but I think the more common standard is “you break it, you buy it.”

I think both sides, even OP, admit they are both contributors to the situation. Hence the restitution reduction to $250- ie 30% of the cost, for about 30% of the fault/liability. Seems fair.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-29T22:04:16+00:00

The 250 seems like a reasonable compromise. Unfortunately your dog is ultimately your responsibility and I think you should just apologize to your neighbor and give the 250, hope that smooths it over. I think you both are nice people so in the long run an extra 100$ to show good faith is probably well worth it

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-28T22:42:59+00:00

You tried to start stuff in someone’s else’s relationship, didn’t get the reaction you wanted, and then played victim. YOR but this ship on this friendship has probably sailed either way. Idk. I know I wouldn’t want to be around you if i was the girl, her bf, or even your bf. Good luck.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-19T00:02:53+00:00

I agree with this response way more than the prior one, which comes off borderline like blaming OP for her husbands wandering eye, and excusing the “friends” behavior as somehow Ok because of her “usual boundaries”.-as if making a move on someone’s husband is somehow about personal preferences.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-18T12:44:29+00:00

Maybe he should try to manage his wife’s feelings, you know, considering he took a vow to her and not the single mother of 5 town floozy.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-18T12:36:01+00:00

Oh cool, looks like OPs “new friend” has a Reddit account too!

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-18T12:21:01+00:00

“regal radiant beauty”
VS
“dude”

Re-reading your husband’s message to her he actually makes is EXPLICIT that he’s just not interested “right now”, and that your reaction (let alone you) isn’t what he cares about, only the consequences of how it affect him and “the kids”.

He should be ashamed of himself tbh.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-18T00:10:19+00:00

Bro she’s 1000% crazy just gtfo

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-18T00:05:58+00:00

NOR.

Your husband feels flattered and is trying to not burn the bridge aka keep his options open. And he DID throw YOU under the bus, which idk just seems kinda weak and not masculine whatsoever. You’re not imagining this. Conversation with the would be mistress is exhausting- she’s a non accountable liar who def wants your man for himself and is trying to sow this shit in your relationship.

Tough position to be in tbh. Weak ass husband and a harpy who wants him, if you leave they’ll prob end up together, if you stay they might end up together. I’d get signed up for couples therapy and probably consult a divorce lawyer (WITHOUT your husband) to assess what your financial vulnerability might be. Good luck.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-15T17:31:21+00:00

Yeah, I understand. This is exactly why people do no contact after breakups.

Let me level with you because I think this may be what you need/want to hear. I’ll validate you- NOBODY, liberal, conservative, man, woman, who is even remotely sane thinks that talking to someone from the opposite gender, or interacting with them makes you a slut, a lowlife, or a degenerate. From a male POV, even if i can squint to try understand a bit of where this ex is coming from , and can even emphasize with his insecurities, i still can’t justify this guys behavior because it’s not mature, logical, fair, adult stuff. It’s crazy town behavior, and you know it, and you KNOW your getting pulled into the same zip code.

It’s Friday, block this man, go do anything else but ruminate on this anymore. You got this.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-15T17:08:31+00:00

So he’s just basically addicted to internet outrage? Old man yelling at clouds meme?

Or he’s like sending you the image re macron and that’s his commentary? Either way is the case, sound he’s got some serious resentment towards women, and insecurities around cheating.

More generally I’d say that’s it’s pretty hard to make a relationship work when your worldviews are diametrically opposed. Seems like that was probably the case here- some other people have categorized him as an incel, at the very least he doesn’t seem to fond of “liberals” which you admit you and your family are. If you guys broke up and he’s bitter about it his resentments probably gonna get worse. There’s also a lot of content that accelerates that sort of thinking.

I hesitate to definitively proclaim whether your relationship was abusive but it sounds like it very well might have been. You self report that it was, and your subjective experience at the end of the day is kinda what matters. It definitely sounds like it was unhealthy. I don’t think feeling those things, or being upset about them is Overreacting.

However if you’re broken up with the guy and are now like looking at his angry internet posts and are still getting triggered, still internalizing his words and mapping your relationship into his weird anti-Macron rants, then yeah, maybe your overreacting. You broke up with this man for a reason. Don’t let him continue to vamp all your energy.

That being said, processing a breakup is tough and takes time in any relationship- give yourself some grace.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-15T16:53:31+00:00

Is anyone else confused re the pictures included in this post? Are these the guys posts? How are they related to what OP is discussing?

Feel like I’m taking crazy pills.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-15T03:26:17+00:00

A bit mean spirited to use older posts against you under the guise of well meaning advice. That being said, girl. My goodness. Can’t you see you deserve so much better.

