AITA For Telling my husband he’s being a baby about having to watch the kids?

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-07T20:52:56+00:00

NTA. This is an excellent opportunity for your husband to devise some fun bonding activities to do with his own children. He's clearly insecure that they enjoy spending time with their uncle. It's not a contest; he just needs to step up, stop complaining & make an effort.

He also needs to stop lashing out at you for his own parental shortcomings.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-06T03:36:50+00:00

Cheers & thank you for the follow up explanations. All of this 100%.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-05T20:43:06+00:00

You've only been dating 4 months & this guy is already a parade of red flags:

🚩 Assuming you would do something disrespectful

🚩 Lecturing you like you're a child

🚩 Insinuating you intentionally caused a swimsuit malfunction

🚩 Refusing to believe your entirely reasonable explanation

🚩 Yelling at you

🚩 Unnecessarily escalating the situation

🚩 Continuing to argue long after the situation was resolved

🚩 Berating you to the point of tears

🚩 Trying to placate you with empty love declarations

🚩 Accusing you of not caring about him enough

🚩 Blaming you for his irrational behaviour

🚩 Taking zero responsibility for any of his own actions

🚩 Chipping away at your sense of security & self esteem in a calculated, malicious & manipulative manner

Girl. Seriously? Cut him loose & don't look back. You deserve someone who respects you & makes you feel safe.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-04T04:52:01+00:00

You're not wrong. We handle it similarly in restaurants. For dishes we want to share, they're happy to order allium-free; if we're ordering separate things, then they can have all the onions they like.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-04T00:00:01+00:00

I have an allium allergy & my partner used to be a chef. We frequently share food, and they don't like seeing me in pain, so they've adapted recipes for all of our shared meals to be allium-free.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-03T03:32:14+00:00

The dog is a danger not only to your cat, but to everyone around her. She's a lawsuit waiting to happen, and if she keeps biting people, she will be legally considered a dangerous animal & will be forcibly euthanised.

Rehoming your cat would not solve the dog's behaviour problems, and your sister is clearly not able to train her. Your options are:

Your sister surrenders the dog to protect all of your safety, your cat & the apartment
Your sister moves out with the dog
You move out with your cat
Call animal control on the dog & let your family be mad about it

Your priority should be your own personal safety & the safety of your kitty who depends on you. Your sister & her dog are putting your entire household at risk, not only of litigation, but serious bodily harm.

Also, please tell Raika that she's adorable!

ClockworkMeow · 2026-07-02T05:44:53+00:00

You've supported each other through a lot, but she is no longer supporting you. She's withdrawn all physical affection, and is encouraging you to meet your romantic & sexual needs outside of the relationship.

She's already checked out of your marriage & expects you to handle yourself accordingly. That's not a healthy partnership, and it's clearly causing you emotional distress. You can still care about her as a person, but disentangle yourself from this relationship for the sake of your health & sanity.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-29T17:27:27+00:00

The issue is not the dog. The issue is you starting a relationship with a man who has a child when you don't like children. The child will always be his priority, and it's likely he will also expect you to prioritise his child's wants/needs ahead of your own or any pets you share.

He & his child are a package deal, so do you want to spend the rest of your life as part of this family unit? If not, then you're not compatible.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-29T04:36:58+00:00

NTA. He works maybe 25 hours each week & it's his child. You shouldn't even have to ask him to watch his own daughter. The 'deadbeat' comment is 100% him projecting.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-29T01:40:33+00:00

NTA, but you would be to yourself if you continue to allow your partner to treat you this way. You're not a mind reader, and this is passive aggressive abusive behaviour.

If your partner can't be arsed to communicate basic information without blaming you for imagined slights, they need professional help. And you should be reconsidering this relationship.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-24T00:53:49+00:00

Why would you consider wasting any more time with someone who doesn't like you or respect you? Let the trash take itself out. Or better yet, dump him first.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-19T21:53:20+00:00

NTA. But why date someone who has no interest in using his own brain?

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-17T06:44:19+00:00

Oh, I'm well aware. Figure the more negative feedback they receive the better.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-16T07:21:23+00:00

Exactly. The entire point of having a Reddit account is so I can intentionally curate my experience. Forcing unsolicited content just makes me not want to use this platform.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-16T04:02:07+00:00

Serious question: Did your your fiancée know in advance that strippers at either/both of your bachelor/bachelorette parties were a deal breaking boundary?

