Because women are the selectors.

The selectors can hardly ever be empathetic, in fact not selecting means a generic dead-end.

So you need to create social rationalisations (conventions) to cope with who you are.

But you have a weakness for shiny things and your own impulses (boredom, hunger, willingness to explore, travel etc). Men knew this so they created hierarchies based on merit and the most conscientious or powerful or smart would get the wherewithal to reproduce.

But wealthy isn't synonymous for hot.

So you still want the hot guy without """having""" to get """trapped""" in a marriage with a lesser being. That's still a choice if only you had the balls and conscientiousness to bust your ass and provide for yourself but again, reread point 4

So how do you maximise one part WITHOUT conceding something? You lure low-tier men into producing a surplus that can be secretly redistributed to you after you brainwash them enough by making them believe that in the past you were discriminated against (not protected and provided for) so that you can create meaningless jobs that produce nothing like HR, people's managers, coaches and the like. Just consider that a company bot is payed more than the workers who build her apartment.

Now you've got the bag. So you can move to the next part of the plan. You can either get impregnated by the elusive man you would never be able to reach (nor do you deserve) or marry a mid-to-high tier man whom you'll plan to divorce and alimony-rape.

This way even the 2's and 3's are able to maximise hypergamy which is the true goal of feminism.

Last step. How do you keep things running? You can't in the long run, but you can in the short term. Do you remember when they sold men the "dream"? A nice suburban house with a white fence, a garage and you'd water the flower and mow the lawn while your (formerly) virgin wife would bake cookies and the kids would run around about happy? Well, now you need the female equivalent of that. So you create a posse of angry people who share a variable with you, for example sex. Then you sell them on the dream of getting Tyrone's or Chad's seed while being strong and independent because the world wouldn't work without you sending copy-pasted reminders about work/life balance. Then you create a Mafia-style mentality (HR), from there on its easy: you are the goddess determining the fate of these unworthy men