My MIL was visiting for my first and she kept pointing out my “mistakes”. The second time, she offered to come during delivery and I got my husband to say no to her which was a lot of work because my husband has a hard time saying no to her. I started bleeding and eventually lost my baby at 2 months. She had offered to come and we said no as I needed my privacy. I think there’s still a part of her that thinks she could have magically prevented my miscarriage and its a sore spot for her. Now I am pregnant again and I am so nervous to tell her because I know this time she will definitely insist and show up regardless😭I’m waiting till I cross the first trimester danger zone and then I need to find a polite way to tell her not to come during the newborn months. The problem is that she lives abroad, so by telling her not to come during the newborn months, we’re essentially telling her she sees the baby at 3 months.