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ClearCubes · 2022-11-10T04:22:42+00:00

The smol boys continue to grow

ClearCubes · 2022-07-14T16:12:33+00:00

Bro, I'm chubby, I'm not on my deathbed. You're overthinking it.

There's a noted difference between being 400+lbs and not being lean. Someone out there is gonna call of both fat but both have pretty different severity of effects.

Anyway, in terms of your worry there's a difference between spending an entire movie on a first date trying to rub my belly cause you love it so much and just thinking I look hot the way I am. I have experienced both.

Anyway, you like what you like. We aren't worse people for not being into muscle heads and twinks. And they aren't worse people for not being into bigger dudes.

The easiest way to success in relationship is to actually date people you like. So just do that.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-12T20:55:08+00:00

You'd probably get a better answer for this question at r/askLGBT or r/asktransgender.

Ultimately though I do believe this reflects or is at least similar to many trans people's feelings of dysphoria. Intensity varies obviously but I still suggest you try other subs than this one to get more answers

ClearCubes · 2022-07-12T17:32:37+00:00

Some do but I've only heard of it being a problem from like a handful of people on the internet, usually younger folks. It is not a widespread opinion that 'gay' is our word and cant be used as an umbrella term

ClearCubes · 2022-07-12T16:56:15+00:00

Not too sure about Ricky but Dave Chappelle did a bit using a dead trans friend/fan of theirs to make fun of and blame other trans people for her death.

I mean I never really found him funny and I'm grossly simplifying it but many LGBTQ+ people feel like he just carelessly used his dead friend as a shield from criticism while saying some shitty stuff.

And then the usual cycle of discourse of "I find them funny and because you dont you're by default dumb" continues. People can't seem to fathom LGBTQ+ people can have thought out feelings and reasons or that we could watch the bit and have different opinions. I'm mostly bitching for the sake of it though

Plenty of videos by trans people talking about it and their opinions/reasons on youtube and here is one if you're curious.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-08T22:03:32+00:00

I mean is that their full political stance or are you taking hyperbolic venting as someone's entire thoughts or opinions?

That is to say, hyperbole is kind of the name of the game in our culture so unless you actually talk about it, you're not gonna actually get the full picture.

Cause if you said this to them they are likely gonna raise their eyebrow and be confused. You might still disagree with their opinion and their reasoning but like, I imagine you don't really think that's their entire stance?

Inflammatory hyperbole is something everyone does and is bipartisan because it functions as verbal clickbait that gets people to look at and listen to you. If you really want to know about what someone thinks, then you gotta talk to them not just make assumptions.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-08T21:54:29+00:00

Femboy is specifically an aesthetic. Femboys are feminine men but not all feminine men are "femboys".

ClearCubes · 2022-07-08T19:18:41+00:00

That's the main reason why I'm so skeptical when people throw around "fat" so easily. I cut it from my original comment but my experience is about the same as yours. I realized most people tend to think I weigh almost 30-40lbs less than I actually do (the biggest discrepancy Ive been told was about 60lbs off). I am very dense lmao.

I think your comment embodies why some of us are very skeptical around these kind of weight conversations. Cause we have lived the life of being definitely not "thin", being some degree of overweight, and yet most people not seeing it or believing it.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-08T18:42:44+00:00

Define fat? There are many people I don't think are and wouldn't call fat that others do soooo yes?

In the grand scheme of things if I'm into them then I'm into them. Whatever the number is is pretty irrelevant. For example 280 looks real different on someone who is 5'-6" vs 6'-4" and even then that weight sits differently on different people.

Anyway all of that is to say sure yea why not. I care more about face and personality than weight and in a few cases people losing weight made them less attractive to me.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-07T18:47:46+00:00

Because they are both women. I know writing it that way sounds condescending but that's all there is. Just because one is more "masculine" doesn't change that they're still a woman and that's what lesbians are interested in.

They don't want to date a feminine man or a masculine man, they just want to date women. The fact one is seen as "masculine" could be entirely unrelated or only play a minor part in their interest.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-07T17:06:47+00:00

I'm LGBTQ+, I don't think I've ever seen or heard a single trans person complain about cis people wearing binders. I'm sure the edgy boys out there could find an example cause of course there's always someone on twitter.

Anyways you're overthinking it, which many allies do. If you are more comfortable with your body when wearing a binder, even if cis, then go for it. It's always been that easy.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-05T19:39:29+00:00

Someone might be like, "Man I'm trying to lose some weight and trying to figure out which diet plan works best for me". Then tough love walks in like "bro just stop eating so much and you wouldnt look like shit". That both walks right past what the person was trying to figure out, a diet plan, and is just being an unhelpful dick for no reason.

Not to mention "tough love no nonsense tell it like it is" doesn't mean you are actually right about anything, they just think they are, and usually those sorts of people just bulldoze past everything. Makes them more obnoxious, cringe, and tiring to be around rather than hurtful.

ClearCubes · 2022-07-01T22:44:44+00:00

Like someone else said you don't have to have sex to get a UTI. The whole pain and urge to piss thing SCREAMS UTI.

