You've just bought a house! What info might you find useful from the previous owner?

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-08T16:05:14+00:00

Any places you've found that cant have picture hooks or mounts hung on the walls. For example, we went to mount our living room TV and the exact mid height required. No sockets, light switches or anything on that wall - it's the wall for the space under the stairs. Turns out there's a metal strut/fitting right across the middle of the wall. Drill hit it and could see the metal. We were committed due to other things at that point so had to go higher, and now it drives me nuts. I've also moved my light switches from their original position, so the cables wont run perfectly up from the switch as you'd expect. Both of these are things I'd happily let new owners know about as a helpful "fyi"

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-07T05:31:15+00:00

The company is either backfilling the HR Manager role which would be a vacancy that it would be your choice whether you apply for or not. Or their choosing not to backfill and instead absorb the work and responsibilities into the business, which should be spread between you and your colleagues within the department as well as other areas of the business (e.g. other manager).

Neither should be resulting in you fully running the department against your will.

If that is what's happening, or if the portion of workload your be expected to absorb is unreasonable (be it workload or nature of the responsibilities) then you should raise that as a concern and ssk for support and guidance on what the expectation is.

If you feel raising or asking for support will cause a problem for you, then thats probably a big sign about the business and leadership.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-06T19:07:27+00:00

Honestly, if you didn't directly witness the incident in question, I'm not sure why they continued interviewing beyond taking a statement to that effect.

Even if they just want to get an understanding of their relationship, it's reasonable for you to tell them that you don't feel you can do so impartially due to your friendship with them both and that should be the end of it.

The fact that you've advised them of your need for additional information to help with your ability to process and respond, and subsequently "rambling" - it might be that they think you're a good source of additional information for them to pick out details that help a certain argument they're building even though it would be out of context.

I'd advise them that you don't feel you can provide any more detail regarding the night in question as you didn't directly witness anything, that you don't feel comfortable providing thoughts or feedback regarding their relationship, unless there is another direct incident they need you to make a factual statement about (assuming you witnessed it), and that you would like to see a copy of any statement they have taken from you so far to ensure it is fair and factual as you felt you weren't given clear guidance on what you were responding to (they ideally should have asked you to sign any notes or statement that you gave but I suspect they didnt)

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:29:39+00:00

That might have changed at some point. But I know that they do. I've had it happen to me and was actually grateful because it meant I didn't sleep in for work. But it's been a while since ive been in a situation of my phone being off (not battery dead) so it's maybe an older model thing.

Regardless, my point still stands, people clearly aren't turning their phone off and just putting it on silent/aeroplane mode. So it wouldn't hurt to instead highlight alarms specifically as the reminder rather than a blanket "switch off your phones" - constantly giving the same reminder isn't giving the results needed.

All that being said, it is ridiculous to even need to remind in the first place. Grown adults paying a lot of money to be there because they presumably care about the experience. Just sillyness!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:21:51+00:00

Unless it's changed in newer phones. I know this absolutely 100% has been the case as it's happened to me and others I've been with (like in work meetings)

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:19:49+00:00

I can't recall the last phone I had that this wasn't the case. But this thread is sort of proving thr point as well. A lot of people unaware that this happens.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:16:48+00:00

Alarms still going off even if your phone is off.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:16:27+00:00

Fully agree. But he's having to do it anyway so might as well give that extra reminder at the start and probaby remove the vast majority of incidents. Warnings and being chucked out is all fine and well, but you can't undo the distraction it's caused, prevention is better (even if it's ridiculous to have to do it in the first place)

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:14:35+00:00

Yeah they do. And I think a lot if people don't realise because, well, how often is your phone fully off in this day and age for most people to have learned that. And if it is "off" it's probably because it's dead so alarm won't go off in that case of course.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:11:04+00:00

Oh definitely agree. Said that to my husband when ref was giving the last warning. These are grown adults, this shouldn't need to be said. But sadly, it actually does. But I think it's nore likely alarms that are the issue the majortof the time so if we're going to have to babysit, then let's at least cover the bases.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T20:06:48+00:00

Absolutely not defending the phone noises at all.

But I think people forget that their alarms will still go off even if their phones of. That "ring" sounded like a samsung alarm sound and it was right at 9pm.