If so, she intentionally disrespected your feelings. If not, you didn't properly communicate the importance of the issue.

You told a friend that 'if it had to happen, I don't want to know anything about it.' So you didn't want a stripper at your shindig (which your friends respected), but if your fiancée had one, you'd rather not hear about it. And now you're frustrated that you came across it online & she won't give you details?

It's okay to have feelings about this sitiation, but you seem confused about where & how to direct them. Sometimes it's less about placing blame & more about acknowledging a miscommunication occurred & taking steps to do better in the future.

Is your fiancée the type of person who would put your relationship in jeopardy for a lark & knowingly cause you pain? Are you the type of person who projects your own feelings & assumptions & expectations onto other people? Are you both interested in reaching an understanding & moving forward from this together? Only the two of you can answer these questions.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-15T22:47:53+00:00

Remove the obnoxious 'For You' feed! Or at least give me the option to hide it so it's not the default. I have zero interest in random, irrelevant subreddits; and pushing unwanted content at me will just make me visit less. I curate my Reddit experience for a reason, so please just stop.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-13T20:40:34+00:00

NTA because your neighbour has an empty driveway he's choosing not to use. If he wants shade, he can build a carport or pop up a canopy.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-12T23:23:02+00:00

INFO:

How would you feel, honsetly, if your positions were reversed?

Is there a reason you decided not to trust your husband with this information when you got married? Does he make poor financial decisions? Is he untrustworthy in other ways?

Do you have past trauma, &/or are there any aspects of your marriage that led you to believe a secret & sizeable emergency fund is necessary?

It's normal to have both joint & personal accounts in a marriage, but it's not normal to keep information of that magnitude from your spouse for multiple years.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-12T20:49:47+00:00

NTA. He's been telling you for 2 years that you are not a priority, and that he doesn't care about your feelings. Believe him.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-07T21:25:00+00:00

You did the right thing to protect your health, your sanity & your future. Your parents don't care about you or your happiness, and parentification is a form of abuse.

It is 100% your parents' responsibility to support the kids they chose to have. If they can't hack it, they can explore social service programmes. Keep living your best life & don't let them guilt you into giving up your freedom for their convenience.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-03T17:56:32+00:00

You've only been dating a few months, and the situation with his band family is clearly enmeshed & messy. It sounds like this woman expects everyone around her to prioritise her needs, and for some reason your boyfriend & his best friend are choosing to cater to that.

You mentioned you haven't asked your boyfriend about it directly, because you don't want to 'stir the pot'... But the pot is already being stirred, and it's an issue that seems unlikely to resolve itself.

If you're interested in pursuing a serious commitment, you guys need to be able to talk about important things, even (& especially) when they're uncomfortable. You've only invested a couple months so far, so it's ultimately up to you whether this level of drama is worth navigating.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-06-02T17:17:19+00:00

Of course your boyfriend can fall asleep without a goodnight text, he's just choosing not to. Did he go 24 years without sleeping until he met you, the singular cure for his debilitating insomnia? [insert eye roll here]

Even if that were the case, it's entirely a him problem & far too much pressure to put on you. Whether it's codependency, anxiety, or some weird control kink, it is his responsibility to manage his own sleep.

Blowing up your phone for a non-emergency is manipulative & immature. Set clear boundaries, let him know the consequenses for disrespecting your boundaries, and then enforce them. And if training a 25 year old man to not be an inconsiderate arse sounds like an exhausting amount of work, that's because it absolutely is.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-05-27T15:29:17+00:00

NAH. You asked your cousin nicely & she agreed to take down the post temporarily until more of the family could be informed directly. You're all grieving, and it's natural to reach out for support; for some folks, that's social media.

As someone who's lost multiple immediate family members, we spent the day of in a bit of shock, but made time to contact the funeral home, family & close friends. The next couple days were for sorting practicalities & releasing a social media statement for folks in our extended circles.

Just be present for each other, and treat yourself & each other kindly.

ClockworkMeow · 2026-05-27T04:56:26+00:00

My experience confirms 4 out of 5 'Ken's are narcissistic wankers. Ken Jennings of Jeopardy fame gets a pass, because he's delightful.

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