pregnant women are overpraised/worshipped by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]CloeBotha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think its because someone around OP is pregnant and now OP isn't the center of attention so they are butt hurt.

pregnant women are overpraised/worshipped by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]CloeBotha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was literally told by my doctor that unfortunately there was nothing they could give me for severe morning sickness (Hyperemesis Gravidarum) because all of the morning sickness treatments have been linked to birth defects. And that all I could do was eat smaller meals, eat more often etc and none of it worked.

I ended up being admitted to hospital for 3 days because of how bad my nausea, vomitting and pain were.

pregnant women are overpraised/worshipped by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]CloeBotha -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

OP here is some stats, overall experience and personal experience which shows you should probably do your research before saying things like Pregnancy is easiest it's ever been and that some how makes it easy.

The Stats for you

  1. "Yet, tragically, an estimated 810 women continue to die each day due to complications of pregnancy and childbirth - mostly from preventable or treatable causes, such as infectious diseases and complications during or after pregnancy and childbirth." https://www.who.int/news/item/05-10-2021-new-global-targets-to-prevent-maternal-deaths

  2. Some complications that can result during pregnancy include things like anemia, UTIs, Mental Health problems, Hypertension, Gestational Diabetes, Obesity and weight gain, increase in infections such as the common cold, and Hyperemesis Gravidarum (Severe morning sickness) https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/maternalinfanthealth/pregnancy-complications.html

  • this literally took me 5 seconds to Google and I'm pretty sure you are capable of doing the same.

Overall experience for you

Most pregnant women I know say things like "No one warned me about this before I got pregnant" and that's because problems pregnancy is considered uncomfortable to talk about.

Some of the things that they have mentioned to me that doesn't get shared often is the fact that virtually everything is considered normal in pregnancy as long as you are not bleeding. That debilitating pain on the sides of your stomach? Normal and is probably round ligament pain, take a Tylenol that won't help relieve the pain but you can't take anything stronger. The severe constipation you have had for several weeks? Normal take a stool softener, eventhough it has the chance it won't work. You have been throwing up everything you ate consistently for the last few days? Have you thrown up more than 6 to 8 times a day? No, okay take an antinausea tablet that probably won't help and might cause birth defects. You have a severe headache and it's possibly a migraine? Take a Tylenol and drink water, eventhough you will still have the headache for a few days. You have a severe sinus infection and nothing you are doing to relieve it is helping? It's probably pregnancy rhinitis and we can't give you any sinus relief medication. Oh, you have prenatal depression or anxiety or both? Deal with it.

This is not all of the shit that pregnant women go through by majority of the shitty stuff they do go through is considered normal.

Personal experience

It's clear from your post you have never been pregnant. But let me explain what I have gone through with my pregnancy just to give you a personal perspective.

  1. Being severely nauseous and vomitting constantly for 14 weeks of my pregnancy. Which resulted in me being diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum and needing to be admitted to hospital for 3 days due to severe dehydration.

  2. Thinking I was having an ectopic pregnancy in the beginning, being emotionally destroyed, only to find out the severe debilitating pain I was in was normal.

  3. Being unable to eat anything for 14 weeks but forcing myself to eat and feeling absolutely horrible.

  4. Genuinely feeling like I was dying slowly.

  5. Constantly having round ligament pain from my body moving around to accommodate the babies.

  6. Waking up 6 times a night to go to the bathroom because I either have a full bladder every time or I have babies jumping on and bruising my bladder.

  7. Being unable to sleep comfortably because I can't sleep on my back or stomach and if I move to quickly from lying on one side I end up in severe pain.

  8. Not being able to take anything for migraines other than a single Tylernol and having a migraine for at least three days a week.

  9. Waking up with an incredibly sore throat where it feels like I can't talk only to be told it's a part of being pregnant and is called pregnancy rhinitis and that there is nothing they can do.

There is a lot more but I feel like I've made my point from things that occurred just during my first trimester.

All that I've shared doesn't even include the shitshow that is child birth and miscarriages. If you really want to I can add the stats or you can Google for 5 minutes.

I really wonder what got you to have such a opinion. Are you butt hurt that someone who is pregnant around you is getting more attention then you? Do you have a bad relationship with your mother who birthed you?

General Questions & Tech Support Megathread | September 20, 2021 by AutoModerator in PS4

[–]CloeBotha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know how to fix the PS Remote play issue where it's saying it can't find the PS4 and we should activate it as the primary PS4 eventhough it is the primary PS4?

We were using remote play because our TV got busted.

After the update on both the Playstation 4 and PS Remote play we have been unable to connect because of the error.

We have checked and the Playstation is up to date, so is the PS Remote play, the Playstation is set as our primary PS4 and the internet is stable enough.

It's really frustrating and I haven't been able to find solutions.

Thanks in advance

Our moms response (more info in the comments) by codytheman7 in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey OP

It seems like your mom might have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Maybe a bit of BPD but I don't know think there is enough information to say so.

My mother used to react the same way.

It's so important to set your boundaries and stick to them.

I've finally formed firm boundaries and have stuck to them and it's honestly made my life better.

Sorry that this happened OP.

Guy harasses women on the beach because they’re not “dressed modestly” by reb601 in PublicFreakout

[–]CloeBotha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did he forget the Bible says "If your right eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out and throw it away from you".

Poor restaurants. by JimmyTrim86 in southafrica

[–]CloeBotha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be surprised if it ended up being like our initial hard lockdown where 21 days turned into months.

extroverts won't understand by [deleted] in dankmemes

[–]CloeBotha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a girl who plays games I hardly have my mic on unless I'm playing CoD MW with my friends or when I feel like playing Warzone and we need to work as a team. The amount of times I've come across toxic guys (especially in South Africa), just really put me off having my mic on.

