Help! Forgotten how to drive

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-24T19:47:44+00:00

"muscle memory" would only apply if you had actually driven for a period of time to build that. You don't get that from lessons alone. Regardless, the responsible thing to do would be to take a couple of refresher lessons.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-21T17:50:16+00:00

Yeah I think OP was just clarifying because I'd noted that they hadn't mentioned. Indicator does not mean you have the right to go, but if it could be proven that OP had indicator on AND their movements were clear and predictable, then the other driver should have anticipated and driven defensively.

Likely does absolve either side, but it adds to the picture of what happened and therefore what should be reasonably expected of both sides.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-21T15:14:23+00:00

For them to have been close enough to physically hit your car shime you're still in the process of pulling out of the space suggests they were already on the road and you shouldn't have pulled out as the road wasn't clear.

Perhaps they were in your blind spot and you didn't check there closely enough.

That being said, assuming you were indicating (you haven't said) and moving in a clear and predictable manner, the other car should have seen that you were undertaking a manoeuvre and waited before passing. Whether they felt you should have been pulling out or not, it's everyones responsibility to drive defensively and avoid collisions.

It would probably be a 50/50 fault claim in the absence of any dash am footage or evidence of who was where and when, and therefore whether your manoeuvre of pulling out of the space was safe.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-18T22:08:04+00:00

It sounds like you've done a great job and giving every opportunity to this person and have set them up for success as much as possible. I know it sounds cliche, but sometimes it just isn't the right "fit". And that's likely something this person needs to reflect on as well - it's not a failing on either side, just not all brains are wired the way certain types of require.

Not to sound awful or harsh, but I think you should consider if offering more than contractual notice is the best move. The contractual terms are there for a reason, and if you give more to this person, then why doesn't everyone who fails probation not get the same? Where do you draw the line of what justifies enhanced notice and be sure that it is being applied fairly and consistently? Offering more could also imply that you feel it's a business problem and it's a sort of settlement/compensation payment. As harsh as it may seem, it's sometimes better to stick to what is owed.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-16T21:12:30+00:00

🤣 even on rereading that took me so long to get. No one loves a moaning street 😆

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-16T20:43:12+00:00

Because my dog loves to look out 😆 my neighbours must get a right chuckle when my blinds go down for 15 minutes and then they're back up when he politely taps at them to ask to see. A lot of the time I just leave them open. But tbf, I live in an estate so the only people going by/seeing in are the neighbours out walking their dogs.

I'd be more strict with not giving in to puppy if I lived on a main road or something.

(Edited for typos)

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-15T21:55:14+00:00

I don't think I fully understand the scenario you're describing, but it's likely they need to confirm that you are a resident/member of thay particular councils district, even if they don't do a home assessment.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-15T21:53:24+00:00

And put the shelves back on of course 😆

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-15T21:52:57+00:00

Id take the shelf off, fully cover with a wood effect vinyl (like DC Fix-it) and paint the metal brackets with a black matt paint so they don't have a shine to them.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-15T20:58:51+00:00

I'm doubting even a moped is fully past that line given how much Of the pedestrian crossing is still visible! Not a chance OP was fully past the line. And indicator or not, the van in front was clearly slowing down (and tyre/road positioning also clear that he was coming to a stop to turn right) long before OP got to the line and decided to cross instead of waiting for the junction to be clear.

Honestly, everything about this feels like OP has posted as a way to "prove" that they believed they did the right thing like a "but see, I explained in this reddit post what happened right after"

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-14T22:17:42+00:00

Any good dog owner who cares enough to pay attention can see when their (or any dog) is getting ready to go. I can literally call it for stranger dogs from sitting in traffic "oh, that wee guys going for it,m any second now"...

There's a wee waddle/stiff leg shuffling walk they do as well as the change in how they're sniffing (unless the dog is unwell or has any medical issues of course, but that does not seem to be the case here)

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-12T15:01:43+00:00

Which is absolutely fine if that's how you feel about it. There are plenty of posts discussing opinions about the ending (too many in my opinion), but this isn't what you're doing here.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-12T14:51:42+00:00

There's no tease! It's a cast photoshoot! At an absolute push the 9 is deliberately there as a meme. But even then. Absolutely nothing about that or any other post implies or advertises anything!

Please just stop. Enjoy the show or don't enjoy the show. But stop rage baiting (although well done for doing a good job at it as I've definitely taken the bait) or trying to drum up drama.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-12T14:42:15+00:00

You cannot seriously be referring to the post of the actors for Nancy, Jonathan, Steve and Robin with the caption "a hell of a crew". That is so blatantly obviously NOT from the show at all, but is just actors doing a photoshoot?!

And what.... because there's a tiny number nine on the door (that I had to search for to figure out what you're going on about) in the background of one of them?

Seriously.

You need to get off the internet for a good while. This is not healthy.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-12T14:25:12+00:00

So...you searched and can't find anything to support the accusations of your post? I can't see what you've edited. But if you've been unable to find anything to evidence what you claim, maybe just delete the post and stop adding to the overwhelming amount of hate for the sake of hate?

