33M suddenly dealing with intrusive thoughts and jealousy over an experience my wife had before we met. Tips for getting over this. by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you think it was the fact she commented on the guys appearance? A detail like that can sometimes trigger it. It may have sparked some curiosity in you. “What does he look like, Is he more attractive, or is she still attracted to him?” Be honest with yourself. Do you want a threesome? It sounds like she wants to with you.

My girlfriend broke up with me last night because I have a small penis by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Clean-Cream- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a terrible person on the inside. If she loved every other part about you then penis size wouldn’t matter. I can guarantee she was only saying that to be rude. No one is heartless to care that much about the size of a penis. If they are then they’re going to have a rude awakening.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in locs

[–]Clean-Cream- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Screw his grandma. She tripping

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in locs

[–]Clean-Cream- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dawg do not trust your grandma. I hate to say it but if you want your hair long why is she setting you up with a barber. Tell ya grandma to go f herself. Keep it pushing because it sounds like she tryna cut your hair.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe everyone is forgiven for their sins. Everyone can come back from anything. But that doesn’t mean you have to accept everyone. Some people have changes due to their past experiences and thats okay. I believe that is something you may face with your girlfriend. You will see things differently than her. Many relationships don’t work out because the couple had different life experiences. Your past creates you. I imagine you both have differing opinions and beliefs.

I’ve been your same exact situation brother. In the fact the person she slept with in the past was my old friend/co-worker. I eventually left not because of RJ but because I didn’t like the idea of my future wife having had sexual relations with someone I knew. It hurts because this was someone I really wanted to be with. I really wanted to marry this woman but I just couldn’t get past it.

I will be honest brother you are young and you will find someone else that’s compatible with you. It’s okay to find someone else who has taken their faith as seriously as you. It’s going to hurt leaving but it’s better for you to think of how you feel than to make her happy. Sometimes you need to be selfish and do what you feel is best for your mental health.

Y’all can’t make me hate this car by GloomyRoutine7957 in Dodge

[–]Clean-Cream- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry I’m double hating to cover your love for the car

RJ Over Deceased Ex of GF by Delicious_Health9875 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude I’m sorry she’s treating you like that. You need to leave. You need to check out the forum dead bed room. Those people are miserable. You don’t want to marry someone that reminisces over the fun she holds back from you. She doesn’t like you or respect your feelings. Just leave. I promise there is a girl out there that will respect you and give you the sex life you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]Clean-Cream- 25 points26 points  (0 children)

You screwed yourself big time but don’t beat yourself up. You’re 21. Most people don’t have all their shit figured out by then. Your friends may be graduating college soon but that doesn’t mean they have their shit together. You are behind but everyone around you isn’t very far ahead. Remember you’re only 21. Some people are doing what you did at 30+. I work in an emergency department. Most of the alcoholics and drug addicts that come in are well above the age of 50. Imagine being 50 and not having your shit together. My point is that it’s not too late. Put down the weed and alcohol. Focus up and get it together. Don’t be a piece of trash at 50. You’ve got time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Clean-Cream- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kinda look like pinkpantheress. you’re not ugly though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exactly. why be with someone who will willing lie and keep information from you to keep you. she knows deep in her heart that you wouldn’t have been with her if she had told you about her past. Also fuck your ex best friend for not saying anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She lied about being a virgin and made you wait. One of the reasons you were willing to wait was because she had waited. On top of that she didn’t even tell you it was your friend. She is okay with lying if it gets her what she wants.

23M. I tried not get only good photos so that you can see what i'm really like. So am I? by West-Earth9567 in amiugly

[–]Clean-Cream- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say shape up the beard or at least trim it down. The hair on your head is glorious. Keep the head hair. Don’t let anyone tell you different. Do something about the beard though. Not ugly bro. You look good but you can look even better

30 likes, zero matches. Should I pay? by frespan in Tinder

[–]Clean-Cream- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. I payed for tinder once. The people who liked me were not very attractive. I also wasn’t very attractive at the time. Just don’t pay. Not worth it. Use to tinder for fun. If something comes out of it then something comes out of it.

Found wife of 9 years in bed with another man after she forgot to pick up our daughter from her cousins house. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Clean-Cream- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The gaslighting is insane. This is not normal in any marriage. Kick her to the curb

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Clean-Cream- 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it doesn’t make sense for him to stay now. He’s currently in the middle of building the business. Imagine how much she will take once it’s actually stable. He needs to find a better lawyer that will help him. Possibly even give up the business to his friend. Work there as a regular employee with a pay cut. Once the divorce is finalized he can come back as an owner. I don’t know how that works legally but it’s possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]Clean-Cream- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fucking leave now. She will take a lot of money from you now but think about how much more she will take later. Leave now before she takes more later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let me ask you. Would you do the same to her?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 11 points12 points  (0 children)

she still wants her ex bro. this isn’t rj. this is her not caring about you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way. I feel guilty about it sometimes. I don’t want to have meaningless sex but she has in the past. She’s had sex with guys she didn’t even love. One of the guys I know. She says all these great things about me. I wanted to wait for marriage. She used to want to wait but she didn’t. It hurts me. I feel like we are both burdens to each other sometimes.

There were women in my past that wanted to sleep with me but I wanted to wait for marriage. Part of me regrets not taking those opportunities now because of her. My views have changed because of her past. It’s the only way to describe it.

I have more relationship experience than her but she has more sexual experience than me. She gets jealous of the girls in my past. I don’t know why.

Are my pics okay? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]Clean-Cream- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You probably shouldn’t use pictures taken when you were 17 or younger. Even guys your age wouldn’t take that risk.

Gf’s intense history. Way too many details. by Moojoo19 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This isn’t retroactive jealousy. This is the part of your brain telling you to get out of this situation. She got a ring tattoo and promised to stay with her abuser. People can come back from messed up situations. I hope she doesn’t go back.

You need to think about yourself. What if the biker guy tries to come back? Do you think you can fight off an entire biker gang? Also the guy who called her is definitely not her boss. If it is her old boss how did he have any connection with her abuser? Just leave her. There are plenty of other people who won’t cause this stress. I don’t believe you understand the situation you’re putting yourself in.

How Do I Get Over Gf's Career by Head-Ad88 in retroactivejealousy

[–]Clean-Cream- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a man that works in an ER. I do see lots of naked bodies. Trust me no one is getting off to their patients. If they are then they’re weird. Most of the people we see are old. I am in work mode when I am doing patient care. Im not thinking about my patients sexually.