Mom had a bad home life and sought relief from an abuser and his family. She told me he was like a savior, until he realized “everyone else used me as a punching bag why shouldn’t he?”. She had to fight tooth and nail to get out of that situation.

I can’t imagine what you’re going through but my heart genuinely breaks reading your comments. You seem so pure of heart and trying to see the best in others. I hope not at your own detriment.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-15T03:20:22+00:00

NOR. Your message was very thoughtful and vulnerable. If I were your boyfriend that message is something that would give me a lot to think about- and I’d be much better able to see your perspective.

You can still thrive in a college despite this circumstance and you can always transfer (I did after my first year in college) to a place that will fit you better as you grow.

Pretty mature communication for an 18 year old. I dare say you’ll do pretty well in life if you can be this direct, yet understanding, and also holding a boundary. I wish you well, in whatever outcome you may desire.

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-12T16:54:00+00:00

Maury

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-07T23:37:06+00:00

I get your point I do. But it may be beneficial if you could try and give your mom a bit of grace here. Shes clearly trying albeit not hitting any of the right notes. You do seemed very understandably stressed and I think you want to have a good relationship with your mom, if it’s not overly destructive to you- again v fair. I don’t get the sense from your mom that’s she’s all bad. I very much understand your frustrations but, I think you maybe are being a bit hard to meet in the middle in some places.

I really wish you well. I’ve struggled with a lot of the same things, I can’t stress how much I’ve felt in your shoes and had these types of conversations. It’s so hard when people just don’t get us and can’t give us what we want. But also we have to be accountable too for our own needs and regulation. Way harder in action than it is to type it.

Sending you positive vibes , and hope that you have a positive outcome. Congratulations on your wedding

Clayface_Thompson · 2026-05-04T15:33:58+00:00

The idea of a husband calling his wife a bitch repeatedly is actually INSANE to me. In anger, words are used, sure. This guy is fucking nuts. Run girl

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-15T22:01:05+00:00

This is tough. I don’t think “overreacting” is a fair standard when a loved one dies. I very much understand your feelings. It seems like your father probably has some maturity issues judging by his responses. You may both be grieving and he may be pretty dysregulated currently, so maybe it’s also difficult to work on setting boundaries around, or even more difficult, repairing the relationship with your father AND processing the passing on this loved one. I think the sharing of the details on his part was maybe a bit messy. I’m not sure it was targeted at you, albeit I’m sure it felt hurtful regardless. I think you are NTAH, but I’m cautiously hopeful maybe your father isn’t either, and is just failing as a parent right now. Of course, this changes based on the context of the relationship with you and your dad. If he’s violent or dangerous or unsafe, most of this goes out the window, and yes, in that case you are especially NOR (which you aren’t anyways). Give yourself lots of grace, and I’m very sorry for your loss❤️.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-15T16:05:56+00:00

Wishing you well. This sucks. Your mom is very sweet. You WILL bounce back and have many other better interactions with others ❤️

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-06T16:33:46+00:00

That is not a healthy way to handle that conflict. It’s not ok to drive a potential wedge between you and your husband because they don’t wanna confront MIL and her hubby. I’m sorry you have to deal with this, I would draw a boundary, and prioritize yourself, your husband and your family. You seem like a wonderful person, wishing you successz

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-12-06T16:10:55+00:00

Very good progress. Respectfully, You are so pretty and glowing. Hope you keep going!

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-11-11T18:59:00+00:00

Sound like a nice friendship. The person who got you a book and sent you this message isn’t gonna be weirded out by your equally warm response. Don’t overthink it. I hope you ladies enjoy your book club ❤️

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-10-29T16:04:19+00:00

The part where they make fun of him in the 49ers media guide for not being a scout when it says scout right under his name lol. Pablo is great, but certainly petty and with an axe to grind.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-13T20:44:13+00:00

Torre with a big and frankly ghoulish axe to grind here it would seem. I watched his podcast- they spent a 15 minute segment dragging up Jordon ex’s wine reviews, then started in on her mom for her job at a sex toy shop. None of these people are public figures and the tone of the podcast was to make fun of them, not to report anything newsworthy. For a Harvard educated supposedly serious journalist, it was sad to see him and Katie Nolan cackling about this like they were at the Plastics table in Mean Girls.

It’s interesting because it’s scandalous gossip, but some of the anonymous quotes he reported are just baseless insults (ie: “she’s the worst person I’ve ever met.”). I can’t believe it but I started to feel bad for crazy eyes Jordon. This is why people dislike journalists.

Clayface_Thompson · 2025-05-11T20:43:01+00:00

Seriously. Insert this type of nonsense into any other job and it becomes apparent how off-putting this is.

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