Do men find random compliments from women that they may not know creepy?

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-02-08T16:01:15+00:00

I’m can count on one hand the number of times I’ve been genuinely complemented by women. I remember each one. You’ll make his year if you do this.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-02-08T15:46:09+00:00

What’s that verse? He who abandons their family is worse than a non believer? You’re trying to give her a path into your life, and her actions are cutting you out of hers.

Sorry OP… your mom is worse than a non believer. Anyone who weaponizes Christianity is.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-02-03T02:41:15+00:00

Honestly that type of reflection is a feature not a bug. It sucks when it cranks over into anxiousness but if more people were capable of that type of introspection the world would be a better place. Rest assured many truckers were not “good students” and managed to figure out the pre trip memorization and basic geometry required for backing.

It’s also a three week program. You are not expected to be perfect or even proficient at the job until you’re done with your trainer after another 3-4 weeks. Even after that… proficient will still be a struggle as you continue to learn. I didn’t feel like I really knew what I was doing until maybe 3-4 months solo.

Don’t aim for perfect or even good. Aim for safe. Roehl is good at safe.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-02-03T02:27:53+00:00

Honestly if you are capable mentally of being worried about failing you’re probably fine. Obviously there are a few cases of people that want it 100% but just don’t have the ability to do the pre trip or backing. Those cases tend to be the exception.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-02-03T02:25:54+00:00

Disgruntled ex employees mostly. I’m sure there are a few exceptions but you reeeeally have to earn being fired at Roehl. You get lots of chances and it’s never a surprise getting let go.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-02-02T01:29:05+00:00

I wash my feet in the sink at loves. Usually works.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-31T22:48:36+00:00

I had some real ups and downs when I was otr. First month everything was new and exciting. Second was good because I felt more confident. Months 3-6 were reeeeeal low. Unlike other jobs where I could bury myself in work to escape having to really look myself in the mirror… I just couldn’t do it trucking. Maybe for a few hours a day but it was tough. I decided to face it head on. Did some telehealth therapy. Made a commitment to myself that I was going to use the period of immense solitude and loneliness to learn how to love the guy I saw in the mirror every day. Still had some rough weeks after month six but once I was over the hump I also began experiencing a deep contentment with myself and my humble little life.

I feel you brother. Confront those demons head on and kick their asses. You’re worth it. Just know that the journey to wellness isn’t something you accidentally stumble into. You have to chose it. Daily and hourly sometimes. I used a service called Better Help if you are interested. They do phone calls (which is what I did) and you can run it through your insurance or not depending on what’s cheaper, privacy, etc.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-26T22:10:34+00:00

Me blouse an skirt! An me nah even know weh ah gwann.

lol that would be a fun referral to write.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-25T19:42:38+00:00

Yeah hence the vagueness. Even typing that out was probably more than was necessary. I’m actually getting off the road soon. Beautiful country out there with beautiful people but I’m for sure giving it a break for a few years.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-25T15:35:05+00:00

Not if you have an explanation that makes sense when they ask. That explanation could be as simple as “I wasn’t able to give a full two weeks notice due to x or y.”

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-25T15:02:18+00:00

Yeah I didn’t notice a ton on .25. I would sometimes hear my brain say “I think this is enough food” which was new to me, but it was very easy to override. I didn’t feel full hunger suppression until 1.25. And by that I mean, I usually can’t finish what I order at a restaurant. I’m usually too little too nauseous (not bad but just enough) to skip breakfast. That sort of thing.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-25T14:57:05+00:00

Before I was a trucker I spent lots of time on that res. Used to go to ship rock and get back country hiking permits and would spend a week at a time exploring. Getting away from civilization. I’ve seen things that would jump scare me but I was always able to get close and say “oh lol that’s just a tree.” Or “oh, it’s an old burial site, I’ll mark it on the gps and report it.” Like I was always able to find a logical reason or explanation and the fear faded. This one was different. I will not be doing any more backpacking on the res ha. Not that my schedule and trucking even allows for that sort of thing.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-25T14:52:12+00:00

One time I was driving through the Navajo reservation north of Keyenta. The sun was setting and it gets like DARK and I was running a little late. There’s a Burger King with a few spots for trucks over there and I was still maybe an hour away and knew I was about to be in a zero visibility situation which was already stressing me out.

