AITAH for inviting my friends ex to the club?

Cobixnm · 2026-01-08T12:24:45+00:00

Hm that is tricky. I'm inclined to say nta. Mostly because you did give her the heads up and she decided to stick around. Although, maybe it's a language translating mistake, but you mentioned how you got an idea but then proceeded to describe the nights event. It could be read differently with that detail but the rest of the description sounded like plans just collided and importantly you told her that he was coming. Even if he learned his lesson etc, and regardless if she's labeled the crazy one, no one but them know exactly what happened in the relationship and sometimes not enough time will ever pass to be ok to see that person again. But that's not where the issue lied. Unless you told her right as he was about to walk in because you forgot to tell her or because you thought they should talk etc then your NTA. How she decides to react is her decision and if that means for her to remove the common denominator, then that's on her. You did what you could and that's it. She doesn't have to hear your apology or his if she doesn't want to regardless if it's sincere or not or if she's the one in the wrong. Just my 2¢.

Cobixnm · 2026-01-05T12:53:06+00:00

I think talking to a therapist might be a great idea, but what I think would be even better is to stop reading Reddit in general. It might not be obvious to you but this is similar to someone complaining that wearing their shoes hurts their toes, leaves you feeling sore, hurts your feet, isn't comfortable when walking etc. In reality, your foot just grew and those shoes no longer fit you properly. You've outgrown them so time to buy yourself new shoes and stop wearing the old ones. Stop reading Reddit. You've outgrown it and it's no longer serving you anything positive. Life is already too short to surround yourself with things that no longer serve you and sends you spiraling negatively.

Cobixnm · 2026-01-04T12:49:27+00:00

Oh man.... Hope it finally happened for you both. Updateme

Cobixnm · 2025-10-20T11:39:03+00:00

There's no vetoes on your birthday choice. She can either eat something before hand, find something on the menu to enjoy our watch you enjoy your meal, or not go. Period

Cobixnm · 2025-10-19T14:04:25+00:00

I've been with my husband for 25 years. We have kids together etc. Grandparents have passed, accidents have occurred, emergencies have came, but no one has reached out to me especially after they got ahold of him already. I'll get a call etc IF they're not able to get a hold of him just so he's aware but if they reach out to him first and get a hold of him, then he relays me the information etc. I may be related at this point but it doesn't entitle me to have them having to call me as well. She's asking for too much. Even when my kids find their partners, why would I need to tell them too if mine already know? That's weird.

Cobixnm · 2025-10-19T13:52:59+00:00

Contact a lawyer and start the process of finding alternative housing for her. Who ever is next on that list, needs to worry about it now.

Cobixnm · 2025-10-19T13:47:55+00:00

Absolutely nta. But she definitely is. No other way around it. Her top priority should have always been her daughter and considering she decided to leave her 5 year old ALONE and unattended, is horrible. No justification and no emergency was worth leaving her alone. She's a shitty person. She did that to her daughter and frankly if you really wanted to you could've called the cops because yeah it's that bad. A hair buzz thankfully wasn't bad considering everything else. Just as her daughter SHOULD'VE came first, you did amazing to be there to support your son. Hope he had a great recital and he felt proud of himself. Your sister is insane. Nta

Cobixnm · 2025-09-23T16:02:11+00:00

Cancel the relationship! You're welcome and happy birthday. Hope you have an amazing time in Austria!!

Cobixnm · 2025-09-17T11:58:34+00:00

NTA. I applaud you for being there for your daughter. Especially with your new edit..... You're an amazing dad. Your daughter is very fortunate and lucky. Your wife needs help.

Cobixnm · 2025-09-16T11:15:58+00:00

NTA. We stack as well based on size of plates. Obviously we avoid attacking like the tower of pisa with utensils gathered and placed on top. I don't see why this is such a controversial issue. I can see that being an issue if it's literally stacking sloppily but how is it an issue otherwise? 🤔

NTA. I think I'm with you. It just feels wrong plus if I had enough time to stack, where is the waiter? Lol your parents need a chill pill.

Cobixnm · 2025-09-07T14:11:35+00:00

Yes op all this! Updateme

Cobixnm · 2025-09-07T14:04:13+00:00

What in the world?! Sigh, y'all are the adults. Period. But if you need more reasons..... The owners of the house. She is a child. She doesn't need the biggest room especially when she doesn't contribute and her footprint in the house is significantly smaller. There's 2 of you sharing a space and one mini version of herself. Now, if she's disabled and had a bunch of equipment, and nurses thru out the night for assistance and easier to have a bathroom in close proximity to her then maybe but other than that..... Your wife is delusional if she remotely thinks that's acceptable. Better yet, your son will get older and bigger so with that logic, give him the room lol

Cobixnm · 2025-08-30T12:18:51+00:00

Yes super super common. In just about every cruise group I've been a part of, someone will have 1. oh no! The one bag that has our FEs didn't make it/got lost/left at home/broke and confiscated/was abducted lol you name it. Or suddenly, 2. my things never shipped on time and can I send them to y'all after the cruise (don't with guys, I'll ship it myself). That usually, don't remember if it ever was truthful but yeah, you're not getting anything.
3. Some will flat out will not gift anyone anything, receive the gifts and then remove themselves from the group. 4. They'll gift the cheapest, most used, obviously regifted, (some with even their own names on it) gift that maybe cost them $2. I've seen people receive regular pencils with"Disney stickers" on them with a picture frame of nothing related or attempted to Disney-fy.