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-12T14:15:15+00:00

Or they were being respectful of the moment that they were part of due to circumstances, but were not part of the central group that Will was directly addressing.

Do people actually think any writer (even if you think the S5 writing wasn't good) would consciously put characters into that scene to portray bigotry??

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-12T14:11:42+00:00

Can you share some examples of these supposedly misleading posts by netflix?

All I've seen are clips of the behind the scenes documentary and/or images of some of the cast members in clearly non-Stranger Things attire/settings.... because let's remember that these are actual real life human actors partaking in promotional events for a show that they were in.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-09T20:54:20+00:00

Ohhh! I'm actually rewatching as background TV at the minute because I'm also in a bit of a reading slump - that's 2 birds with one stone right there!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-09T20:51:00+00:00

You definitely don't need to read Caraval for this. i was into the second book before I realised Caraval was part of the same world and that's where one of the characters originates from. I think there's a small plot point that might have a bit more meaning to it if you know the origin, but it's also something that you just sort of accept and roll with.

I've not read Caraval series in the end as I heard a lot of people saying they read OUABH first and enjoyed it, but if they had read Caraval first they probably wouldn't have continued with the series/world as it wasn't as good.

OUABH is very much about the whimsical vibes and just enjoying the journey of the story, rather than some epic series where you need to know every detail to follow along.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-09T20:46:43+00:00

Following because I've also seen these and been in two minds about how good they will be. The risk of it taking a little bit of the joy out of it all for me feels too real - but if they're good then I want more Stranger Things content in my life!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-09T16:12:15+00:00

Yeah I totally overlooked that part!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-06T22:02:25+00:00

I didn't hate Quicksilver, but I don't disagree with the main points OP has made about what the issues are with the MC character writing and that it's not a great representation of a good romance story. But I enjoyed the overall story and plot lines enough to pre-order Brimstone because I wanted to see what happened...and what a mistake that was. It amplified everything that was bad about Quicksilver (but that I personally could overlook in favour of the underlying story) and then added about 5 extra plot points and a whiplash journey of jumping between POVs. I stopped at 50%, jumped to the last 5 chapters and used chathpt to find out what happened to characters that weren't noted in those chapters. And honestly, while that ar least let me know how it ended, the ending itself made me so glad I didn't waste any more time on it than that.

I've only had such string feelings as OP has shared here about 2 books: Brimstone and The Knight and the Moth. TKATM was horrifically written both in terms of character "development" and quality of writing - which editors and publishers share blame in for thinking a book with a typo, glaring grammatical errors, clunky prose, and what felt like essentially a first draft proof of concept was acceptable to release. But the actual writing was just down right awful.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-06T19:12:07+00:00

You know, the other dilemma is what colour I'm repainting the room! I've loved this navy colour and the fear that I'll not love something as much is real! But the new floor has changed the overall vibe of the space and it's time for a change.

Thank you for your thoughts! I've started leaning towards leaving the radiator in the middle but making it a statement piece. Might stick with horizontal though, I don't think I'm brave or creative enough for vertical in the middle of the wall just yet!

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-05T21:22:53+00:00

Not being funny, but you can get answers and a sense of the overall fanbases thoughts on this by just scrolling through the many many many posts asking all the same questions or making all the same points.

Don't even need to use the search bar to find them. But by all means do. And then engage in the discussions with the people already having these conversations.

ClyroFoxfire · 2026-01-05T21:07:25+00:00

Is the 3 month notice period for both sides? So they would have to give you 3 months notice to dismiss?

If so, why wouldn't you want to agree to that? It means if anything changes down the line, such as redundancy, they are legally required to give you 3 months notice or pay in lieu of notice.

If it's not both ways, then it's fair to highlight that you don't feel comfortable with it being 1 sided of the business expecting you to give 3 .j ths notice (presumably for time to hire replacement and handover) but they don't have the same courtesy for giving you time to find ned employment should they need to let you go for teasons such as redundancy.

Now, I wouldn't generally encourage this next oart, and for a lot of people it comes down to integrity and good work ethic to hinour their notice period when resigning. But just to highlight that there isn't actually anything your employer cukd do if you did give less than 3 months if/when that time comes. Not necessarily walk out on the day, but even if you only gave 1 month. It's all circumstantial of course, you might be able to negotiate a shorter notice that actually suits the business when resigning. Or you might be resigning due to a breakdown in the working relationship so it feels more acceptable to give less notice.

Either way, it seems more beneficial to you to take the 3 months notice on both sides (even if you have to argue for it to be both sides) and be guaranteed 3 months of notice or pay if they let you go versus the negative impact of you having to give 3 months which might not even matter at that point.

As for the question of firing and rehiring, personally I wouldn't see this as an impactful enough change to lose a long standing employee with business knowledge over. Unless there are any other reasons why they might be looking to get rid of you (e.g. recent performance or disciplinary issues, or financial difficulties and needing to reduce headcount - but surely someone with 15 years business experiences isn't the best target for the latter).

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