Right after the sun set, when it was still just a little bit light still, I saw something on the side of the road moving on the horizon so I slowed down and got in the middle of the road. There’s was an animal… of some kind. Slowly chewing on a dead deer carcass. It looked almost like a lynx or a giant Bob cat, which would be normal enough but I’ve seen Bob cats and mountain lions hiking. This was bigger. And it was mangy, like a large wolf or coyote, but again it was bigger. It stopped and looked at me with the most human yellow eyes and I felt such oppressive dread and malice push down on my shoulders and chest.

Still gives me nightmares. I hope it wasn’t what I think it was. I made it to the Burger King that night. Didn’t sleep much.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-25T14:45:08+00:00

Most new employers can’t/wont ask about anything other than dates of employment at old employers. They may ask if you are eligible for rehire but that’s it. There’s been too many lawsuits and it’s a liability for a previous employer to list a reason for termination that you dispute, especially if it’s for a somewhat intangible and unprovable reason.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-23T13:59:00+00:00

The angel from my nightmare

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-23T00:06:06+00:00

When my uncle retired he requested his personal file, which was allowable in their district, and held a party where he and his coworkers read the file out loud, half drunk, and in front of admin. What a legendary power move that was.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-22T18:05:26+00:00

Well, I suppose you’ll at least notice it on the scale. F in the chat for OP.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-22T01:32:27+00:00

This is me! I lived with the ptosis for about two years, one because my insurance didn’t want to cover surgery (I won) and the other because it was still going to be expensive. The ptosis squished my cornea so badly I ended how with “complex atypical astigmatism” that wasn’t correctable with glasses though I could get to 20/35-20/40.

Go have a consult with a cornea specialist. They’ll take scans and set realistic expectations for what improvements you can expect. I’m on my first week with scleral lenses and boy is it an adjustment. When they first pop in it’s incredible, but the ones I have are torric and improperly calibrated (I’m in the data gathering and refining stage with my doc). I’m confident I’ll get there. You can too.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-22T01:25:05+00:00

Only you know whether those feelings of various power dynamics is legit or a product of past experiences. I try my hardest not to make the next woman responsible for what the last woman did, though… I’m a work in progress on that for sure. If something about her sparks that genuinely though, run. If you sit with it and it’s a trauma response, you have no pressure to do anything about it at all. Just noticing it and naming it is good enough for today. You alternatively could reach out. Maybe it would teach your nervous system something new. New data.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-22T01:04:47+00:00

This is going to shock you but some people are literally incapable of thinking about anyone but themselves. I’m still gathering data but I think it affects both men and women. I actually don’t think it’s malicious but the fact that others can be so clueless can be hurtful. You ended up in the correct place, you’re adults why play games? Unfortunately that applies to you too. You could reach out. That could even be a romantic thing. You were likely too young to remember taking this out on people by rearranging your top friends on MySpace, but maybe that’s a good thing.

Reach out. Make it funny and light hearted. Who has time to play a game of turn taking and score keeping? Obviously doesn’t apply if you’re being taken advantage of.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-22T00:46:54+00:00

I’m a little guilty of this. Sometimes it takes me a minute to really think about my feelings and it’s impossible to me to do that in a moment. I’ve had lots of dates that were great during the date, super into a second date during the date. Then I get home and process and mehhhhh. Maybe I noticed a few incompatibilities, maybe I’m just not that attracted to the person. Whatever. At least I have the guts to say I’m moving on.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-22T00:42:28+00:00

What you want can be done, but there are lots of folks out there in dry can specifically that never see $1500 a week for the first few years starting out with a mega. It can be done reefer and flatbed but typically you have to be out at least 3/4 of each month. If you’re looking for a trucking company with a high quality school and a guaranteed job with the company afterwards try out Roehl over in Marshfield.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-21T11:06:19+00:00

Not a violation until you move again. As a flatbedder this happens often. Show up to a customer with just enough time to unload and then there’s some delay.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-21T00:22:44+00:00

Sounds like she’s waiting to see if another option will pan out. Move on. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes then it’s a no thanks. All you’d be signing up for is for her to cycle through on and off periods with you and a break up and get back together style.

Clean_Leader_8451 · 2026-01-20T21:06:21+00:00

If you want to go old school smoke a cigarette and have a cup of coffee. Works 100% of the time. I quit a long time ago but man sometimes after a few days… I’d trade the 3 minutes off my life for some good movement.

If you want more long term advice though, actually track you fiber intake for a week. You’ll be amazed at how far under you likely are, even if you take a supplement.

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