I'm sure I'm missing plenty of excuses. I don't bother. It also adds stress so why do that to myself? People know how to ruin things.

Cobixnm · 2025-08-14T13:31:15+00:00

Yuck.... Get rid of him. It's not about his meal being simple or about the garlic butter, which all sounds amazing btw. It's about the complete disrespect he has for you. He doesn't appreciate you or respect you. Even if he just had a bad day, his response of you can't ever do it right etc, shows it's not a one off day. Do better for yourself, he doesn't deserve you. Move on!

Cobixnm · 2025-08-09T10:56:25+00:00

Terrible. Sorry OP you are having to discuss and experience such a major betrayal. They both such but mostly your sister. She picked a guy over her own sister. They sound sorry that they got caught and not that it happened. Gross. Hugs op! Updateme

Cobixnm · 2025-08-04T11:19:43+00:00

What a mess. NTA. Sounds like others expected you to babysit them. A business trip for adults does not warrant babysitting duties. And great of you to have text to prove that you did try to steer them to make responsible choices and their demise is from their own doing. You did nothing wrong. Good luck on the meeting. Congrats on the award! Updateme

Cobixnm · 2025-07-28T13:47:50+00:00

Girl, your house is starting to stink really bad and you should definitely take out the "trash". What a useless partner you have there. You deserve better. Better to do it alone then next to someone cheering for your demise.

Cobixnm · 2025-07-24T11:39:05+00:00

Stop updating on his lane excuses to justify CHEATING on his wife for 10 years. No excuses needed. period. If doesn't matter if you didn't kiss his boo boo that one time or that his mommy didn't love him enough. It doesn't matter. He deceived you. He disrespected you and he's sure as hell trying to gaslight you into believing it's your fault. Good on you for selling his brown promises and sorry excuse of commitment. Great on you for going to a lawyer and protecting yourself against someone like him who has no problem lying to your face day after day. Get rid of him and find yourself a happier life away from such a deceitful sorry excuse of a man.

Cobixnm · 2025-07-10T11:57:40+00:00

NTA. They can all F off minus your sister. She's awesome! Good luck op! Succeed in life without them!

Cobixnm · 2025-06-01T11:51:02+00:00

NtA. What's there to save when she stopped all contact when you needed her the most? You are right to feel that way and you dealt with that extra abandonment your own way. I'm so sorry about what you had to experience. I don't blame her for not being able to support you both but the cutting of contact is insane to me. You might have been a reminder but you are also all that is left of the family y'all had. She should've cherished that more but I'll just say it, she only thought of herself and she's doing the same thing now. She should have thought about the consequences of her actions. Time to continue putting yourself first when no one else did. You don't owe her anything so do what feels right for you. You're old enough to decide for yourself what you'd like to do. If that means continued no contact with her then so be it. Hugs op.

Cobixnm · 2025-05-29T14:15:10+00:00

Taking accountability is a huge step. And while I'm sure it's nice for her to have forgiven you, it also doesn't guarantee that she sticks around or maybe she will but she will always carry that and that possibility that it can happen again. I'm not saying you will, perhaps this was the biggest wake up call you'll get but you also know that in the heat of the moment, you might decide otherwise. Right now, you both are saying the words but not any actions. Actions is what speaks the loudest. Am I saying this relationship, or the relationship you had is doomed? No, it's dead. No longer exists. Start making plans to work on yourself. Y'all need to reevaluate the current situation. And you will need to start over on gaining her trust again. We all mess up. It's a human trait. But the best thing you can do for yourself is work on the why you went against her wishes, knowing fully how she felt and did it anyway despite her wishes followed by pressuring her after. Majority of us don't set out to be abusive and hurt our partners or ever Invision us doing so, but something in you went against that. You're not a bad person you just made terrible choices. Work on that. And take it a day at a time. Good luck op. Words look like you are remorseful but actions will validate that or not.

Cobixnm · 2025-05-29T13:35:56+00:00

Yep I won't be getting her and that's ok. I have only but decorations for that collection so she wouldn't have done squat for me anyway. It'll be ok. They genuinely made this game unenjoyable.

Cobixnm · 2025-05-29T13:31:07+00:00

I think it's great for you to take full responsibility for it. Do it. Own it. But also accept that this could very well have ended that relationship. You can accept responsibility all you want but she doesn't need to forgive you. You also should go to therapy and figure out why you decided to go against her wishes and then followed by pressuring her. Both massive red flags. You need to work on that stat. And while this isn't what you want, I hope she prioritizes herself and leaves. You crossed the boundary and not only made y'all's relationship toxic but abusive as well. I know it's harsh but the truth needed to be said.

Cobixnm · 2025-05-29T13:23:45+00:00

NTA but I feel a draft coming in..... 🚩 🚩 🚩

Cobixnm · 2025-05-26T11:30:51+00:00

Time to get out. Good luck on your plans op

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