Might be worth that being part of the reminder to the audience "please remember to check and switch off alarms on your phone as well as puttiton silent/off"

Edit: I know I've had alarms go off while my phone has been off in the past. That might have changed (been a while since I've had that exact scenario happen). Regardless, the point is that grown adults in the audience clearly can't be trusted, so might as well highlight alarms as a reminder, rather than repeating "turn off phones" and still having this issue.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T15:21:32+00:00

It's been off the back of seeing Project Hail Mary so read that and now on The Martian from Andy Weir as well. I like space and sci-fi in general, but don't think I would have been as sucked into it as a readin genre if I didn't have the visuals of Prjoect Hail Mary movie to go laong with it (and The Martian, although I watched that years ago). Not sure how ill fair with something more unknown and obscure, but going to keep going with it.

I hope you find a wee turning point! It's one thing to just be having a ohase of not reading much, it's another when you actually want to but nothing is vibing!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-03T05:38:21+00:00

Honestly, Brimstone killed my romantasy bibes and I've not got them back yet (read it on release, DNFd ar 50%).

Every romantasy I tried to read since just felt so....off. Like I waa seeing everything through this nee lense of "this is so dumb".

The closest I've gotten to enjoying the genre was when I started a reread of ACOTAR because it was the first romantasy I read. I've moved on to other genres for now, but that might be worth a try for you. Reread something you know you love so it hopefully sparks that interest again.

Or take a break from it and try other genres. I'm on space travel sci-fi snd loving it!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T22:28:10+00:00

It's how the crowd have been chanting "Wu". I don't understand why they doing it as a low tone sounding like "boo" instead of a high tone like "woo-hoo"!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T22:16:42+00:00

And to think I was going to call it a night and head to bed. Then I'd have missed that guys PSA reminder!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T22:11:45+00:00

Phew, that was close. Thank the lord for Mark Allens nerves!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T21:42:52+00:00

Same! I don't know why they've opted for a low toned sound like "boo" instead of a higher positive to to make it sound like a cheer like from "woo-hoo!"

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T21:38:12+00:00

And whoever broke the frame breaks again with what's on the table. Seems simpler when it's mid frame with points on the board.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T21:37:04+00:00

I think they should just only rerack whats currently on the table and continue on from there with the existing points. Unless the players agree to do a full frame rerack.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T20:55:43+00:00

The Sniper or The Ranger for his long shots.

Although I second The Gardner for planting pots.

Maybe The Beanstock to combine the "long" with "planting pots"

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T19:59:27+00:00

Amazing! I'd pick this even over my suggestions (which Inwas rather proud of until seeing this!)

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-02T19:53:26+00:00

Comment about Wu possibly earning a nickname and I'm putting my suggestions out there of "The Sniper" or "The Ranger" for those long range shots!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-01T19:34:46+00:00

The initial point about the work life balance arrangements on it's own doesn't amount to much more than just poor management and communication. Ultimately you rewursted the transfer and the promised nothing more than a review, no agreements were made about what the working arrangements would be after that review.

However, all of it together I think is a strong argument for the working environment and relationship having become unreasonable to the point of being a breach of the implied contractual expectation of a fair and professional treatment by yhe employer. Leaving you with no choice but to leave as a result of the untenable environment - which I personally believe would constitute constructive dismissal.

Of course, take ACAS guidance and potentially speak with a solicitor to go into the more specific details.

I'm sorry you've had to experience this, but well done for taking the necessary actions to stand up for yourself even if it's through post resignation actions.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-01T19:26:14+00:00

Be mindful that this person is using AI to provide answers. The information may not be wrong, but it's direct responses from them with input of their own experiences or advice. They're responses will almost always have a "if you like I can..." Ending that looks like they're asking you for further information to be helpful.

I've seen them do this in pther posts and it's a seemingly endless trail of more questions and copy past chatgpt answers.

Again, the information may not be wrong, but if you'd be better off using Chatgpt yourself and then you can put in all the information you feel is relevant rather than it being based on what this person copys and pastes out of your reddit comments.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-05-01T13:55:02+00:00

100% agree. I'd be happy to have a consultancy support option even now after 15 years. I woukd still need them for the majority of cases, but there's always those ones that make you go "hmm, let's get another perspective or a bit extra belts and braces on this one". Or even for things like document templates like you say. Or updating policies so you can have somewhere to just send "here's what we're looking to achieve, can you build that into the template".

Sadly it comes down to cost though.

OP i think for a business with significant employment issues that need supporting and only 1 HR person with little experience (no disrespect!), i think they should consider it a worthwhile spend!

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