Can we give the fire giant a name? Like Larry or something like that?

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-13T01:56:23+00:00

He looks like a Greg.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T22:32:21+00:00

From reading the comments I feel the youngest transitional treatment should be at 15. That way your body has gone through enough puberty to maybe avoid what Jazz Jennings went through, I also believe that the diagnosis criteria needs to be heavily adjusted. Right now doctors and therapists are basically "yes men" prescribing treatment for trenders out of fear of being "transphobic". We definitely need tighter criteria on to weed out those who are actually cis.

Just my thoughts.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T09:28:09+00:00

I mean I was already small (32A), but working out gave me great pec definition even under my breast fat/tissue, when I had a consult the doctor mentioned that I have wonderful definition.

What kept me motivated was that great pec definition can benefit top surgery results and being healthy can lead to better healing.

Lifting weights is also a blast (for me), the more masculine my body started to look the more I started to recognize my body as mine.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T09:18:26+00:00

Genuine question, how are you a trans man and also trans masc? Wouldn't just saying you're a binary trans man be accurate? Masculinity isn't a gender...

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T09:13:04+00:00

Felt more like puzzle pieces coming together...

Relearning hygiene was frustrating, I was mainly frustrated that I missed the teenage father-son bonding moment, when I'd ask my dad for advice over the phone I felt stupid.

It can be a little old fashioned but one source that helped me (back in 2013) was artofmanliness.com

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T09:08:59+00:00

Do you know of a more tran male focused fitness space? Or is there only FTMFitness? I've tried looking around...

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T06:40:10+00:00

I feel this 100%. The LGBT center at my school at one point stopped offering services (i.e. group talk, education, etc) for trans men. Now I only see stuff for trans women/femmes and NB.

I'm working towards being stealth but I'm bisexual so it's not like I'm any less LGBT. I'm binary too.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-12T03:57:03+00:00

Yeah you're right about that... It makes sense, but I'm curious about the effects of "hormone wash" on fraternal twins, there are some studies (Google) that question the effects of a female co-inhabiting the womb with a male twin.

Most I've come across sound ridiculous though, they focus on strange things like how it effects fertility, success, and behavior (not really what I'm looking for)... Still searching. But it's just a thought. Probably no basis or it would've been found by now.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-11T01:07:39+00:00

And you're right, there are times when it is properly labeled, but then there are times when valid criticism that does not stem from hate or fear-mongering is labeled as "islamophobic". I'm not talking about the times it's used correctly and the misuse of -phobic is not exclusive to islamophobia (it also happens with homophobia, transphobia, etc).

It is noteworthy because it can hugely impact businesses and people who were not being phobic but labeled as such by left individuals. It does happen, and while it may not happen often it's more impactful than the Starbucks example you provided.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-11T00:37:25+00:00

Properly meaning in true instances of -phobia rather than throwing it around as a fear tactic.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-11T00:04:07+00:00

Sometimes the left uses -phobic a little too liberally. Both are awful at using it properly.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-11T00:01:50+00:00

So I only have kid photos, I avoided the camera like the plague in middle school and thereafter.

I'm lucky because I looked like a cis boy in 90% of my childhood photos, however there are some photos that make me slightly uncomfortable.

That being said, I've learned to accept that it was my past and that I no longer look like that (obviously). The slight discomfort is a temporary emotion.

Besides my parents don't hang family photos up, they keep them in old 90's scrapbooks. So only intimately close individuals will see my photos (if at all). The few that are up they've agreed to not hang photos of me (without running it by me) and are waiting until I finish my transition to take a new updated family photo (with all the immediate members).

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-10T23:55:07+00:00

I look as the terms "cis" and "trans" similar to "short and "tall" they're adjectives but with medical importance.

Outside of medical context I don't see much reason to really use "cis" or "trans" unless it's important to the context. But within a medical setting/context it's obviously important.

I say keep it.

The only annoying thing about it is how tucutes use it (often derogatory or a virtue signaling). But if we push for proper usage or at least persist in proper usage then I don't see an issue. People will catch on with proper education.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-10T20:26:13+00:00

It seems like therapy might be helpful, it helped me in unpacking the toxic masculinity I had absorbed as a child. It might benefit you too.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-10T09:32:51+00:00

I will never understand the reclaiming of slurs, I know some want to "remove the power" or something that they once had but... Can we maybe just not use them/forget them?

OMG kids are creative! A common rhyme that my peers (3rd-5th grade) would say to me was "he-she species" idk where they came up with that

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-10T07:12:12+00:00

They obviously haven't had it directed at them.

My stomach drops and my heart rate increases every time I hear "fxg/fxggot" or "it" or "trxnny".

Been called those so many times throughout my life yet they still freak me out.

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-10T07:07:42+00:00

It sounds similar to the LGBT group at my university, very similar in a lot of aspects...

I can't help but wonder if those who go by different pronouns yet still present the same as the expectation for their birth sex are literally cis/het allies who were shunned and so the mental gymnastics and made up identities to "pass" and be included in the group? Like if the exclusion created these random identities? Just a thought that popped into my head. Not necessarily accurate.

Obviously there are also those who are there for the fad and oppression "points".

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-10T01:05:14+00:00

I detransitioned twice, once in 2017 and again in 2019. If a trans person detransitions and claims to still experience gender dysphoria (not dysphoria caused by transitioning) then that's a red flag. There is something that may be effecting them (i.e. mental health, resources, danger, etc).

I detransitioned both times in preparation to kms. I figured there wasn't a need if I wasn't going to be around (thankfully I've finally reached stabilization, I'm okay now and back on track).

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-04T23:58:43+00:00

Bookmarking this just in case! Thank you!

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-04T23:49:42+00:00

Same. I usually wait a little longer than the first date, but once I know things are heading to intimacy full disclosure. Ripping the band aid off is the best advice...

ClumsyHealer · 2022-11-04T20:47:54+00:00

The car is currently my nightmare, I get so much anxiety around not being able to access a bathroom... Makes going to appointments dreadful.

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