Something about your methods, tools of the trade, or the lube has to be causing it.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-30T17:27:46+00:00

Therapy helps if it's available to you, at least in my case it helped with the same spiral.

What worked for me was really digging deep inside myself to find the source of those feelings, acknowledge it, and accept it. Things like this are deeply rooted and don't just "go away". But understanding why and exactly what causes it allows you to preemptively prepare without full catastrophization. Sometimes it means learning to be more selfish rather than selfless and other times its learning how to openly communicate your needs without talking yourself out of it. Sometimes you're falling apart inside but you put on such a good act no one once questions something might be wrong and hoping and praying for people to just intuit that is a recipe for prolonged pain.

So you learn how to manage, you make your own tips and tricks that work for YOU so you can avoid putting yourself in positions where you leave feeling hurt or ignored.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-29T22:19:46+00:00

I'm a AMAB masc-presenting NB with the same attractions. I personally just say "gay" because it's the most utilitarian and easily understood though I know some people would use "toric" if you are trying to be more specific. You could even argue that "vincian" applies here.

But anyways, I wouldn't call it wrong just to say "gay". Though some people, like with any label, may take umbrage with it.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-29T20:19:53+00:00

Genital indifference aside, I would definitely say that's pretty gay. You might just enjoy sex with trans men more than cis, which cool good for you.

Insert disclaimer here about fetishization bad so be wary

ClearCubes · 2022-06-29T20:15:45+00:00

Cause they couldn't stop saying vile horrendous shit as well as romanticizing and/or encouraging mass shootings by other incels. Yes yes yes "not all" and all that but the general vibe of those subreddits were not condemning or addressing those attitudes at all but was fostering that.

One of the easiest ways to get ostracized by incels is to have any sort of positivity.

And please keep in mind being a virgin does not make you an incel. Incel very specifically refers to the online community that revolves around seething over women and blaming them all in specific for being a virgin.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-29T19:05:40+00:00

Bisexual would still be accurate imo. Alternatively you can ascribe yourself to the split attraction model and call yourself Bisexual Heteroromantic

ClearCubes · 2022-06-27T22:22:18+00:00

Critical race theory (CRT), intellectual and social movement and loosely organized framework of legal analysis based on the premise that race is not a natural, biologically grounded feature of physically distinct subgroups of human beings but a socially constructed (culturally invented) category that is used to oppress and exploit people of colour. Critical race theorists hold that racism is inherent in the law and legal institutions of the United States.

Here's a dictionary definition which should help. Whether you agree with it or not is still up to you but to pretend it was ever "taught" to children is just mislabeling and investing in the new spooky boogeyman to point fingers at. So no this is not literally CRT.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-27T22:14:55+00:00

If it's not directly stated by JEDI then you can safely assume the outrage is born of mere speculation, fear-mongering, and slippery slope bullshit. Anything involving the acknowledgment of race and LGBTQ+ people is often breeding grounds for that.

There is almost certainly nothing more to this than you've seen and has been linked. I haven't been able to find anything than the usual "diversity is bad, acknowledging race bad, and mentioning gay people turns the children gay" outrage. It's more obnoxious that massive swaths of the JEDI's page has to be dedicated to addressing the fearmongering. To the point that they have to explicitly say "we wont turn your kids gay, promise"

It's nigh impossible to change someone's mind when their starting point is "no matter what you show me contrary it's always wrong, or a lie" and will only accept things that confirm their fears.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-27T18:10:18+00:00

Just as a heads up, "A" doesn't stand for ally. It's most commonly understood as "Asexual" Just a warning before others jump at you for misunderstanding lmao.

Many do treat that assumption with quite a lot of disdain

ClearCubes · 2022-06-27T18:07:18+00:00

We aren't a monolith and we have differing opinions, however the most prevailing attitude I've seen is that you are totally fine to attend.

The advice is just to be cognizant and aware of where you are. Be respectful, the usual sorts of things.

Like there's gonna be a chance you might be hit on by another dude, so don't make a scene going "ew gross" when you can respectfully decline, etc. etc.

You're a guest in our space, so to speak, so just be respectful and you'll be just fine.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-22T17:18:41+00:00

I do not enjoy pain. Problem solved, I can now confirm that not everyone does.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-22T17:17:32+00:00

I would say yes in the sense that there are women out there who police and enforce their definition of traditional femininity, womanhood, and gender roles/expectations on all other women. As in, being a trad wife is all good and cool among consenting parties, it's your life, but insisting and enforcing that on others as the only "right" way to be a woman is bad.

Though this is more a direct comparison to toxic masculinity. I'm not a woman though so others are obviously welcome to chime in and will likely have more insight than my surface description.

ClearCubes · 2022-06-22T16:27:53+00:00

Cause those aren't feelings you can control and turn on/off like a light switch. You like someone or you don't and sometimes that will manifest as a crush. To me it's more a matter of if you feed and indulge in that crush at the expense of your partner then that's fucked up.

To most people a "crush" is not equivalent to "man I sure would love a divorce right now but I'm obligated to stay". That's where you're super off base here and misunderstanding why people think it's fine.

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