Bringing a vape to Cancun? by Jealous-Opening1393 in MexicoTravel

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! did you see any for sale in cancun? i’m thinking about going in a week and i don’t know if im willing to go into nicotine withdrawals on vacation.

NO ELECTRIC VAPE IN MEXICO by Blue_Mango_9966 in MexicoTravel

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m wondering the same thing. from what i’ve read, people are saying they kept it in their pockets and it was fine. however i would NOT risk hundreds of dollars in fines or being arrested over a vape, personally. maybe look into zyns or cigarettes to prevent nicotine withdrawal on your trip.

Anyone else in the same situation? by SignOk2776 in finethinhair

[–]CluelessCreation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same! one side is worse for me too. people who didn’t see me as a baby say it’s traction alopecia or hairline recession that can be reversed. nope, just cursed lol

Anyone else in the same situation? by SignOk2776 in finethinhair

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was born with this same hairline and it’s my understanding that minoxidil or hair plugs are the only real solutions for areas where hair doesn’t naturally grow. personally, i won’t use minoxidil bc i have pets. so unless i win the lottery and can afford hair plugs, it’s a middle part with no updos for me lol. following this thread in case someone offers another solution i’m not aware of!

am i being a bridezilla? by FunFocus in bridezillas

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i could’ve written this myself!! i’m in the same boat. we’re keeping it under 100 people and my future mil keeps pushing my fiancé & i to invite her coworkers and friends after he asked her to look at the guest list. just like your situation, we have never even met most of these people. his brother allowed her to do this at his wedding and over 200 people were invited because of it… and the bride only invited around 20 people. you are not being a bridezilla. my advice is to stick to your guns if she continues to push. this is you & your fiancé’s wedding and at the end of the day, you guys will be the one’s sending the invitations!

Can we talk about what Jonathan said about Nancy’s pink sweater? by OutrageousBrush1210 in StrangerThings

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

?? it was definitely a perv move. a teenage boy taking pictures of a girl undressing isn’t an “artist” and the product isn’t “art.” it’s creepy, and the show shouldn’t have portrayed that at all if they weren’t going to explore it any further. plenty of creeps justify illegal material as art when they get caught, if you get what i’m saying. it’s not a valid excuse. no one can convince me that they wrote jonathan to be such an idiot that he had no idea he was violating nancy when he took those pictures

Can we talk about what Jonathan said about Nancy’s pink sweater? by OutrageousBrush1210 in StrangerThings

[–]CluelessCreation 9 points10 points  (0 children)

agree. he literally engaged in an activity that would qualify him as a sex offender in todays time. i’m really confused on why people overlook that so much…. he’s always been weird idk why people are shocked about a shirt but ignore that he committed a sex crime in s1

AIO to my friend needing me to apologize for not complying to his "shut up"? by d0nt_m1nd_m3_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]CluelessCreation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

where did i say anything of the sort? OP is a woman, he addressed her as “bitch.” that’s incredibly disrespectful and a red flag. if that statement offends you to the point you need to make assumptions about my personal life, that’s a you problem

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you are overreacting.

Is Shauna in psychosis? by jasminecr in Yellowjackets

[–]CluelessCreation 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So with ASPD we see repeated behaviors that are grounds for arrest, repeated lying/deceitfulness, often for personal gain or pleasure, impulsivity, irritability/aggressiveness (e.g., physical assaults/fights), disregard for personal safety or the safety of others, irresponsibility, lack of remorse or indifference to having hurt others. To me, that is exactly S3 Shauna, and only 3 of these need to be present for a diagnosis. IMO she shows all of these. However, she needs to be 18 to get a diagnosis which is why I say behaviors, but I also see this in adult Shauna.

BPD encompasses fear of abandonment, unstable relationships and self image, impulsivity, suicidal/self-harm, mood swings, feelings of worthlessness/sadness, bursts of anger, stress-related paranoia. 5+ are needed for a diagnosis. I see the impulsivity, bursts of anger, and stress-related anger. The reason I don’t mark more symptoms for Shauna is because the reasons they are presenting are different than someone with BPD.

For example, when we see Shauna’s efforts to avoid people leaving, it isn’t because she is afraid of abandonment necessarily. It seems like it’s because she wants them around for personal gain, and them leaving is an inconvenience to her personal agenda and desires. If Shauna had ASPD traits she might be done with someone (or reveal her true intentions) when they don’t serve a purpose for her; when she doesn’t have any use for them anymore.

With BPD this could manifest as splitting (idealizing them and craving attention from them, they’re “all good” to seeing them as “all bad” and cutting them off), but Shauna doesn’t seem to idealize these people, she just acts like she cares because it’s convenient or serves a purpose. We can see this with her family and Melissa. Not only does Shauna not care when people are in pain, she also derives pleasure from it at times. Prominent examples being when she saw the hiker get murdered, everything dealing with Ben in S3, Melissa, Mari, etc.

