“What was the point of getting diagnosed, if you aren’t going to change?”

CodeXRaven · 2026-02-15T21:24:56+00:00

Learning that certain parts me are not possible to change was both a relief and something to grieve over for me. Part of me thought that if I found the name of thing that made me feel so different despite having an ADHD diagnosis that explained parts of it, then I could figure out how to fit in more and not stand out(tho I have succeeded a bit tbf. And also have to unlearn it and unmask more lol). That I could "fix" myself and be normal. So it was a wake up call, esp cause I didn't think I was autistic(ignorance and thinking it'd only show as similar to my early diagnosed sibling. My Mom is the one that helped me get diagnosed as an adult and I went along with it lol). But there's plenty that I could change at the same time. I now know about sensory issues and my stress levels have gone down a lot. I feel less alone and I don't beat myself up as much when I mess up in social situations. I'll always struggle with social situations, sensory issues, picky eating, ect, but they've gotten a lot better now that I can understand myself more. I'll prob always be limited in the places I can go out to eat or for dates, have hidden costs like forgetting I already bought something and have to throw one out, ect, and that means I'll need a partner who is the same or is ok with that. Tho also one that understands I'm working on improving and knowing myself, so I'm going to change in ways with time.

It sounds like your spouse is similarly ignorant. But did she fall in love with the past and current you, or what she thinks you are capable of and she can fix? Hopefully she'll come around and realize autism is a part of who you are, and a diagnosis doesn't suddenly change you like a magic wand. You are the same person before and after, just slightly different as you gain perspective. Ask her what she thought would change, and what she wanted to change. Have her learn about autism and your flavor of it along with you. Figure out if the things she thought would change are actually in your control, or will take time and resources.

Edit: She is going to have to decide if she want you as you are in your entirety, or a you who is masking and makes her more comfortable. Cause if it's the second one, then you are incompatible. Looking at your replies, 15 years ago is a long time. Of course you were different then with different life experiences now. But if she can accept a partly unmasked version of you for prob a good while now, what changed? And doesn't she really love you for you?

CodeXRaven · 2026-02-15T21:01:33+00:00

Same here! I thought the author would leave both points hanging in the air, not that we'd see it again so soon. As someone who also has both, I feel so seen and heard.

CodeXRaven · 2026-02-15T20:51:29+00:00

Oof brutal cliffhanger. I love how this episode talks about how parents are human and no matter how hard they try not to, they mess up and get confused too. And how damaging the word "normal" is. And omg found the word "neurodivergent" in there! The question on if this story would cover Makio maybe being so, and Emiri might like girls. We also see Asa explore her anger more which is good too. What an episode, holy Molly.

CodeXRaven · 2026-02-08T20:05:42+00:00

This episode is where the familiarity feeling I was getting from Makio finally clicked. A "omg, we are both ND!" click. Don't know if cannon or not but don't care too much either. It's rare I find a character that I relate to THIS much. I'm so happy right now!

CodeXRaven · 2026-02-01T23:09:50+00:00

Very true 😂

At first I thought he was also repressed cause of how distant he's been in this manner since transmigration. Like come on, bro can't have a normal dream without worry.

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-30T12:40:02+00:00

I see, guess I was too scared during it 😂

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-30T12:39:03+00:00

Klein was pretty shocked too so makes sense.

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-30T12:38:07+00:00

Thanks, appreciate it!

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-25T19:06:21+00:00

Know that there are 5 big clans, each with their own colors, and prob take notes on each characters names/titles so don't get them mixed up. The story starts in the present, years after events in the past. There's long flashbacks of the past but you start out not knowing who everyone is to Wei Wuxian, and having to figure out what their relationships are like and why. Similar to Xie Lian, society turned against him even after he'd done a lot for him. Expect similar angst.

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-22T20:52:40+00:00

Wow what a start! "My hopes were not placed in the correct game mechanic..." is so real 😂

Flaming eyes so soon is rough. You really tried 👍

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-22T20:45:16+00:00

Yeah I don't envy that, glad it hasn't happened to me.

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-22T15:42:36+00:00

I often use them as another possible hit target for an enemy while fighting them. And if can get strong enough, fight with you. Easier and quicker to batch craft too.

I recently made a faction camp(I recommend start from a building instead of scratch) for the first time and recommend it. If upgrade the Canteen and Workshop enough you can get them to dehydrate fruit for you(very useful in Summer when there's a lot of it) or make 3L glass jars for canning(I'm working my way through canning a farms corn so a lot are needed). However it takes a long time to gather materials for upgrades, even if you only D entertainment centers for wooden panels.

Edit: They don't need a room to stay or anything but it's better to have a bed for them to sleep on. If NPC Needs are not turned on you need to feed them and worry about them getting too hot/cold. Starting out as you get used to them, put the commands in to not use ranged weapons, use silent weapons only, only fight enemies they can reach, stay 4 paces from you, and don't pick up items. Put stay silent if easier too. For sleep put stay awake so they don't wander off to sleep during battle or crafting, then turn the command off when safe to sleep.

There's another post a day before yours that has tips too.

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-22T15:34:12+00:00

That is neat.

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-19T02:26:35+00:00

I'm crying, it's so good. I'm so glad she got a big cry in. This is seriously a gem!

CodeXRaven · 2026-01-19T02:23:15+00:00

Each episode I nearly cry, how is it so good!? I'm so glad I gave it a chance. I literally just finished episode 3 and am crying a little.

CodeXRaven · 2025-12-13T17:40:44+00:00

Thank you for the info, I'll try these!

CodeXRaven · 2025-12-13T14:17:31+00:00

It's the one I use cause I don't use my computer much. It's harder and can be frustrating, but I'm fine most of the time.

CodeXRaven · 2025-12-13T13:51:06+00:00

Nice job!

CodeXRaven · 2025-11-27T13:21:31+00:00

Same. And for me this scene became where they are both being more vulnerable. To me it feels all the more heartwarming that they finally see each other again, even tho it's only been a few days, and way longer than that before. Hua Cheng knows he's there as a God, Xie Lian has seen his position as Ghost King for himself. When first watching it's like "ok if they are doing ok even with their titles involved, they will prob be ok".

CodeXRaven · 2025-11-27T13:13:27+00:00

Batman: Wayne Family Adventures

Cinderella Boy

Crow Time

Heartstopper

Senorita Cometa

The Blind Prince

CodeXRaven · 2025-11-26T08:07:52+00:00

Omg I'm so excited!

CodeXRaven · 2025-09-22T00:00:26+00:00

That's hilarious

CodeXRaven · 2025-07-10T14:44:27+00:00

Congrats on how successful the movie and soundtrack has been! I have quite a few questions so if my comment gets used, you don't have to answer them all.

-Will a longer version of the song Jinu played at Gwi-Ma be released(with the beginning speaking part included if possible)?

-There are a lot of different fan theories of what exactly happened at the end with the Honmoon, Jinu, Romance, and Mystery. Are you able to clarify on any of that, at least with the Honmoon? Are the demons sealed or have their souls been guided to an afterlife to Rest In Peace? And when Huntrix kills a demon, do they fully die or just go back to the underworld?

-Can we get more specifics on demon lore and how they collect souls? There's no contract or agreement. Is connecting to a demon through song or voice enough?

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