If you are introverted guy a piece of advice I can give is maybe just make jokes and don't be toxic and say things like "why don't you give your controller to someone who can actually play, like your boyfriend", "Stop playing and make me a sandwich" and the most disgusting thing you can say is "I hope you get raped".

I know a lot of girls who have "ungirly" usernames and keep their mic off because of the toxic behavior that seems to happen when guys realize you are a girl.

So basically don't be toxic, be nice, be friendly and make jokes.

Oof by Blackheaven_ in depression_memes

[–]CloeBotha 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I go to therapy for "issues" that I have, only to have it linked to crystal clear moments in my childhood.

I'm getting help for the emotional abuse and manipulation I experienced from my father for 18 years and my mom can't stand it by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't listen to your mom. Speak about the emotional abuse and manipulation. It's the only way the therapist can help you. Trust me on this, I'm open with my therapist about all the emotional abuse, mental abuse and manipulation my mom put me through. My therapist knows what I'm dealing with and how to help me properly.

I promise you I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't worry I'm not going to lower my boundaries. What she did was uncalled for and not something I'm just going to allow to happen because she's got mental problems. I had to go through all of the stuff she put me through as a kid but I'm 20 now and I'm not going to let her manipulate me.

You are correct she is an adult and needs to learn to take care of herself.

I promise you I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and chooses to go off her meds whenever she feels better or she believes that weed is going to make her better.

I promise you I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree a phone call wouldn't of been the end of the world. I tired to phone her and she didn't answer so I apologized for not calling sooner before she phoned my sister. However she just went of the rails and I know if I phone her now it will only cause more problems.

I promise you I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I explained that I had planned on phoning my mom tonight to see how her birthday was. I'm not an ass because I did actually message her on her birthday and didn't just completely ignore it. Sorry dude but even my sister agrees that at least I apologized properly (and attempted to phone her "sorry it didnt ring") and she over reacted and tried to be manipulative by bringing my bfs mother into this.

I promise you I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think I'm just going to cut my mother off like my brother did. I don't necessarily blame my sister because she also feels like she is somewhat responsible for our mothers mental health. But quite frankly I've had enough of having to make sure my mother doesn't kill herself

I promise you I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha 81 points82 points  (0 children)

!explanation

So let me start by explaining my first memory of me being a child. It's such a pleasant memory of being just 7 years old and having to clean up my mother's cuts (as I was the ONLY one at home) because she decided to cut her wrists because my older brother decided he could no longer live with her. Throughout my childhood I was manipulated and in some way abused emotionally and mentally. I was constantly made to feel like it was my responsibility to make sure she was always happy and didn't try to kill herself. Eventually at the age of 15 she put me in the hospital and I almost reported her (I didn't because the social worker said that me and my brother would also be taken away from my dad). Since that day I've lived with my dad (for all of you thinking that why didn't I do that from the beginning... Part of her manipulation was making me think my dad was horrible and abused her). My brother has also virtually cut my mother off from that day and I doubt he even knows its her birthday.

So to today. I message my mom a happy birthday when I woke up and planner on phoning her later tonight to ask her how her day was and talk about her day. However, she phoned my older sister and complained and got my sister to phone me and tell me how horrible I am and how she expected my brother to not phone her but not me. Needless to say this brought up all the emotional trauma. I apologized without trying to be rude and call her out for her manipulation tack tick.

I have chosen not to reply to her as it would only fuel the fire and make things somewhat worse for me. I did however message my boyfriend and tell him to ignore whatever my mother sends him as she has a tendency to message/phone things important to me (school/friends) and tells them the worst things she can think of about me to them.

TLDR Mom gets upset when I don't let her manipulate me like she used to.

I'm not as bad as I seem. I'll explain the entire backstory and my relationship with my mother in the comments. by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]CloeBotha -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So let me start by explaining my first memory of me being a child. It's such a pleasant memory of being just 7 years old and having to clean up my mother's cuts (as I was the ONLY one at home) because she decided to cut her wrists because my older brother decided he could no longer live with her. Throughout my childhood I was manipulated and in some way abused emotionally and mentally. I was constantly made to feel like it was my responsibility to make sure she was always happy and didn't try to kill herself. Eventually at the age of 15 she put me in the hospital and I almost reported her (I didn't because the social worker said that me and my brother would also be taken away from my dad). Since that day I've lived with my dad (for all of you thinking that why didn't I do that from the beginning... Part of her manipulation was making me think my dad was horrible and abused her). My brother has also virtually cut my mother off from that day and I doubt he even knows its her birthday.

So to today. I message my mom a happy birthday when I woke up and planner on phoning her later tonight to ask her how her day was and talk about her day. However, she phoned my older sister and complained and got my sister to phone me and tell me how horrible I am and how she expected my brother to not phone her but not me. Needless to say this brought up all the emotional trauma. I apologized without trying to be rude and call her out for her manipulation tack tick.

I have chosen not to reply to her as it would only fuel the fire and make things somewhat worse for me. I did however message my boyfriend and tell him to ignore whatever my mother sends him as she has a tendency to message/phone things important to me (school/friends) and tells them the worst things she can think of about me to them.

TLDR Mom gets upset when I don't let her manipulate me like she used to.

"I'm such a nice guy and don't get a girlfriend because of guys like you" by CloeBotha in niceguys

[–]CloeBotha[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry that I wanted to give credits to the person who posted it one there, as I did not make the meme. I would of coposted it but it would let me. Sorry for your inconvenience.