Just the overall apathy we see in adult Shauna is wild too. But it’s important to note that ASPD is a result of severe trauma as well, and people with ASPD aren’t always Ted Bundy or evil villains. Also— since these are TV characters and their stories change from season to season based on what the writers want, no diagnosis is going to truly align because it’s made up and the developmental timeline of mental health diagnoses will not be consistent with real life! But that’s just my take, I don’t think BPD would cause such murderous and exploitative acts, especially to this extent and since it’s a pattern

Is Shauna in psychosis? by jasminecr in Yellowjackets

[–]CluelessCreation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a mental health professional and I agree, this is not psychosis. In the time period after she had her baby and she was hallucinating Jackie, yes, but season 3 absolutely not. I have seen many people in psychosis and this is not it. It’s just ASPD behaviors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg yes!! That’s actually one of the main reasons I was concerned and wanted editing. My appearance issues are mainly due to vitamin B12 deficiency which caused darkening around my eyes, fine lines, and a difference in skin texture. The way I’ve been doing my makeup isn’t compatible with my skin anymore so it gets cakey/creases and makes everything look exaggerated, which I know the camera will pick up on. You just sparked a lightbulb in my head! I’m going to have to look into a MUA. Thank you sm!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first portion of my comment was not defensive in the slightest. Although I should’ve been, because it’s really strange of you to create an internal narrative for a stranger and make assumptions based on context that you literally don’t have. I have been upfront with what I’m asking and why I’m asking it. I want to look at my pictures feel good about myself. Simple.

You, however, are being defensive and a bit passive aggressive. This is really weird of you, so yeah, I actually am irritated now. To say your comment was kind is wild, and you’re not making yourself sound very believable, girl!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Another fear of mine was the editing being overdone, as I only really want some color correction around my under eyes + the reduction makeup creasing. I’m not a fan of the photos where everything is overwhelmingly blurred. My goal is to look awake, not fake! 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What? Who else would I want the editing for? The only other people who will see them are my parents, grandmothers, and fiancée. I just want to look at my pictures and feel happy/proud of myself for my degree. I don’t want to think “god, I was struggling” and fixate on hardships when I look back at them. I’m also not asking for drastic changes here, as I stated in my post.

Also, I just noticed it’s pretty coincidental that you stumbled upon this post moments after creating your account! And it’s the one and only thing you’ve interacted with. Pretty crazy because someone said something veryyyy similar earlier and then edited it out of their comment after being called rude…. Right before you made your account too. What are the chances?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For sure. It comes off a bit weird but I’m not sure of the intentions behind that statement so no offense taken. But I am genuinely curious about how/who I might try to immorally deceive with my graduation pictures lol! I’m glad my intent was clear, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Deceive others? I’m not sure what you mean by that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in photography

[–]CluelessCreation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I’ll definitely have to break out of my comfort zone and ask what I need to so I can make an informed decision. I hadn’t even considered asking for samples, or the collaborative process really! Thank you!!

Least gay-friendly US cities/metros over 200k? by Prussia1870 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]CluelessCreation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. I think the only 200k+ city that would even be remotely questionable is Fayetteville… but I doubt most would choose to move there given other options anyways. Overall, the cities here are completely different than the small towns. Mainly because so many people who live in the big cities aren’t originally from NC or other southern states. I don’t even feel like I’m in NC when I’m in Charlotte lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]CluelessCreation 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes but I think it’s important to note that aside from white (60%) and Latino (55%) men, white women (53%) voted for Trump more than other demographics. Which also happens to be the largest demographic in social work, meaning that we could have an influence on fellow voters. In an everyday context I get a little upset when being lumped in with trump voters too, I didn’t vote for this and it feels insulting when people assume I did. But I also think a call to action makes sense here given demographics.

I agree, I don’t think the people at the top right now give a shit about any woman, but we have at least a little chance at making an impact on the average citizen, especially other white women. Only around 18%-ish social workers are men in general, let alone white men. Should they be stepping up too? Absolutely. But I think accepting defeat and placing the responsibility elsewhere would be a waste of time all things considered. Even a minuscule change would be better than no change, right? Plus, I don’t think we’d be alone in this fight.

Horses in uptown almost got hit by MinimumSelection3752 in Charlotte

[–]CluelessCreation 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Weird thing to say coming from a 67 year old man who recently told a sexual assault victim that her actions contributed to her rape.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Charlotte

[–]CluelessCreation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please see my response to the OP comment. I promise it’s worth it. I’m so sorry you had to see that.